Please pray for my family me 38, wife 36, Daughter 3 and son 1. My wife gave me the separation paper work Last Sunday. Through God I was able the delay the procceding until after the holidays season. Yesterday She told me that she is still thinking about reconciliation but doesn't know yet which way she is going with it. Please pray to God to open her heart and let it be fill with the love she once had.

jamesp:

It's good to see you here. This is a good group, and everyone will certainly pray for your family, on Wednesday, when we all pray together for all M's to be reconciled.

Remember the directive I gave you on one of your other threads that you must begin "listening" to God yourself, and the way to do that is to Read His Word. I trust you are arming yourself to do that. Get a Bible and start reading in the Gospel of John (4th book in the New Testament). Why not start at the beginning? B/c the Bible isn't the kind of Book you have to read starting from the beginning! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> God can "find" you where ever you start, and He will speak to you where ever you look for HIM!!!

James, as I was recently reminded (by my x-H <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> ) "Everything happens for a reason...." have you thought about what the reason for all this could be? God does not want to mend your M just so the pain will go away, and you can "get on with life as usual."

No. God is doing a work in your M, my friend! God wants YOU (as the head of your home), to draw close to Him, to learn to listen to Him, to learn how to lead your family spiritually, and to learn HOW to love your wife, sacrificially, as Christ loves US!!! I know this might all seem new and difficult to you. But, TRUST ME!!! We are all here to help. There are plenty of men here who understand how this feels to you, and can guide you.

Remember, James, this is all going to take time. Are you willing to invest the time? I'm am talking about maybe months. Or longer. This is not going to be quick fix, James. I hope you realize that. I hope you are reading the Concepts on this site, and trying to learn all you can about what dynamics were out of whack in your M. James, what I'm trying to say is You have a lot of work to do while you wait for your W to come back to the M.

Please go find Mortarman's posts (mostly on GQII). He is very knowledgeable on following God's lead in how to rescue your W from her A. Search for them, and read his answers to others' questions as well.

God Bless,

James, lupolady has given you excellent advice. I'd like to suggest a book to you to read as I think it may really help you in understanding what may have caused your wife to feel the way she does. It is called "If only he knew, Understanding your wife" by Gary Smalley. Here's a link to where you can buy it or get more info.
http://www.christianbook.com/Christ...=151660&event=ESRCN&item_code=WW
Absolutely a must read for any husband whose marriage is having trouble.

I will pray for you and your wife.
Heavenly Father, I pray that You will strengthen the bond between james and his wife. I ask that james' wife will have lasting memories of the good times of their marriage. Father I pray that You would fill her heart with a deep love for her husband. Show her her role in this marriage as You intend it to be.

Holy Spirit, I plead that You will convict james and his wife about the problems in their marriage. I pray that Your conviction would be deep and sharp. Deliver james and his wife from being defensive and self-righteous about the problems in the marriage and Your conviction concerning these things. I pray that james and his wife would humbly accept Your conviction and will change as You deal with them (John 16:7)

Father, in the name of Jesus and by the power of Your Holy Spirit, I plead that james will love his wife as Christ loved the church. Cause them to have a sacrificial and serving love toward each other. Thank You Father for delivering them out of the clutches of the enemy. In Jesus name I pray, AMEN

Amen!

James,

I am glad to see you on the prayer request forum. You will get advise from many wise men and women here. Keep praying , believeing and reading God's word. You are in my prayers.

gentle

lupolady,

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Remember, James, this is all going to take time. Are you willing to invest the time? I'm am talking about maybe months. Or longer. This is not going to be quick fix, James. I hope you realize that. I hope you are reading the Concepts on this site, and trying to learn all you can about what dynamics were out of whack in your M. James, what I'm trying to say is You have a lot of work to do while you wait for your W to come back to the M.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I understand that this will take time. I do pray to God everyday not to let me give up. I have been readign the concept of this site and trying to learn all I can with all you guys help, in which I really do appriciate.

This are trying time for me, my faith need to be strong and I know this.

Yesterday, she call me from work and asked me to bring home some milk for the kids which I agreed to do. At the end of the converation she said "I Love You" then immediately disqualify this by saying that old habbit die hard. I found out today that she has been asking divorced friends that if they regret anything. I'm not sure she is asking because she is having second thought or she is ready for the separation. I'm hoping that due to all the prayers from you good people and myself that God has finally open her heart. Any of you have experience in this and can explain please do.

I'm just rambling on now!!! Please continue to pray for me and my family as I will do the same for all of you.