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Every Wed. we pray and fast for one another. Every Weds we can check in and let everyone know we have prayed for the group. Prayer does mighty things and group prayer is even better.

I think it will be great to see how God works in our lives and heals our marriages and us. If you want to pray with us I will be more than happy to add your name to the list below.

Prayer Warriors who are praying and being prayed for: cajunky, Ezra, Willgetthruthis, Godisincontrol, Natasha79, JohnC, NMWBTWBD (Not My Will, But Thy Will Be Done, Wallace, relady, steadfast and committed, morriggs, lupolady, stillwaiting, Broken Hearted, PasDeDeux, hopeful_person, GinnyF, justpeachy, cry2much, SNL, LostAgain (Dave&April), Dodger, gloriachu, LoveNcare, JMF, WEN, NiteHawk, Absurd, LetSTry, AgainsttheWind, cemmerson, getting better, kellidiane, Terrified, BeeLee, idostylin, Resilient, thiscantbehappening, day by day, Jloves, broken x3, Sue with Hope, sunrise1, shepette, Malc, Faithfulwife, timbo-e, Angelia, FeelingAllAlone, broken_joe, dopey, awake, truly a friend, Is it to late, stilltryingtosaveit, landslide, GODBLESSU, vega, LoyalWarrior, janna-m-r, ferbie, epiphOny, simmy, cajeanie, d_rose, lost_lonely, briank4775, mayflower, Caged_Bird, LunaDove, goldielocks109, darwud, Mrs. darwud, Zuzus Petals, adamv, Army Hubby, Gail (mojodiva)& Shane, bonnie five & H, TryingToKeepHope, Hopeful98, lghoping, SoTired (Mike & Trish), evega, Douglas and Kirsi Nielson, Jessicafl27, kimmy2, auntielala, weezy8550, miserynmissouri, STBXWife, sealfan, Jen Brown, LunaDove, SMIAJ, cinderella, day by day, GreggC, trying_to_accept, solon, serenitydipity, ilia, lonejrock, anchorhugger, Prayer & Patience, Chikar, Alex6, Hopeforamiracle, fishlady, rookie, Made A Mess of Things, *DeepSigh*, boden, new comittment, deeplyhurting, jeff15679, Bob Castaldi, k57mo, skottyjay (Scott and Melody), TROD (Tony and Julie), thisso, ladysheep, hurtmorethanheknows, singleguy, tryingTOsaveMYmarriage, Keesley, recovering_dad, terrianna, javaContour, BH

Prayers Answered: Lupolady(air conditioner), Steadfastandcommitted (first string again), cry2much(sucessful surgery), Movingonwithlife(Wife coming home), WGTT(accepted into mentor program), betrayed and desparate (sucessful cancer surgery), Againstthewind (Got job), Free (Marriage Restoration begun ), cajunky (wife not engaged & did something with family, told me she loved me), Stillwaiting (neice is o.k.), Stillwaiting(Got to see her husband for 2 hours and his heart seems to have softened), Steadfastandcommitted (wife gave up other man), janna-m-r (Husband came home and wants to try to restore marriage even though he is the BS), tsc (marriage being restored), Faithfulwife (GOT A JOB, Found a house, D is final and got a puppy that “just LOVES me”), d_rose (got a ways to go but we are going there together.), WGTT (WH coming home), GreggC (wife's heart is softening a bit and son asking about things in the Bible and believes in it), hopeful_person (H seemed more willing to consider a reconciliation),

[bold]Meet Me in the Stairwell[/bold]
Author: Unknown
Source: http://www.new-life.net/favrt26.htm

You say you will never forget where you were when you heard the news on September 11, 2001? Neither will I.

I was on the 110th floor in a smoke-filled room with a man who called his wife to say "Goodbye." I held his fingers steady as he dialed. I gave him the peace to say, "Honey, I am not going to make it, but it is okay...I am ready to go."

I was with his wife when he called as she fed breakfast to their children. I held her up as she tried to understand his words and as she realized he wasn't coming home that night.

