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#343025 07/31/03 11:37 PM
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New to here <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Brief background on my story
Wife and I married in 1990...stepson was 2 at the time, 2 more kids after the marriage. Things were great for 5 years or so. WS began having affairs...I hung in there for 6 more years going with the counselling (big mistake-secular counsel) but eventually she left Jan 2001. She dated different people over the first year and a half and then met current OM to whom she is now engaged. Our D is not final yet as she has told me that she cannot let go. I have diligently prayed for the last 2 + years for our family to be restored. We have a 50/50 custody arrangement with the kids. Once she became engaged, I did go out once in awhile but nothing serious, I felt in my heart that I just needed to get out as friends with others, whether male or female. Recently my WAW has told me that she is questioning whether or not she should have ever left...that I am still her best friend and the best Dad that she has ever seen (blushing). I need prayer for her as her fiance is planning a fishing trip in two weeks and she has already told me that although she has decided to see a very reputable Christian Counselor to see what she should do about our M, she wants me to keep the kids for the weekend so that she can go party to relieve the stress that she is feeling. One of the main contributors was that Satan would get her out in the world, around the booze and the nightlife and that is when the trouble would start. I also request prayer for me as I do not want to be patronized anymore and just kept "hanging on" and that God will reveal to me what I should do. I am still very much in love with her but know that if she does go out "to relieve the stress" it will more than likely involve boozing and from the past know where that will lead. Just unsure here...felt that her coming to me and telling me she wanted to seek the counselling was a sign that God was speaking to her and then now with her wanting to go out on the town, that maybe God is trying to tell me that nothing has changed? Sorry so long of a post
Jeff

#343026 08/03/03 02:57 PM
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I'm sorry Jeff <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

I'll pray for you too. Maybe this is a sign; at least that she has decided to talk to a Christian Counselor. Praise God for that at least. I'll pray for you too.

Gregg

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Thanks Gregg...I appreciate it <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />


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