Hello All,

Day 7
The reason for everything

P2P: It's all about him.
answer: Yes we were put here by God to serve God, Love Him, Praise Him, Trust Him, Live for Him so we will have Eternity!

V2R: see above

Q2C: Where in my daily routine can I become more aware of God's glory?
answer: I need to give God more glory for all I have by not worrying about what is thrown in my lap. He can handle all that comes to me if I give it to him. By loving all people including my lawyer and not grumbling that my WH did this... and that probably would be a good start!

God Bless all of you!

My Brothers and Sisters,

I scheduled the call tonight (last time for a Wednesday). Will have new schedule tomorrow/end of week.

Conference Details

Date: Wednesday, November 05, 2003
Start Time: 7:30 p.m. Eastern Std Time
End Time: 10:25 p.m. Eastern Std Time
Participants: 10
Type of Conference: Web-Scheduled Standard
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May God give us His Graces throughout the day,
Trying <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

ttsmm,
I am with you brother. I am sorry you are going thru what you are going thru. I ask God to give you courage and peace at the right times. I don't have a computer at home. I wouldn't get anything done if I did. But it is easy for me to go to the office. I just saddle up one of the cows!!!! Just a little humor!!! You know the old saying "a man's work is never done". Well, it's true!!! So I do laundry, and cleaning, and grocery shopping, and all those other things at nite.

Lupo,
Yes, I have a little bit of that stinker personality, but always good, not bad. I only pick on people I like, and I think you two girls are grrrrrreat!!!! Laughter truly is the best medicine, and I use it a lot. If I didn't, I could easily be depressed. Most people don't know what I have been thru, like with my daughter. I chose to be happy inspite of all the tragedies.

God Bless
singleguy

Day 7

P2P: Everything created, including us, was to bring glory to God.

V2R: Every breathe we take is because he gives it to us. Every second is His.

Q2C: By just thinking for a second about everything I look at. God is in all natural things. God's presence is everywhere we go. He said He would never leave us or forsake us. If He can't leave us, He is always close by.

singleguy

<small>[ November 05, 2003, 02:03 PM: Message edited by: singleguy ]</small>

Hello Groupy!

Day 8 Planned for God's Pleasure

P2P: I was planned for God's Pleasure.

Think about this: it is just like when we were born to our earthly parents and how happy they were. They had lots of plans for us. God is our heavenly Father and he was there also and so happy about our birth and plans for our life! This gives me great comfort!

V2R:The Lord takes pleasure in his people
God loves to see us happy. when we are angry he also is as he does not like to see us misused. when we are sad he also is sad. God wants us to enjoy our stay here until he brings us home to a much better life. To do this we need to worship him and give him the glory he deserves.

Q2C: What common task could I start doing as if I were doing it directly for Jesus?
My answer to this would be to do everything with the grace of God in mind. I do think alot of God and what he has done for me in my life and I am so grateful and try to give God praise often. Without him for many years I would not have survived. He is my true friend.

God Bless all and I pray on this Wed that all MBer's will be held tight by our Lord and peace and goodness will come to all. To the Father, Son and Holy Spirit that we give you all the Glory Amen.

Start w/o me <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

W is home. Weather is bad so she is not going to the gym.

I know I must appear like a wimp, and right now I want to avoid confrontation.

God's Blessings to all,
Trying <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

OK girls, where are you? I logged into the conference at 6:29, and it is now 6:36. In 4 minutesI will call it quits. Thank God the "farm boy" is responsible!!!!! I may have to pick on you two a little!!!!

singleguy

LoveNcare,
It was a pleasure talking with you last nite. May God answer your every prayer in the way that He has planned so that it blesses you richly. I admire what you are doing, and will agree with you in prayer.
I am gone all day and part of this evening, so I will post tomorrow morning.

God Bless
singleguy

Day 8
P2P: "I was planned was God's pleasure."
Because He is a Loving God, I KNOW He does not experience pleasure when I am in pain. As any Good Father, He does not delight in chastising us, be He must when I am disobedient.

V2R: "The Lord takes pleasure in His people."

Q2C: "What common task could I start doing as if I were doing it directly for Jesus."
- driving the car
- playing with the kids
- talking with Marie
- ALL activities at work

Other:
p65: "Every part of a church service is an act of worship:..."
This is completely new to me; but makes complete sense.
p66 "...there are benefits to worship, but we don't worship to please ourselves."
I have always been selfish in this: what can I..., or, I din't get/feel anything from this Mass, etc. today.
p67 "Work becomes worship when you dedicate it to God and perform it with an awareness of His presence."
By doing this, it can also keep me away rfm sinning. If I know/feel/believe God/Jesus/Holy Spirit are around me, and I offer EVERYTHING, it's difficult to stray.