I was in the stairwell of the 23rd floor when a woman cried out to Me for help. "I have been knocking on the door of your heart for 50 years!" I said. "Of course I will show you the way home - only believe in Me now."

I was at the base of the building with the priest ministering to the injured and devastated souls. I took him home to tend to his flock in Heaven. He heard my voice and answered.

I was on all four of those planes, in every seat, with every prayer. I was with the crew as they were overtaken. I was in the very hearts of the believers there, comforting and assuring them that their faith has saved them.

I was in Texas, Kansas, London. I was standing next to you when you heard the terrible news. Did you sense Me?

I want you to know that I saw every face. I knew every name - though not all know Me. Some met Me for the first time on the 86th floor.

Some sought Me with their last breath.

Some couldn't hear Me calling to them through the smoke and flames; "Come to Me...this way...take my hand." Some chose, for the final time, to ignore Me. But, I was there.

I did not place you in the Tower that day. You may not know why, but I do. However, if you were there in that explosive moment in time, would you have reached for Me?

September 11, 2001 was not the end of the journey for you. But someday your journey will end. And I will be there for you as well. Seek Me now while I may be found. Then, at any moment, you know you are "ready to go."

I will be in the stairwell of your final moments.

God

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Many of us are on that stairwell right now in our marriages. Though we are not at that final moment of life, we are feeling as though it is. We are filled with sadness, grief, anger, fear. At these times, look right next to you and you will see God. You might not think He hears you, but He does. When you entered this world, you were innocent and pure. The world has added too much baggage that you cannot bring with you into heaven. He wants to lighten your load by teaching you patience, humility, peace, trust, honesty, commitment, respect.
We do not know His perfect plan for us, but we should remember He is always there, standing by our side, waiting for us to come to Him.

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I was worried because it was past 11 pm on Tuesday night and I did not see the Restoration post for this week, so....

I find a lot peace, consolation and hope from these posts, and as it is said His Word, "For where two or three have gathered together in My name, I am there in their midst." Matt 18:20.
Every Wednesday, I take a break at work and walk around my building, reading each name in the list.

Another sign. This past Thursday, my wife and I got into an arguement (nothing like before I confessed Jesus as my Lord and Saviour), and we talked a while later. I kept my mouth shut most of the time and at one point she asked 'why men are afraid of losing thier jobs?' I answered, "Because the most important people in our lives are our wives and our children, and we want to make sure we can provide for them." She replied, "Well, some men think that gives them the right to cheat." I did not react externally, but I knew it was directed towards me. Then she held up her hand, almost apologetically, and said, "I am not talking about you." Amazing.
Later, when she returned from shopping she was cold again. She had let me get too close and was opening up to me, being appreciative of my being there to listen to her.

On Saturday, I had a session with my former therapist, her current therapist, and heard some insightful things. He has been trying to get her to have a session with me, to see if anything can be resolved. He told me she refused, and that it was over, she was moving on. I found out most of what she has been telling me about myself in this marriage, is really about her. She has ignoring or shutting out anyone who suggests she give us another chance.
God was showing me how much Satan is influencing her. And how I need to continue to work on my salvation and He will work on her heart. This is difficult to hear and grasp, BUT if He wants it, it will happen....IF IT IS HIS WILL. He knows what is best for us.

Long story....whew.
So, I ask that you pray for God to soften my wife's heart as He did on Thursday. That each time her heart is softened, Satan will losen his grip and my wife realize what she is doing and give our family another chance.

May God Bless all of us in our marriages and give us the gifts we need to become the men and women He intends for us.
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ttsmm,

Hey, thanks for putting this up. I checked this morning and thought if no one else did, I would do it tonight, so I am glad you did.

It means so much to me too, so everyone keep praying for us.

