Every Wed. we are to pray and fast for one another. Every Weds we can check in and let everyone know we have prayed for the group. Prayer does mighty things and group prayer is even better.

I think it will be great to see how God works in our lives and heals our marriages and us. If you want to pray with us I will be more than happy to add your name to the list below.

Prayer Warriors who are praying and being prayed for: cajunky, Ezra, Willgetthruthis, Godisincontrol, Natasha79, JohnC, NMWBTWBD (Not My Will, But Thy Will Be Done, Wallace, relady, steadfast and committed, morriggs, lupolady, stillwaiting, Broken Hearted, PasDeDeux, hopeful_person, GinnyF, justpeachy, cry2much, SNL, LostAgain (Dave&April), Dodger, gloriachu, LoveNcare, JMF, WEN, NiteHawk, Absurd, LetSTry, AgainsttheWind, cemmerson, getting better, kellidiane, Terrified, BeeLee, idostylin, Resilient, thiscantbehappening, day by day, Jloves, broken x3, Sue with Hope, sunrise1, shepette, Malc, Faithfulwife, timbo-e, Angelia, FeelingAllAlone, broken_joe, dopey, awake, truly a friend, Is it to late, stilltryingtosaveit, landslide, GODBLESSU, vega, LoyalWarrior, janna-m-r, ferbie, epiphOny, simmy, cajeanie, d_rose, lost_lonely, briank4775, mayflower, Caged_Bird, LunaDove, goldielocks109, darwud, Mrs. darwud, Zuzus Petals, adamv, Army Hubby, Gail (mojodiva)& Shane, bonnie five & H, TryingToKeepHope, Hopeful98, lghoping, SoTired (Mike & Trish), evega, Douglas and Kirsi Nielson, Jessicafl27, kimmy2, auntielala, weezy8550, miserynmissouri, STBXWife, sealfan, Jen Brown, LunaDove, SMIAJ, cinderella, day by day, GreggC, trying_to_accept, solon, serenitydipity, ilia, lonejrock, anchorhugger, Prayer & Patience, Chikar, Alex6, Hopeforamiracle, fishlady, rookie, Made A Mess of Things, *DeepSigh*, boden, new comittment, deeplyhurting, jeff15679, Bob Castaldi, k57mo, skottyjay (Scott and Melody), TROD (Tony and Julie),

Prayers Answered: Lupolady(air conditioner), Steadfastandcommitted (first string again), cry2much(sucessful surgery), Movingonwithlife(Wife coming home), WGTT(accepted into mentor program), betrayed and desparate (sucessful cancer surgery), Againstthewind (Got job), Free (Marriage Restoration begun ), cajunky (wife not engaged & did something with family, told me she loved me), Stillwaiting (neice is o.k.), Stillwaiting(Got to see her husband for 2 hours and his heart seems to have softened), Steadfastandcommitted (wife gave up other man), janna-m-r (Husband came home and wants to try to restore marriage even though he is the BS), tsc (marriage being restored), Faithfulwife (GOT A JOB, Found a house, D is final and got a puppy that “just LOVES me”), d_rose (got a ways to go but we are going there together.), WGTT (WH coming home), GreggC (wife's heart is softening a bit and son asking about things in the Bible and believes in it), hopeful_person (H seemed more willing to consider a reconciliation),

Thank you everyone that prayed with us and also all of you that gave a praise report. Like many of you all, I like to see the praises to answered prayer. It is a blessing to hear how God is working and helping people get through tough times.

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Trust... Guys; to what extent can your W trust you? Does she feel safe with you? Does she know she can reveal anything to you and know you will still be the commpassionate loving H that will help her through her bad decisions, her extra weight, or anything else? Be a safe place for her and pray for her trust.

Chapter 12 of Power of a Praying Husband.

TRUST

There are three extremely important areas in which a husband needs to be completely trustworthy. Failure in any one of these will cause his wife's trust to be weak in all others.