May God give His Blessings,
Trying <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Day 9
P2P: "God smiles when I trust Him."

V2R: "The Lord is pleased with those who worship Him and trust His Love."

Q2C: "Since God knows what is best, in what areas of my life do I need to trust Him more?."
- my marriage
- parenting
- career
- using His gifts to me
- relationships
- EVERYTHING


Other:
p71: "In what areas of your life do you need to trust God completely?"
That He will save my wife and my marriage.
p72: "...doing whatever God asks without reservation or hesitation."
This is tough for me because I have yet to HEAR God's Voice. I do get "ideas" and "signs" though.
p72: "Often we try to offer God partial obedience."
Obedience is the most difficult for me. I feel I was a very obedient son to my parents. I did not rebel in my teenage years. I rebeled after I was 21. Since that time until recent I have a constant battle inside between authority and my not being controlled.
p74: "God enjoys watching every detail of your life,..."
It's good for me to be reminded of this. Reduces guilt of not always doing spiritual things.
p75: "He gave you eyes to enjoy beauty, ..."
When I was out on the TRO, I went to a nude beach. At first it was a slick way, I thought, to see some naked women. But I saw God's beautiful creation: fat, thin, young, old, man, woman, and it was ALL beautiful. Because they weren't wearing clothes there was no judgement on my part.
p76: "Parents do not require their children to be perfect, or even MATURE, in order to enjoy them. They enjoy them at every stage of development."
If a spouse is filled with so much anger, resentment, distrust and DOESN'T believe in God, they might feel otherwise: my W.


May God give His Blessings,
Trying

<small>[ November 06, 2003, 10:56 PM: Message edited by: tryingTOsaveMYmarriage ]</small>

I received some nice prayers from several MBers and I want to thnk you. I know God has put us together for HIS PURPOSE.

I just needed to vent, and since Day 9 was about Trusting God, I NEED to let go of these feelings today.
I am really thinking that there is something chemically unbalanced with my W. I told her yesterday, our D's gymnastics class was at 5:20. She calls me at work today to say she was not feeling well, and if I could take her? No problem. I had to remind her that her class was at 5:20 and Friday's was at 4:10. She calls me on the way home from work around 3:55 and said that our D was going to be late for gymnastics. I had to remind her again that today was Thurs and her class was at 5:20.
When I came home, I wnet upstairs first to see hwo she was. "Are you felling better?", I said. "Are you taking <our D> to gymnastics?" she replied, almost peeved that I aksed about her health.
OK, that isn't so bad? The dishes are piled high. She's complained when I do them (her dishes) because she says she won't do mine. OK, and I am not going to have a kitchen full of dirty dishes.
Then, tonight, when I am about to go online, I can'r find my wireless card for my laptop. I placed it on top of the entertainment center. I ask her, she doesn't know where it is. Our D wants to help look for it, and when I tell her where I had put it, she tells me mommy cleaned up there today. My W lied, or forgot? I found the card down in the basement.

Anyway thanks for letting me vent. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

God's Mercy and Grace,
Trying <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

TTSMM,
You have the strength of 10 Bulls strung together now add 10 more for faith!

God Love you and keep you

Hello ,
Day 9
What makes God Smile?
Everything we do good makes God smile. He loves when we are praying to him and for others. He loves all our daily chores that we do for him. He loves or every moment we are enjoying his beautiful world.

P2P: God smiles when I trust him.
This is a hard one for many of us. For me it is worrying about finances - I should trust God totally. I do add this in my prayers each day many times as I am always fighting with worry. The other day I received in the mail a packet from my lawyers. I thought it was all for court. It was, but it included statements from my WH that he got fired and was begging the court to dissolve my support. If it should happen I would be in the welfare lines and loose my home. I now have no health insurance! It is very hard not to worry! Yes I have to fight with myself again as my throat gets tight and my heart pounds. Any comments will be greatly appreciated!

V2R: "The Lord is pleased with those who worship him and trust his love."
I have work to do in this area! I worship the Lord and trust his love, but fall short at times.

Q2C: Since God knows what is best, in what areas of my life do I need to trust him most?
My answer to this question is that I trust him enough to give him total control of my life.
The areas are for making my husband a better person so our marriage can be restored, and letting me know where I fall short. Knowing God will not let me fail in anything.

God Bless all of you

Hi Everyone,
Day 8

P2P: Remember when you and your mate talked about having a child, or another child? And how everything revolved around that coming day.How excited you got as the day drew nearer. And then the big day when they were born, and you just couldn't love em enough!!!!!

