Hi, This is my first time here, and found about about it after finishing "Love Busters" (the website was written in the back.)
My wife and I have been separated for two months, and she moved out with her daughter about a month ago. We are both seeing the same counselor separately, but there is complete silence from her. Love Busters has really convicted me of hpw I've emptied her Love Bank and, through the Lord's grace and love, have been being broken and experiencing healing in these areas. However, now I miss her so badly, and so long to put into practice all these new things and be the husband God wants me to be. As I know nothing of her present situation (I was told not to contact her), I just focus on praying for her (I've also read The Power of a Praying Husband which has been awesome!) as well as continuing to let the Lord change me. I would really appreciate prayer for the healing and restoration of our marriage, and that we'll both become whole in Christ and the couple I know in Christ we can be. Thank you!

Hi, Daniel,

So sorry you have to be here. In the meantime, it's important that you read all of the concepts - located above in the Link to Concepts. Believe it or not, there are a lot of biblical principles embedded in the Harley's advice.

It's good you've recognized where you went afoul in your M. Now continue to pray for the Lord to change you, while you trust Him to change your W! When the time is right, the Lord will show your W your changes, and HE will bring her home!

A funny place to find it, but over in Divorced/Divorcing board, we have a "Restoration of Marriage" prayer thread every week, and we fast and pray on Wednesdays. Come find it, and meet many more christian H's/W's who are praying for God to restore our Marriages.

God Bless,

Hi Daniel,
I am happy to hear your are reading power of a praying husband.
perhaps you can send her the power of a praying women or suggest someone get it and give it to her as they are positive powerful books.

especially when you put them into practice.
I just wanted to tell you I will be praying for you both, I know a husbands is to be the leader in the family, and if you hang on to the Lord you won't go wrong He is faithful when others fail us HE is faithful still. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

So you keep walking with the Lord and don't give up.
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Keep on keeping on.

Hi there -

I am so glad you are leaning on the Lord - and I am so sorry for your pain. When you pray - pray for His will to be done - ask Him what He wants you to do - and do just what He tells you. When you seek to do His will, you'll never be defeated. Have you read "how to save your marriage alone" by Dr Ed Wheat? I always recommend this one. It is a tiny little book that is Christ centered (the author is an MD, Christian COunselor, and Sex Therapist) and it only costs about $4. You can get it at amazon.com but your Pastor might have a copy. There are tips in here about what to do in situations such as yours.

My prayers are with you.

Hi Dan, I know what your going thru all to well. My wife walked away March 2002. She filed for divorce in Oct and had our first court appearance last week. God has promised he will restore if we just put out faith in him. Remember that God hates divorce and will stop and or restore in his timing. God is in control of her heart. He will harden it or soften it when he is working on you or using your situation to witness to others. A great resource that I just recently found is found at http://www.restoreministries.net/. remember that your wife is not controlling herself but satan is doing a major spiritual battle in her. She is not the enemy it is satan. She is saying and doing things that she is not controlling. ( I am saying this knowing it is the truth, but have had a hard time duing the last year with a lot pain from her actions. ) I have to get going and don't have time to say more at this time Smiaj

Hi Daniel,

I also know what you are going thru. My H let me 4 mths ago. It's been very hard but if we keep trusting GOD and have faith in him, things will work out for us. I know that it's painful to think that we might live the rest of our lives without our spouse but God has a plan for all. If he's allowed this to happen, it's for a reason. Perhaps we can't understand that right now but someday will and be glad. Remember the story of Job. He went thru so much, yet remained strong in faith and God blessed him at the end.

Yes, God does hate divorce and will stop and/or restore in HIS timing. The hardest thing for me is PATIENCE. We just have to keep praying, do whatever it is we can (without LBing) and remain faithful.

I'm glad to hear you've read The power of a praying Husband. It's an excellent book. I read the one for the wife and it truly helped me ALOT. Taught me alot about prayer and gave me so much strength.

Satan is definitely doing a major spiritual battle in your W. I see that in my H as well. We need to learn who our true enemy is, and it's NOT our spouse. Just be patient and Trust God.

I'll be praying for you!

{{{Daniel}}}

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