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Every Wed. we are to pray and fast for one another. Every Weds we can check in and let everyone know we have prayed for the group. Prayer does mighty things and group prayer is even better.

I think it will be great to see how God works in our lives and heals our marriages and us. If you want to pray with us I will be more than happy to add your name to the list below.

Prayer Warriors who are praying and being prayed for: cajunky, Ezra, Willgetthruthis, Godisincontrol, Natasha79, JohnC, NMWBTWBD (Not My Will, But Thy Will Be Done, Wallace, relady, steadfast and committed, morriggs, lupolady, stillwaiting, Broken Hearted, PasDeDeux, hopeful_person, GinnyF, justpeachy, cry2much, SNL, LostAgain (Dave&April), Dodger, gloriachu, LoveNcare, JMF, WEN, NiteHawk, Absurd, LetSTry, AgainsttheWind, cemmerson, getting better, kellidiane, Terrified, BeeLee, idostylin, Resilient, thiscantbehappening, day by day, Jloves, broken x3, Sue with Hope, sunrise1, shepette, Malc, Faithfulwife, timbo-e, Angelia, FeelingAllAlone, broken_joe, dopey, awake, truly a friend, Is it to late, stilltryingtosaveit, landslide, GODBLESSU, vega, LoyalWarrior, janna-m-r, ferbie, epiphOny, simmy, cajeanie, d_rose, lost_lonely, briank4775, mayflower, Caged_Bird, LunaDove, goldielocks109, darwud, Mrs. darwud, Zuzus Petals, adamv, Army Hubby, Gail (mojodiva)& Shane, bonnie five & H, TryingToKeepHope, Hopeful98, lghoping, SoTired (Mike & Trish), evega, Douglas and Kirsi Nielson, Jessicafl27, kimmy2, auntielala, weezy8550, miserynmissouri, STBXWife, sealfan, Jen Brown, LunaDove, SMIAJ, cinderella, day by day, GreggC, trying_to_accept, solon, serenitydipity, ilia, lonejrock, anchorhugger, Prayer & Patience, Chikar, Alex6, Hopeforamiracle, fishlady, rookie, Made A Mess of Things, *DeepSigh*, boden, new comittment,

Prayers Answered: Lupolady(air conditioner), Steadfastandcommitted (first string again), cry2much(sucessful surgery), Movingonwithlife(Wife coming home), WGTT(accepted into mentor program), betrayed and desparate (sucessful cancer surgery), Againstthewind (Got job), Free (Marriage Restoration begun ), cajunky (wife not engaged & did something with family, told me she loved me), Stillwaiting (neice is o.k.), Stillwaiting(Got to see her husband for 2 hours and his heart seems to have softened), Steadfastandcommitted (wife gave up other man), janna-m-r (Husband came home and wants to try to restore marriage even though he is the BS), tsc (marriage being restored), Faithfulwife (GOT A JOB, Found a house, D is final and got a puppy that “just LOVES me”), d_rose (got a ways to go but we are going there together.), WGTT (WH coming home), GreggC (wife's heart is softening a bit and son asking about things in the Bible and believes in it),

Thank you everyone that prayed with us and also all of you that gave a praise report. Like many of you all, I like to see the praises to answered prayer. It is a blessing to hear how God is working and helping people get through tough times.

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Here's chapter 10 of the guys. Personally I hate it when I see my W fearful and unable to trust the Lord. She gets afraid to step out and watch how God will bless her if she does. I think God really was the first person to say "No Fear!".

HER FEARS

When the power and presence of fear outweighs our assurance of the power and presence of God, we can become tormented by a spirit of fear.

The opposite of fear is faith- something we all could use more of in our lives. But getting from fear to faith is a lot harder to do when fear has become a controlling factor. That's why a person who has been overtaken by fear needs prayer. Yor=ur prayers for your wife can help her recognize that fear does not come from God(2 Timothy 1:7), and that the perfect love of God removes fear from her soul(1John 4:18).

The bible says to "watch and pray, lest you enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak"( Matthew 26:41). If your wife has something she considers to be a constant struggle, a weakness of her flesh, or temptation in her life, she needs you to pray with her that God will give her strength to resist it and be set free.

Too often woman carry burdens in their lives that are far heavier than their delicate shoulders were created to bear. Remember, no matter how strong your wife appears to be, she is fragile. Even though a woman may appear strong to the point of hardness, it's usually because she felt she had to be for one reason or another.

Often woman struggle with deeply wanting certain things to happen, yet having to wait such a discouragingly long time for prayers about those things to be answered. Pray that your wofe can sdd her struggles and fears as an opportunity to depend on God in a greater way. Pray that she will be content with her life and be able to trust that God has her where she is for a purpose.

Fear that prompts us to pray is beneficial. Fear that parlalyzes and torments is destructive. Don't allow fear in your wife to keep her from moving into all God has for her.