V2R: Have you ever been to a family reunion, and watched how the kids were off playing in the yard, and the women were busy getting the food ready, and the men were setting up tables and chairs. Everyone was happy and busy at the same time. All functioning in the game of life, so to speak.

Q2C: My desire should be to be a joy in the presence of my creator. To bring Him joy and satisfaction. Someone who is thankful for what has been given to me..., and worship Him for it!!!!

singleguy

<small>[ November 07, 2003, 03:59 PM: Message edited by: singleguy ]</small>

LoveNcare,
Thanks for the great discussion the Wednesday nite. I admire and support you for standing for your marriage. I also thank you for several comments, but the one about God may know something I don't really sunk in. I receive your wisdom on that.

God Bless You
singleguy

Day 9

P2P: When the kids trust you totally, because they know you have nothing bust the best planned for them, how can you not be happy? It's the same with God and us. We are the children of God!!!

V2R: He wants to be our everything and He wants relationship with us.And He wants us to thank Him for it.

Q2C: When my prayers aren't answered right away. I need to know that He IS doing something. I may not know what, but He is doing something for my good.

singleguy

Hello Singleguy,
Thank you for your nice comments and prayers!
After we got off the phone I did my usual chores - dogs, cats and dishes then went to watch HGTV, one of my favorites! While watching this many things throughout our conversation hit me in the head. My thoughts or was it a vision into the darkest part of our being, showed me something I have not considered. Sometimes we get lost in our everyday journeys: happiness, working, sorrows, selfishness, raising kids, our marriages, other family matters. Most of the time we try hard to live life good, but what we think is good is not God's word! I had married a few to many times and had a life that did not include God as he would have wanted it. I prayed and tried to live right, but did not put God first. I remarried, all husbands were adulters. I believe now that God wanted me back doing life his way - living his word! I was very much a Christian in my younger days, but got caught up in my own life. I do not know totally why God has pulled at my heart now? I have vowed never to leave his side again. I have alot to learn, it may take the rest of my life and I am willing because God has forgiven me.
I still believe God wants you to figure out what he wants from you. You said you asked him to pull out the roots. Maybe he was not ready, but did as you asked. go from there!

May God Bless you and Show you His Light.

Hello TTSMM, Lupolady and Singleguy,

Day 10
The Heart of Worship

P2P: the Hear of Worship is surrender.
This chapter was a hard one on my part because I did not do this for so many years. We have to trust God totally and surrender our life to him. That includes Friends, family, money, problems, decision will be tested. God uses the people whom surrender their life to him for his purpose. Example: Jesus's Mother Mary was choosen by God as she lived for him!

V2R: " Surrender your whole being to him to be used for his righteous purpose"

Q2C: What area of my life am I holding back from God?
This book has caused considerable thought, deep digging truths about my life have surfaced and hit me in the head! I have not surrender my total being to God yet. I worry when it would be much easier for me to hand it over to God. Each month since my WH left I have survived. Sometimes by a string, but God is showing me I can let him do everything if I would trust in him. He has shown me I can get through these bills and any other problems that arise! I am learning more each day. Thank you Jesus for my survival, all my new friends here on MB and for this book!

Hi everyone,

All of you are doing so well.

sg,

Sorry I've been a stranger. I got real busy at work and home. I think you and Lupo and I agree for the most part, but if you want to start another thread (although it may be short lived for that topic) we can talk about anything just to share POV's. Or if TTSMM wants to ask questions he can.

Ya'll be good. It's bedtime over here and I need my beauty sleep.

Bless you all.

S&C

LoveNcare,
I am completely convinced that God has put you in my life to help me figure out what He wants me to do. There was a reason why it was just the two of us the other nite. When the divorce was approx two years old, she came over to my house, and told me she wasn't happy. I asked her if she would be willing to go talk to my pastor. She said yes, and so the next afternoon we did. After he had talked to her for awhile, she said that she loved both of us,[ me and the guy she was having the affair with ]. Then she said quite surprisingly " I may be going to hell, but I don't care ". On the way home [ 9 miles ] she said she didn't want to come back. She wanted her freedom. That is when I asked God to pull the roots, even if He was to bring us back together someday. A month later our daughter was killed in a car accident, and that really took it's toll on any contact we had. I really didn't care if I ever saw her again. The very next week after the funeral she was broke up with that guy, and had a new boyfriend. Two months later, they moved to another state, and I only see her two or three times a year for a couple hours each time. They have been together for 5 1/2 years now. Do you remember the part about the baby? That also complicated things.

S&C,
I will start a new thread, and it will be for God's glory. I am still thankful that your marriage is healing and that you are such a wonderfull person and a testimony. One more for the glory of God!!!!!!

God Bless Everyone
singleguy