<P>Good boy!<P>Now, about the thing w/ Dazed......everyone's hurting here, remember? Sometimes you have to skip things and not strike out. You can learn a lot from Dazed, too. I know this. I have.<P>Sometimes we get a little rough w/ each other, too. Even though we care. Just look at some of the things you've said to Nicole.<P>Got it???? <P>Hang in there.<BR>Lori<p>[This message has been edited by lostva (edited November 26, 1999).]

Hello Arik,<P>Well, I think you've gotten all the great support and advice you could possibly want here, but...<P><B>ARE YOU GOING TO STOP SEEING THE OW NOW?</B><P>Hey, those who've betrayed have all been there (GOD, I hate myself when I say that because it disguists me to no end!), but let me tell you, until you <B>stop the fantasy</B> and realize that this is <B>real life</B> with <B>real responsibilites</B> and begin to live our lives with some <B>dignity, honor and respect </B> then nothing can change. <P>I sit here now in the middle of this horrible mess that my H and I created because of <B>infidelity we both committed over the years</B>. There is no infidelity <B>now</B>, but *damn* if we don't both suffer from the effects <B>every day of our lives</B>!!!<P>Think very, very carefully, my friend. What you do now will speed or slow down the process that must occur in order for healing to begin. <P>I've been where you are right now, and it dusguists me to the core. You will be where I am one day and you'll see it, I promise. Even if you end up with the OW (who, by the way is not perfect, nowhere near it, and may be or not be your true soulmate <blech>, which reminds me, when are you gonna change your name???)... to get back to my point... you may end up with her, but believe me, reality will set in and you will look back on these days in horror. <P>I am sorry you're there right now. It's a scary horrible place to be.<P>Now, I must try to remember your W's name so I can check her thread out. Unfortunately, we all remember your name because it's um, well, uh, dare I say it.... impossible in the real world. Again, please, please change your name!!!<P>~Sheryl<BR><P>------------------<BR>Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss it you are among the stars!!

Arik... Arik... Arik...<P>You <B>still</B> don't believe <B>we</B> love you...<P>You know something... <B>I have</B> actually, physically heard and seen God! He has actually and physically given me a hug and said that He would be there for me.<P>And when I opened my eyes... it was <B><I>God</I></B>... <B>in the heart of my Wife</B>... talking to me... hugging me... and saying "I'll be there for you." (When my wife was sane.)<P>Does a true "God" leave us to survive by faith alone?... Look inside yourself... don't look at Chrissie (she is not you!)<P>Blessed are those who believe... and have not seen...<P>Think about it... <BR>Do you have faith or belief in the sun rising tomorrow?...<BR>Scientists make me believe... God in my faith let's me know it will!<P>Do you see the wind?...<BR>Scientists make me believe... it changes the weather... God says it refreshes my soul!<P>Do you fear the ocean waters?...<BR>Scientists make me believe the laws of physics that control it... God says He has the everlasting water!<P>God doesn't make you suffer... Satan does that... Ohhh so much!<P>You don't have to be <B>alone</B>!!!!<BR>Helloooooo! <B>We</B> are here...<BR>More importantly <B>Nicole</B> is here too! <P>God gave you <B>free will</B> (your first post said it)... don't stand in shame behind it... <BR>Only Satan... is pushing you to suffer through times of pain... and saying in his insidious way..."I'll <I>send</I> someone to be there for you, like the friend that happened to show up..."<P>God is actually and physically there for us... open your eyes... in our pyhsical beings God is talking to you...<P> Humor rarely comes from my lips now a days... but this is a thoughtful one...I don't tell jokes well... but let me try this one...<P>There was a very stubborn, yet religious man who, during a huge driving rain storm, was trapped in his house due to the great flooding. First... the police drove through town, and with bull horns told everyone to evacuate. The man just yelled back at them... "I'll be OK. My Lord will hear and protect me!" The rains continued... relentlessly. Later on some rescue workers... in boats as the waters had risen... were going house to house to rescue the few who remained. The man, callin out from he upstairs window, again said... "I'll be OK. My Lord will hear and protect me!" The rain still kept on coming down in torrents. The man had to climb on top of the roof. There he saw a news helicopter come and approach him... The people in the helicopter yelled down to him... we'll lower you a rope... but again the man said... "I'll be OK. My Lord will hear protect me!". In the end... the man perished. When he went to heaven's gates... he was so proud of himself for standing by <B>his</B> version of faith. When God asked him why he was there... the man told him of the police, the rescue workers and the helicopter... All GOD could say to the man was... "I listened to your prayers... that's why I sent you the police, the rescue workers and the helicopter!"<P><B>God</B> is in us here... (I admit it!)<BR>He is a person (he is every person)!<BR>He is talking to you <B>now</B> through our words...<BR>If you think your children don't see God in our eyes as we pick them up... cradle them in our arms... or hug them to peices... <B>You haven't listened...</B><P><B>Please, please, please</B> don't perish without listening... <P>Jim<p>[This message has been edited by NSR (edited November 26, 1999).]

I'm with Jim. Great post! And I've always loved that joke.<P>Listen, Arik. Your friends are reaching out to you.<P>Lori

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