My husband is having an affair. He says he is in love with her (together for less than 6 months) and she is pregnant (5 weeks). I am very much in love with my husband and can't bear the thought of losing him. He keeps me grounded and steady.

Now I must rely on God to keep me steady. I should have been doing this all along, but I seem to have lost focus in the last few years. I was always a very positive person, cheering everyone up, giving a helping hand when needed, encouraging and listening. But somewhere along the way I started to be negative. Negative thoughts and I guess that led to negative actions. I am working on myself right now. Doing lots and lots of praying! Trying to get myself back to my relationship with God. Trying to be there for our children. Some days have been good, some days I can't get out of bed and cry all day.

Now I will rely on God to keep me steady. Would appreciate your prayers, too.

So many have gone thru this. It doesn't mean he won't be there. He is just messed up right now. I have read about great survival stories even with OC. He really messed up and I am so sorry for your pain.

I always say when live hands you lemons, make lemonade. It will be OK and I will pray for you.

New Jersey, I'm sorry for your misfortune. It seems the stories are a lot alike on MB. Does your H know that you are still in love with him? Have you told him that you are willing to reconcile, if you are. Sometimes the worse victims are the children. If they are young enough, maybe they can't fully understand what is going on. There are good counseling services that may provide more professional advice outside of MB, but then again, this is home for a lot of us. Best of luck with H and kids. If you still love him, let him know. Try to work it out, if you can forgive him.

Suebee,

I don't have any words of advice (since I'm still struggling with my M) but I can imagine how hard it can be with an OC. That has always been my fear.

Please do know that I will be praying for you. Relying on God will definitely keep you steady. I've been separated for a while now and I truly believe the only reason I'm still around is because God loves me SO MUCH!!! Keep your eyes focused on Him and you will see his mighty hands at work.

God be with you in your times of trouble and pain. Just remember, you are his precious child and he will NEVER abandon you.

Hugs (((((((suebee))))))))

H98

Estelle, yes I have definitely told him I am still in love with him and will always be here for him. I know that I can forgive him even though I have heard this story about someone else and thought they were crazy to do so. I see some signs that he is still in love with me and maybe he just can't admit it. Affairs can be so addicting, I guess.

Our children are 8 and 10. I'm sure they know that there is something going on. I can't eat and that's a big change from the past! They are constantly hugging me and telling me they love me. They are keeping me on this earth!

H and I are going to go to counseling. I'm working right now on where and when ... emergency for sure! Unfortunately, he is traveling leaving on Tuesday afternoon and coming back on Thursday. I never used to worry about him on business trips, but this has thrown a wrench into my trusting him.

I pray every minute for help from God. I'm trying to remain positive. Trying to smile even when I don't feel like smiling. Can't sit down. The house is [censored]-and-span now <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Thank you for all your prayers. I have faith that God will guide my H in what he is supposed to do.

SueBee, your story breaks my heart! I am so sorry you are having to go through this. I am praying for you and your husband, for His great comfort and peace for you. I pray the Lord will bless you and your husband's time together and He will lead you to the right counselor. I will be praying for a breakthrough for you. God bless,

AW