Hi,

I have never posted on this site b4, but have read some of the stuff.

I am separated, for almost 9 months. My wife just served me last week with divorce papers. Our marriage breakdown was mostly MY fault.

I am feeling very hopeless rite now, and just wanted to ask for a few prayers. I know i should open my bible, but just cant seem to do it.....

thanx,

scott

Scott,

I know finding your self here at MB really sucks right now, but you are in a good place. There are many people here with very good advice. Read the concepts here and post when you feel you need to.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I am feeling very hopeless rite now, and just wanted to ask for a few prayers. I know i should open my bible, but just cant seem to do it.....</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Let me tell you about my definition of the word "can't". It means "I haven't learned how to yet". Sometimes it is confused with the word won't. In your case it means that something else is more inportant than reading the Bible. What is it that is more important than saving your M Scott? What ever it is, you need to get past it and get your relationship with God back on track.

Now having said that; I want you to know that you have lots of authority yourself. Pray for your W and over her. When she is ready have her join you in praying for her. Ask her what she would like you to pray for, etc. Let her see you reading the Bible again. Scot,t the key to this is yor relationship to God not hers (at least not right now).

Do you want your name added to our prayer list on the Restoration of Marriages thread?

Bless you.

S&C

steadfast,

thanx for the snap back into reality!!!! you are SO rite, i need to ALWAYS open the bible, not just when i need comfort!!!!!

as for the restoration thread and adding me?? PLEASE DO!!!!!

my name is scott, and my wife is melody.

scott

Hi Scott, I'll pray for you. The heartache of divorce has got to be one of the greatest heartaches by far. Obviously, God has already worked in your life because you, in humility, have been able to not only see but to also confess that you made mistakes. "Confess your sins one to another and you WILL BE HEALED."

There are two sites that have helped me alot... one is www.restorem.org and the other is www.rejoiceministries.org. You can get a prayer partner at the first site and you can sign up for a email devotional (it's called "charlyne cares") at the second site. That daily encouragement has often been what has gotten me through the day.

You are feeling hopeless. I have been there. But the God you serve is a God of hope, and despite your hopeless feelings, He has not changed and the same God who parted the Red Sea, who raised Lazarus from the dead, who conquered death on the Cross... is the same God who is "close to the brokenhearted and who at this moment, is winning a battle between darkness and light... and that is what this is... your divorce. It is a spiritual battle becasue the enemy, not your wife, but Satan, wants to destroy you, your wife, and any future children, grandchildren, greatgrandchildren or anyone else your marriage could touch the life of.

Satan does not play "fair" and he is more evil than I think we can even fathom. Steadfast gave some great advice about covering your wife in prayer. She has been deceived into thinking that divorce is the only way to solve whatever problems there were.

If you can look at her with love and compassion, as the wife of your youth who Satan has deceived (by thinking divorce is the answer), if you can put your hope in Christ and simply call out to Him, He can do miraculous things.

God be with you.

THe following are my thoughts hopes and prayers for you and your wife...
"Lord, there has been a break down. But that doesnt mean the end , father we ask you to perform a restoration to this couple, to their hearts, and minds. Lord we ask that you wrap your arms around them day and night and lead then to a place where the light of your love shines thru. Father, scott confesses to contributing to the breakdown in this marriage, and it is written you must confess it and repent it and your blessing will follow...Father we ask you put that blessing to work today, father touch his wifes heart, open her mind and give her a peace to start on the road to forgiveness on both parts. Lord, put a shield around the two of these people so they might find their way back to not only each other but to you father...Amen"