Please pray for us. My wife and I had been doing serious LB over the past 4 years. The last 2 we hardy slept together and last 6 mos I moved out of the bed room. I tried to get her to MC but she refused.

She moved out the end of Feb to live with her M, but 2 months later her M died. She met an old boyfriend (who has been separated from his W for 15 mos) at the wake and he started calling 3 weeks later they were dating and intimate. I never did a good Plan A because I didn't know of such a thing at the time.

She spends every available moment, including nights with the OM and he is able to me all of her EN's. I have no chance with her. So I pray because only God can help us now.
Thanks,

MOnty
Painful words can bring a bitterness to set in the heart that allows us to do things we normally wouldnt do. I suggest you pray tha tGod gives you forgiveness for th ethings you have said and for hte Lord to reach his hand down and help her find it in herself to admit her part and ask for forgiveness...
I pray the both of you can come to a understanding an dbreak the old habits of painful words and actions and to come full circle and heal one another and give yourselves to GOd. For God is the answer and he sees all and knows your heart and its desires.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by hurtmorethanheknows:
<strong>MOnty
Painful words can bring a bitterness to set in the heart that allows us to do things we normally wouldnt do. I suggest you pray tha tGod gives you forgiveness for th ethings you have said and for hte Lord to reach his hand down and help her find it in herself to admit her part and ask for forgiveness...
I pray the both of you can come to a understanding an dbreak the old habits of painful words and actions and to come full circle and heal one another and give yourselves to GOd. For God is the answer and he sees all and knows your heart and its desires.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Thank you. I am praying now for forgiveness I my part in our marital strife and I feel forgiven. Now I am praying for God to influence my WW judgement so that whatever her decision, it is what God wants and is the best for all of us. I feel greatly relieved of the pain. Yes, I miss her, but it was the bitterness that I harbored that cause me much more pain.

MOnty,
Great! Sorry for all my typos in my answer, my eyes have been affected by all this mess in our lives...See crying with contacts in is a big nono noone told me about and results in scratched on cornea....So forgive me please...When ou have prayed and prayed and reached a point where ou understand tha tcomplete forgiveness for all things has to be acheived you will feel a healing work in you that is awesome! Its hard and the human part of us doesnt like to :give in" but its not us to decide. Your in my prayers and IM adding a sheild and a person to fill in the gap for you and you r wife may she find what she is missing ...

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by hurtmorethanheknows:
<strong> Sorry for all my typos in my answer, my eyes have been affected by all this mess in our lives......</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I am sorry about your eyes and that you still have pain that causes you to cry. It is people like you that make this site such a great place for comfort and understanding.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><strong>Your in my prayers and IM adding a sheild and a person to fill in the gap for you and you r wife may she find what she is missing ...</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Thank you. I will pray that happiness and peace are close at-hand so you don't have to cry anymore. You have a prayer buddy in me.

WE all need a prayer buddy in our life...The mor ethe merrier...Honestly,this process is such a painful and sometimes feels as if it will never end. But just when you think you cant go one more step God sends a little mecy oyur way. Mercy and Grace are 2 very important qualities you and your wife should study on. Mercy and Grace in my opinion are like light of God shining theu to you and all the others who see you. Its that light that draws people near one another.

Monty, I have written your name on my marriage prayer list and will pray. I read your other post to thisso and the story you shared. So true... about the bitterness, anger, shame, guilt, regret, etc. When we don't let go of those things, there can be no reconciliation.

Only in Christ, can we forgive betrayal and can we find healing for our wounded and guilty hearts.

"Ah, Sovereign Lord, you have made the heavens and the earth by your great power and outstretched arm. Nothing is too hard for you..." Jer. 32:17

"Love always hopes."
"Love never fails."

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hurtmorethanheknows and LoveMyEx

You both will be in my prayers. I am joining a prayer group today and I will pray for all of us.

Today I received another blow, it's more than an affair. I found out from my D that her mother is talking with 2 other ex-lovers from her past when she is not with the OM. One has hepatitus B. I believe now that my W may be mentally ill. I have to get my daughter away from her somehow. Only God can help now. Please pray for us too.