Thanks,Cajenie

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I'll be praying for you all this evening. Thank you for keeping the group going. I know it is such a source of strength and reassurance to those who are struggling, not to mention the very real power of our collective prayers!
Praise the Lord for the great work He has done for S&C! My own marriage has experienced a healing that is nothing short of miraculous, and I have no doubt that giving myself to the Lord whole-heartedly and putting that relationship first got things rolling in the right direction. I pray for similar miracles in all the marriages represented here.
Please pray for my parents, married 32 years, who are struggling. My mom is Saved, father isn't at all and sees her faith as a bunch of nonsense. They were a source of strength for me 6 months ago, and now need help themselves.
Please continue to pray for my marriage, too. Things are so much better, but we're not out of the woods yet.
Thanks so much!

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I'll be praying for you all this evening. Thank you for keeping the group going. I know it is such a source of strength and reassurance to those who are struggling, not to mention the very real power of our collective prayers!
Praise the Lord for the great work He has done for S&C! My own marriage has experienced a healing that is nothing short of miraculous, and I have no doubt that giving myself to the Lord whole-heartedly and putting that relationship first got things rolling in the right direction. I pray for similar miracles in all the marriages represented here.
Please pray for my parents, married 32 years, who are struggling. My mom is Saved, father isn't at all and sees her faith as a bunch of nonsense. They were a source of strength for me 6 months ago, and now need help themselves.
Please continue to pray for my marriage, too. Things are so much better, but we're not out of the woods yet.
Thanks so much!

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Oops! Didn't mean to double-post!

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ttsmm,
May the very words you spoke be our prayer and we ask it in Jesus name. Amen
singleguy

PS: May God bless you for keeping the Wednesday prayer group going.

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I thought I'd contribute a prayer for today, in honor of my parents. I got this from www.abundantlivesminisry.org

A Prayer For My Husband
By: Annie Osbourn
April 10, 2003
"Lord, in the name of Jesus and through His precious blood",
open my husbands spiritual eyes and ears,
delivering him from darkness into Your light and truth.
Set him free from all of satan's bondages, evil schemes, deceptions
and plans to destroy his soul and our marriage.

Show him your unconditional love and forgiveness LORD
and call your lost sheep unto you.
Father, I ask and pray that you touch my beloved right now,
wherever he is, showing him the fire and power of
"Your Holy Spirit".

Your word says that You will remove his heart of stone,
giving him a new heart of flesh, with a new spirit and that
"I and all my household will be saved."
Sanctify my husband through me Father, as we are one flesh in Your eyes.
And restore to us and our marriage, 100 fold, what you intended us to be all along.

Build our hearts and home upon the "Rock of Jesus Christ,"
so we may go forth with the fruits of healing and restoration,
serving you through our faith and testimony together.
LORD, expand our borders and help us to lead others to You,
while giving You ALL the"Praise, Honor and Glory."

"Bless him with Your peace that truly surpasses all understanding."
Grant me "Oh LORD," my hearts desire, as I yield and commit my life unto You.
I trust in and radiantly look to You, I shall not be ashamed.
Save my husband, bringing him to a heartfelt, accepting and saving knowledge
of Jesus Christ as his LORD and Savior.

Guide his heart, plans and direction, making his crooked paths straight.
Give him a sound mind and please meet him on the Damascus road.
My husbands heart is like channels of rivers in Your hands.
Turn his heart away from sin and back home to "You and I."
He can come home to us both, with complete forgiveness and unconditional love.

For your word says Father, that You hate divorce.
And what therefore GOD has joined together,
"let no man separate."
Thank You for Your love and word Father, they shall not return void.
"In Jesus most Holy Name, Amen!"

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Janna,

Thank you for that prayer. Would you please pray with me in agreement for my WH, Dan? Thanks.

I am glad to hear about your and your family, and will definetly include your Mom and Dan also in my prayers today.

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Correction to he link in janna-m-r post above.

Abundant Life Marriage Ministries

GOd Bless,
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Would you please add Cheryls to your prayer list for restoration of my marriage. Thanks

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Poppin' in to pray.

Bless everyone.

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