I just had another blow out fight with my husband, who is close to divorcing me. I'm left feeling sad, confused, desperate, and in great need of prayer and help. I am a believer but my husband is not. We have a beautiful son who is almost a year old. I took a vow that I feel should not be broken but sometimes I think divorce would be easier than what I am going through right now. My husband was out drinking came home and woke me up to yell and swear and blame everything that is wrong with our marriage on me. He thinks I am the one that needs help and will not admit that there is a greater issue with our marriage and that we both need help. He thinks his physical needs are more important than my emotional needs. My spirit is broken and I need the Lord to provide some major healing. Prayer and counseling seem to be my only hope. At least he agreed to go to counseling before he went to sleep in the guest bedroom. Please pray for us.

zipknee, Sorry for your situation. I will definitely pray for you. Even if your husband won't get help together, you should still seek it for yourself. Especially with a one year old at home. It is a very stressful time in your life to have a small, dependent child that needs you almost 24 hours a day, let alone having to deal with your marriage now.

Seek out a pastor or counselor. It may infinitely improve your outlook which may reflect back to your husband. Continue your daily (or in my case, minute-by-minute) prayer. Keep the Lord top of mind and he will guide you.

Faithfully,

Dear heavenly Father, I lift zipknee's marriage up to you and I ask that You would restore it into a Godly marriage. Lord, You said that " You can make a way where there is no way ". I ask that You would minister to the both of them day and night. That you would show the both of them the right path and that it is the only way to true happiness because it is from You. Lord, I ask that You would put strong unwaivering christians in ther path that will speak your truth to both of them. Father, give them wisdom. Bring total healing to this marriage. In Jesus name. Amen

Zipknee:

Have you considered agreeing with your husband that you are the one that needs help?

I know when my wife and I had problems I agreed to go to counseling only because I was hoping a good counselor would be able to determine it was her that really needed the help. At one time during our sessions, she yelled at the counselor "Why are you focusing on me, he is the one that needs the help".

Needless to say, her eyes were opened, and I thanked God for using me as the vehicle to help her.

Your husband has agreed to go to counseling, and I would suggest that while you are unequally yoke, you humble yourself and show him what Jesus’ love and compassion looks like. As a non-believer he will always be looking for ways to shot holes in your belief.

Finally, Jesus instructed us to Believe, have Faith. Follow His guidance.

You are in my prayers.

Thank you all for your prayers. God continues to bring peace to the situation. Things have improved since the fight. My husband realized that he went overboard with his reaction and I am concentrating on my side of the situation with hopes that he will then see what needs to be fixed on his side. I still hold strong to my faith and hope through my actions God will open my husbands eyes to His glory. Thank you again for the prayers. My God continue to give us all strength through all our struggles.

I include those here at the Marriage Builders web site in my daily devotional. I try to be specific when those of us ask and will lift you up in prayer. Like Suebee my daily prayers are more like minute to minute! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

zipknee, I'm married to an unbeliever also. Sometimes its hard to do but we have to stay focused on Jesus and not dwell on their issues. Mesoftball is right, though they may not say it they are watching us and we may be the only 'Jesus' they see. Ask God to love your husband through you and give you eyes to see him as He does. God loves your husband very much and it hurts Him more than we know when your H rejects Him.

When your husband does things that upset you try to remember Proverbs 31:26 "She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness".

Father, in the name of our beloved Jesus, I ask for Your intervention in this family. Lord, please give this man ears to hear You and a heart that is open to You. Father please pour out Holy Spirit conviction upon him, drawing him close to You. Let him hunger and thirst for the things of God. Let him see that it is You that he needs to fill the void in his life. Lord, please direct zipknee in all things, speak through her and love her husband through her. Let her husband's heart be softened towards her and You. Father I thank You for the great things You are doing in this family, and give all praise and glory to You. Thank You Father that zipknee's husband will be a born again believer, that You will order his steps and direct all his paths. In Jesus' name I pray, AMEN!