1. His absolute fidelity to his wife and his marriage.

There is nothing that violates trust like adultery. If a waman has been cheated on once, it changes her forever. She may forgive, but to forget, she would need a frontal lobotomy. Restoration takes time and requires a miraculous touch from God. Even if her husband has never actually done anything wrong, yet his actions around other woman make her feel insecure about his ability to stay faithful to her in the future, then his wife cannot trust him.

2. His responsibility to make a decent living and be wise with the family finances.

No matter how much a man loves his wife and how well he treats her, if he is irresponsible with money, it undermines her faith in him.

3. His consistent efforts to treat his wife and children with love and respect.

I know a number of woman who can't trust their husbands to treat them and their children well. She never knows when he is going to explode in anger.

When a husband is consistently trustworthy in these three imprtant areas, his wife finds it far easier to trust him in all the others. But trust must be mutual in a marriage. When one person can't or won't trust the other, neither of them can grow into all God has for them. "The heart of her husband safely trust her; so he will have no lack of gain". (Proverbs 31:11) The goal is to get to the point where both of you are so committed to the Lord that you can trust HIM as He works in your mate.

Pray as well that God will give you the wisdom to lead your family and make right decisions. Often your wife's hesistancy about following you is not because she doesn't trust you, but rather because she trust God more. She believes that only He knows certain things, and she wants to know you have sought Him for wisdom and will make decisions based on His will. Pray that your trust in God will be so evident that your wife can in turn trust God to have her best interest at heart as He works through you.

Be patient in praying about this. Trust is broken quickly but takes time to restore. "Let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart"(Galatians 6:9) GOD WILL ANSWER.

PRAYER

Lord, I pray that You would give (wife's name) the ability to trust me all things. Most of all, I want her to trust Your Holy Spirit working in and through me. Where I have been worthy of that trust and violated it, show mw, and I will confess that before You as sin. Help me not to conduct myself that way anymore. make me always be worthy of her trust. show me how to convince her that I am in partnership with You and will do all I can to be trustworthy.
Where she has lost trust in me unjustly, I pray You would help her to see the truth. If she doesn't trust me because of something someone else has done to her, help her to forgive that person so she can be free. I pray that she will not project thaose failures onto me and expect that I will do the same thing. Speifically I pray about (name any area where there is a lack of trust).

In any place where we have broken trust with one another, help us to reestablish it as strong. May we both trust You, Lord, working in each of us. Break any unholy bonds or soul ties between me ans any other woman in my past. Help us to fully repent of all relationships outside of our own that were not glorifying to You.

Lord I pray that You would deepen my trust of my wife. show me if there are places where I don't trust her judgement, her abilities, her loyalty, or her decisions. I pray that she will always be trustworthy a person and that I will be able to trust her completely.

Help me to be the kind of spiritual leader of our home and family that You want me to be. Increase our faith, for I know that You are a shield to those who put their trust in You ( proverbs 30:5). I say this day on behalf of my wife and me that you are or refuge and our fortress. You are our God, and in You will we trust (Psalm 91:2)

Please add my name to your list. Thanks you <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

oops, sorry, I just noticed my name in there, lol <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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His Future
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None of us can live without a vision for our future. If we don't have one, we flounder aimlessly. "Where there is no vision, the people perish" (Proverbs 29:18).

Having a vision doesn't necessarily mean knowing the specifics about what is going to happen next. It has to do with sensing the general direction you're moving in and having hope that something good is on the horizon. It's knowing that you do have a future and a purpose, and that it is bright.

Not every man has that certainty. When he doesn't you can almost see life draining from him. Even the ones who do, don't necessarily have it all the time. Even the most spiritual man can get overtired, burned out, beaten down, distanced from God, confused about who he is and why he is here, and lose his vision for the future. He can misplace his sense of purpose and become overwhelmed and hopeless because of it. If he loses sight of his dreams and forgets the truth about himself and his situation, he can end up believing destructive lies about his future. "My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge" (Hosea 4:6).

