My husband and I have been seperated since December 2002. He is a FWH and says he no longer wants to be married. The reason I am posting here is because he is in the military and will be leaving for Iraq on Friday (though the date may change). I pray for him everyday but I'm sure he needs more than my prayers. I have forgiven him and am scared for him being over there.

My life is enough turmoil without having to worry about him in war now. I don't want my marriage to end and having been working on myself. I don't like the idea of him going over there while we are still in limbo. Divorce papers have not been filed and neither of us have seen a lawyer. I want my marriage back, but at the same time, I'm ready to let him go. My only prayer now is for him to return safely.

Hi Lunadove,

Just wanted to let you know that I will be praying for you and your H.

I just started reading a book called "The Prodigal's Perspective" by Bob Steinkamp from Rejoice Ministries and I want to share something I highlighted......

"Everyone else is probably tellin you, so I might as well also; your prodigal spouse has their own free will. What others are neglecting to see is that we have a Heavenly Father who has a thousand ways to change that will. If I sat on a tack, I have a "free will" to stay seated, but you know how fast I would jump up! May God put out some holy tacks today."

Be strong!

H98

I would encourage you to NOT file the papers while he is deployed. He is under enough stress already, though much of it is his own fault. I live and minister near a major military base and have frequent contact with military families in conflict. I have seen instances where a spouse will be deployed, spend time in reflection and prayer, and come back changed for the better. Call it foxhole religion or whatever but it works in most cases. Please consider letting him go with your blessings and prayers and let God in His timing accomplish something for you. Concentrate on changing yourself during this time - grow close to kids if you have any - establish contact with a good support group - have fun - grow as a person, etc. Please be patient as your M is worth saving. God bless!

First off, thanks for the replys and I'm glad to know that people are praying for us.

Hopeful,
I'm planning on buying some books from Rejoice Ministiries. I've been reading their website and most of what they say makes sense. It doesn't help that a friend told me if I ever got back with him she would kill me. Anyway, I still love him.

hurting,
I do not plan to send him divorce papers. I have never betrayed him and I don't want to do it when he's under enough stress. I have told him that I am no longer angry (I'm really not) and that I have forgiven him (I really have). I wanted him to atleast know that. After I told him that weeks ago, he started to act like his old self.

He is shipping out tomorrow. Gets his orders in the morning. He'll have a stop in Germany and then to Iraq. I'm really worried about him, but I know he is in God's hands. I will continue to pray for him.