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Lord, I pray that you would help (wifes name) to "be anxious for nothing" ( Phillippians 4:6). Remind her to bring all her concerns to You in prayer so that Your peace that passes all understanding will permanently reside in her heart. Specifically I pray about (anything that causes your wife to have fear). I ask You to set her free from that fear and comfort her this day.

Teach me to recognize the ploy of the enemy of the enemy every time he tries to steal life from my wife by bringing fear to torment her. I stand against any enemy attacks targeted at my wife, and I say that a spirit of fear will have no place in her life. Strengthen her faith in You, Lord, to be her defender.

I pray that (wifes name) will not be tormented by the fear of man. Enable her to rise above the criticism of others and be delivered from fear of their opinions. May her only concern be with pleasing You. I say to my wife, "Be strong in the Lord and the power of His might" (Ephesians 6:10). " In righteousness you shall be established; you shall be far from oppression, for you shall not fear; and from terror, for it shall not come near you" (Isaiah 54:14). Enable my wife to rise up and say, " The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? The Lord is the strength of my life; of whom shall be afraid?" (Psalm 27:1)

Lord, give (wifes name) strength to stand strong in the midst of the tough times of her life. Sustain her with Your presence so that nothing will shake her. Enable her to rise above the things that challenge her. Specifically I lift up to You (wifes greatest need,weakness, struggle, or temptation). Help her to separate herself from that which tempts her. I say to (wifes name) that "no temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able , but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it" (1 Corinthians 10:13). " Wait on the Lord; be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart" (Psalms 27:14). Lord, enable my wife to endure temptation and receive the crown of life which You have promised to those who love You ( James 1:12).

Give my wife patience while she is waiting for her prayers to be answered and for all things to be accomplished. Help her to wait upon You instead of waiting for things to change. Cause her to fear only You and to be content where she is this moment, knowing that You will not leave her forever. Perfect her in Your "perfect love" that "casts out fear", so that fear has no room in her soul ( 1 John 4:18) .

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Morning everyone,

This weekend, I was in touch with an MBer that had left the boards. When they wrote back they asked me to post this. I would ask each of you to pray according to what ever God lays on your heart. And please remember to continue in prayer.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">God has been dealing with me where I am: dissatisfied in my neighborhood and in my house. We've been off and on at church and I think God is getting ready to get to both my H and myself about that. I've been convinced that when he is not able, it is MY responsibility to get us (my 3 children and myself) there.

Next, I live in a mobile home park. I moved in after professing my whole teenage years that I would NEVER, no NEVER live in a MH. LOL!!!

I have Asian, Dominican, and Hispanic neighbors of other types. One man is a drug addicted paranoid schizophrenic. This is a scary neighborhood.

I felt God asked me the other week though if I think I'm "better" than the people around me. Ugh. I hate my answer. How could I be so smug, especially considering where I live? Who am I? Jonah? I'm not even published. At least he was a well-known prophet before asked to go to Ninevah.

God reminded me of the verse that says, "Treat others as better than yourself." Then, on Wed when we made it back to church, that verse was echoed again.

So, God has been dealing with me to at least OFFER hope to the people around me. I can offer them love and care too, but I've been sitting on it.

My H doesn't know of all of this. I want to see that he is "with" it and that God is dealing with him, apart from me. I would like for him to want to share with these people too. There are too many people here, and I'm still timid.

So last night, I prayed a bit about it and wished I could ask for prayer from the people at MB. I knew I couldn't post it, and wasn't even sure it was time to. But I know God is moving in this area, and I have never done anything like this, so I don't even know where to start. But I thought God would put people in place to pray about this if it was the thing to do.

Ideas I've include:

1. Tutoring for a very small fee (knowing many don't like to get handouts)
2. having football games and other "team" sports that we, as a neighborhood could do
3. just get out there and share the gospel

I don't know where to start and I won't do this without God's help. I procrastinate too much.

Also, there's a little update about my grandfather. He had surgery to cut the nerves to the heart that would make it beat uncontrollably. He's completely reliant on his pacemaker now, but others that have had it done were restored to their previous activity level. Still nothing about his breathing difficulties. I think they are calling in a pulmonologist (for lungs).

You may copy this to the thread, if you'd like. I'll be elated all day. I'm truly stunned at the timing of your email. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Thank you,</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Please lift this person up. They have the ability to be a wonderful ambassador for Christ.

Blessing to each of you.

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I have asked you previously to pray for my son.

He is 10yo, has ADHD, and is emotionally immature.

Right now, things are much better. We have changed his medication and that may have helped. But he went to church camp last week. I don't know how much that might have affected his spiritual life but - considering he is emotionally about 6 or 7yo - that was not my biggest concern when I left after dropping him off. I was concerned about him fitting in - though he and participating and having a good time.