If your H's eyes get so focused on the day-to-day details of living that he loses his vision for the future, your prayers can lift his sights. They can help him see that God is his future and he needs to run his life in a way that invests in that. "Do you not know that those who run in a race all run, but one receives the prize? Run in such a way that you may obtain it" (II Cor. 9:24). You don't want your H to be a man who speaks a vision of his own heart and loses the prize. You want him to be able to see from God's perspective.

God doesn't want us to know the future. He wants us to know HIM. He wants us to trust Him to guide us into the future one step at a time.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">PRAYER:

Lord, I pray that You would give (H's name) a vision for his future. Help him to understand that Your plans for him are for good and not evil -- to give him a future and a hope (Jer. 29:11). Fill him with the knowledge of Your will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding that he may have a walk worthy of You, fully pleasing You, being fruitful in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of You (Col. 1:9.10). May he live with leading from the Holy Spirit and now walk in doubt and fear of what may happen. Help him to mature and grow in You daily, submitting to You all his dreams and desires, knowing that "the things which are impossible with men are possible with God" (Luke 18:27).

I pray that he will be active in service for You all the days of his life. Keep him from losing his sense of purpose and fill him with hope for his future as an "anchor of the soul, both sure and an steadfast" (Hebrews 6:19). Give him "his heart's desire" (Psalm 21:2) and "the heritage of those who fear Your name" (Psalm 61:5). Plant him firmly in Your house and keep him frsh and flourishing and bearing fruit into old age (Psalm 92:13,14). And when it comes time for him to leave this earth and go to be with You, may he have such a strong vision for his eternal future that it makes his transition smooth, painless, and accompanied by peace and joy.

SCRIPTURES:

Jeremiah 29:11
Psalm 37:37,38
Psalm 27:4
Jeremiah 31:17

Thanks for your continued prayers. I will remember these words from Power of a Praying Husband:
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Restoration takes time and requires a miraculous touch from God. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Time and Miracles!

Things are slowly looking better. Praise God!

H_P

Hey everyone,

Is there anyone else out there that is having a hard time praying today. You know, distracted, not able to focus, stuff like that?

S&C

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steadfast and commited...
the answer is yes...it seems there are times when the mind wanders and runs wild with its own thoughts and its hard to reign in...But I come in here in the prayer part and read the words of those hurtting and it boosts me up to send out lifting words if I am able....

Please add us to your list.

Tony and Julie

hurt...

Thanks for the reply. Actually after thinking about it, it feels more like loneness today; not lack of focus or distraction. Does that make sense?

TROD - We gotcha covered. Anything specific?

Bless you all today.

S&C

Stead
Its the feeling of loneness tha tdraws deeper into the word and to God himself. For without him we can do nothing. Yes I know tha tfeeling, of being by yoiurself in a crowded room, of a lonliness nothing can quench, its when I dig a littl deeper and pray a little harder...You are in my thoughts and prayers my friend in faith.

You all simply MUST go to this site!!

http://www.marriagedivorce.com/mdgodswordfulltext.htm

hurt...

Yes I know that feeling too. But I was thinking more like feeling lonely as I have been praying today.

I'm not sure I can explain this right. But, most of the time I don't feel alone when I pray on Weds., and I feel power during my prayer time. Today, I don't have the same feeling, I feel like there are less people joining in. That's why I asked if people were distracted today. Am I making sense? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

Thanks for the prayers anyway. Can't have enough covering in my book.

Bless you.

S&C

S & C..... I am praying today. I have such emotions going the last two weeks I can't explain it. I haven't stopped praying for everyones marriage but I havent always checked in and prayed for everyone by name the last few weeks but I am starting again today.

I think we all feel that lonely feeling sometimes. It is like you are the only one praing for your situation when in fact you know there are lots of people praying for you. It is hard to explain but be assured that God is listening.

I think you have more people praying and checking in than you realize.

Love in Christ
cajunky

Hey caj...

Good to hear from you. I think I might have given the wrong impression. I certainly didn't think I was the only one praying. I know full well there are quite a few people that pray every Wed. It was just a feeling I had today and couldn't seem to shake.

