Hi,
I've been married 11 years. I have a daughter that is 4 and a son who is 9. Night before last my wife told me that she no longer loved me like she used to. I can not imagine life without the three of them in it. Please pray for us. Its so hard to imagine i can't write about it anymore. Please pray.

thanks

Your first post is a prayer request...a perfect place to start!

Let her start here too...let her know that if she is feeling less love in your marriage, you went for help to this site that talks about building love in a marriage.

Sometimes the plea you heard is to say there is not enough love...at the moment...not that it is all gone. If a little flame is left...fan it.

Don't be discouraged from reading all the misery that marriages gone astray have caused others. Let it be a wake up call to drop everything and get close to her...fast and with what ever it takes. Take a your vacation now...give the kids to gramma...go somewhere and act like newlyweds, then come home and go to bootcamp on the tools of connecting found here.

You'll fix it, before it breaks!

Have you read the stuff about the Love Bank? Tell her about it. Maybe that will help. Then start making some deposits...

I dont love my husband as I used to either. Love does not stay the same if it did it would be death. Love is like a flower, it takes nurturing,tending to, weeds removed, watering.With loving care it can flourish without it it can turn into another common weed.
Sometimes we tend to get caught up in our day to day lives and feel used, like we lose our identity. Then we start thinking and sorry to say sometimes thinking just isnt good.
Love takes effort on both sides.
To receieve love one must be a giver of love.
Shower her with love as you would a florish and water. Ask to her to make the efforts and you do the same..And yes sometimes you dont feel like it and it feels like work, but in all relationships ther eis work involved...Im praying for a loving shower to rain over your household, To renew the love and life in your home and your hearts.

thank-you so much everyone for the prayers

Hello again,
w says she does'nt know why she feels the way she does. She says it is'nt anything I've done, it's her...I don't buy it. I must have done, or not done somthing. Please pray that she will open up to me, and herself.

thanks

Hi Buzz,

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> Yes you're right she needs to talk to you.
You need more of an answer than "it's not you,
it's her).

Ask her how she feels, then listen hard to what she is saying. If she is a person that has a difficult time explaining how she feels, that may be why you got the short answer you did.

Counseling always helps us learn how to express and tell others how we feel. Do you think she would be open to give it a try? It wouldn't hurt to ask.

Sometimes just the "hum drum" of the same everyday stuff make people want to run. They
want excitement, new things after a while. If they can't have excitement, fun and new things to do with thier own spouse, it gets to be quite boring. Do you think she is bored and can't take the boredom anymore?

Sent with Love, Ladysheep

Sometimes moms and wives tend to think and worry to much.She could be evaluating her life and feeling a emptiness adn wondering where did she go...Have you tried asking her to take sometime to be with just you and you 2 find one another again???Talk about things that have nothing to do with kids or jobs...Talk about honest feelings, hopes and dreams...Sometimes its the dreams that keep you going...Everyone has a blah day and someone should gently remind her her life is what she makes it and love, marriage is alot like a job.It takes work, and commitment and god...