When I picked him up this past Saturday, he seemed to have had a wonderful time - no fussing about everyone else and how they caused him to have problems. His behavior was great. He truly seemed to have had a growth experience.

This was the first time he had been away from both his father and me for more than one or two nights. It may have been a breakthrough experience!

Please keep him in your prayers. He's such a delight so often. But such a tremendous challenge the rest of the time.

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Hello everyone,

I will pray for everyone here on Wed.

Please keep me and my WH, Dan in your prayers. I am asking God to restore our marriage against some pretty big obstacles, so I know that it can only happen with your prayers and God working on my WH's heart. Please pray for God to give him a new heart and create a new spirit in him and that he will come home to us.

I got a short (but nice) letter last week from him. I didn't think I would hear at all, but guess what day the letter was postmarked????

If you guessed Wed., you would be right. Something moved him to write and send me that short letter. Praise God!

Thanks for your prayers.
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I'm already on the list but I have a specific prayer again this week.

Please pray for my PATIENCE. I've been pretty good for almost 6 months but it's starting to wear out and I'm getting desperate. I DO NOT want to give up in this battle but the devil is getting to me and bringing me down. PLEASE pray that I am strong.

I will be praying for all of you this Wednesday and the rest of the week.

Thank you!

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Greetings everyone, I am new comittment. I would like to be added to the weekly prayer group for wed. prayer and fasting. I would like prayer for my marriage to be restored, and for my husband to accept Jesus Christ as his Lord and Savior. Thanks

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new comittment,

Thank you for joining us. I know you have asked for us to pray for your H's salvation. But I'd like to ask you if there is anything lift you up in prayer about?

Bless you.

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His Future

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None of us can live without a vision for our future. "Where there is no vision, the people perish" (Proverbs 29:18). Having a vision doesn't necessarily mean knowing the specifics about what is going to happen next, It has to do with sensing the general direction you're moving in and having hope that something good is on the horizon, knowing that you do have a future and a purpose, and that it is bright.

Not every man has that certainty. When he doesn't, you can almost see life draining from him. Even the ones who do, don't necessarily have it all the time. Even the most spiritual man can get overtired, burned out, beaten down, distanced from God, confused about who he is and why he is here, and lose his vision for the future.

God says not to listen to voices that speak lies, for "they speak a vision of their own heart, not from the mouth of the Lord" (Jer. 23:16. Any vision for the future that is full of failure and empty of hope is not from God (Jer. 29:11). But God can restore vision where it has been lost, He can give hope to dream again. He can bring His truth to bear upon the lies of discouragement. He can give assurance of a promising future. Prayer is the avenue through which He can accomplish it.

We have to remember that Father God has drawn up His Will. His estate is divided equally among His children. All that He has, we will have. We are 'heirs of God and joint heirs with Christ" (Romans 8:17). I've read my copy of the will and it says we don't have any idea of all God has for us, because He has more for us than we ever imagined. "Eye has not seen, nor ear heard, not have entered into the heart of men the things which God has prepared for those who love Him"(I Cor. 2:9). It promises that "the blamesless will inherit good: (Proverbs 28:10). It says that not only will we have everything we need in this life, but the most significant portion of it will be with Him and we will want nothing more.

If your H's eyes get so focused on the day-to-day details of living that he loses his vision for the future, your prayers can lift his sights. They can help him see that God is his future, and he needs to run his life in a way that invests in that. "Do you not know that those who run in a race all run, but one receives the prize? Run in such a way that you may obtain it" (I Cor. 9:24). You don't want your H to be a man who speaks a vision of his own heart and loses the prize. You want him to be able to see from God's perspective.

God doesn't want us to know the future, He wants u s to Know HIM. He wants us to trust Him to guide us into the future one step at a time.
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PRAYER:

Lord, I pray that You would give (H's name) a vision for his future. Helop him to understand that Your plans for him are for good and evil -- to give him a future and a hope (Jer. 29:11). Fill him with the knowledge of YOur will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding that he may have a walk worthy of You, fully pleasing You, being fruitful in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of You (Col. 1:9,10). May he live with leading from The Holy Spirit and not walk in doubt and fear of what may happen. Help him to mature and grow in YOu daily, submitting to You all his dreams and desires, knowing that "The things which are impossible with men are possible with God" (Luke 18:27). Give him God-ordained goals and show him how to conduct himself in a way that always invests in his future.

I pray that he will be active in service for You all the days of his life. Keep him from losing his sense of purpose and fill him with hope for his future as an "anchor of the soul, both sure and steadfast" (Heb.6:19). Give him "his heart's desire" (Psalm 21:2) and "the heritage of those who fear Your name" (Psalm 92:13,14).
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SCRIPTURES:
Jeremiah 29:11
Psalm 37:37,38
Jeremiah 31:17


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