BTW what are you doing up so late? Hope things are going ok with you. Did you get my e-mail?

lupo... well by dear lady. How did you come accross the link you showed us? That's a lot of info.

It was nice to hear from ya'll. Bless you very very much.

S&C

Would you please me so kind to add my marriage to your prayer list. (I am the BS)

I am really struggling with doing God's will. I would rather leave then feel all this pain day in and day out. My H and I had quite an emotional conversation yesterday. We are going backward at a steady rate and I don't know how much longer I can hold on.

We have called an intermission until Sunday night when we will talk more. My H is the type of man that has to think before he speaks. I laid quite a bit on him last night so he wants time to think. It is a good idea because I can think also.

Please pray that God's will be done in both our lives plus our marriage will move forward not backward.

I was really not sure if my marriage is God's will. I read the postings before mine and I see that it is but I do not have the strength to go on.

England98,

I certainly will add your name. I haread haven't read your story yet but I think I can tell one thing.

God's will for you is for you to become more itimate with Him. You do that by spending time with Him in Prayer, reading His word, worship and fellowshipping with other believers. That is also His will for your H as well.

God is a passionate lover the desires nothing less than for us to know Him well. As this takes place you will see that no matter what the enemy throws at your M; it will no only survive, it will be better than you could have ever imagined.

But it means that you don't just sit passively and have God do all the work. The tools and principles here at this site are excellent. Please make sure both of you read up on them and use them.

God will give you strength lay the burden on Him and get close to Him.

Bless you.

S&C

S&C,
It's ok, sometimes I feel that way, but I always come here and you always say something that helps.

I just want you to know that I was praying yesterday and for everyone by name. I really felt everyone's prayers yesterday.

I have renewed hope when I had lost all hope. Thanks everyone.

cajeanie

S&C,

Well, it's funny you should ask where that stuff came from.......

Actually, I DON'T KNOW!!! The nearest thing I can figure out......GOD SENT IT TO ME!!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

The chain of events is as follows:
Wednesday 2 weeks ago, our pastor preached on the commandment which says, "Thou shalt not commit adultery...." I wrote about it here.........I was very conflicted...........I wrote a note to the pastor. Gave it to him that next Sunday, he read it, and Wednesday night before last, we had a nice conversation, but ended in (basically) a disagreement on the issue of whether or not one is still "bound" to the M if one's S commits adultery. My pastor believes adultery "breaks" the covenant, and releases the "innocent" party, so you are free to divorce. I believe God says, "Yes, you MAY divorce (is permitted), but I HATE Divorce" essentially saying "If you want to please Me, DON'T DO IT!"

All this conversation going on while in the backdrop, there's this guy at the church who's somewhat interesting.......I wrote about all this already........

Sooooooo, here I was, essentially beginning to think God was saying, "Move on..........here, I brought someone along, who might turn out to be a nice companion........Pastor is saying it's OK............"

So I'm getting confused (we all know where THAT comes from, right?). I am praying that God would let me know which is right. After all, I'm tired of being alone, too!! I would like to be w/my H......I miss him.............although he obviously is not missing ME. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

I'm getting weary...........etc, etc. Am I really supposed to stay ALONE???

Soooooooo, then along comes day before yesterday. I open my email, and there's a post from a "Steve Williams" - that's pretty funny to me, cause I have a student in my class named Steve Williams..........an eleven year old boy!!!! Errrrr, I pretty much figured it wasn't from him...........

So the topic line says: "God can stop a divorce." Ooooooooooookay...........

Open it up, and Voilá!!!!!!! This is IT!!!

Sooooo, long story (made longer), S&C, I honestly DO NOT KNOW how this came to be mailed to ME!!!!!!!!!!

I'm sticking to my story. God sent it to me! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> I hope you all enjoy reading it as much as I am.

P.S. I just jumped to the "Bottom Line." It's pretty much condensed to the final analysis down at the bottom........