All,

I'm not sure why, but I feel so down today. After reading all that I can and pray to God as much as I could. I have been doing plan A for a while now and it seems to more I try to more distant she gets. It has been a long time since D-day (more than a year now). Please help me, pray to God that I won't give up this fight.

jamesp:

I totally understand how you feel. The roller-coaster ride is normal. Please try not to get too caught up in the day-to-day battle.

Remember this, God LOVES you more than you can possibly know! God loves your W. God HATES Divorce, and wants more than anything else to see your M reconciled! HOWEVER, He wants MORE THAN THAT even, is for you to come closer to Him, to trust Him totally with your WHOLE LIFE, and know Him better than you ever thought possible.

Have you gotten yourself a Bible? Is there a local church you can go to for an "inspirational message" from God? Is there a local clergy-person or rabbi that you can call and go talk to. Understand that not all of them understand that God wants to heal your M, but right now, God is dealing WITH YOU. He wants to teach YOU and love YOU and heal YOU.

Please give Him the opportunity to work in you. I will pray for you. Remember, it is Wednesday, so prayers are going out for you even as you read this.

Father, I pray for James and his family. Lord, show James how much YOU LOVE HIS FAMILY. Father God, show james Your Perfect Love, reveal your Redeemer Son who died on the cross to save james from all his sins. Lord, in Your own Loving style, please guide james to You, as the head of his household, to decide to follow you, and lead his family in Your ways, also.
We thank You, Jesus, that You never leave us. We thank You that You sent the Comforter to stay with us always - and please, Father, reveal Your comfort and love and peace to James now.

Thank You, Jesus. Thank You for loving us even when we don't feel lovable, thank You for saving us even before we know we have sinned against You! Bring peace to james today, Lord. Show him your Love and give him comfort.

In Jesus' lovely name I pray. Amen

James,

I know your pain. Lupo is right it is a rollercoster. We all have days we want to give up.
You are in my prayers. Hang on.

gentle

Thank You for your prayers guys. I starting to feel better, not much but at least it is better. I have an appointment with my lawyer tomorrow I don't want to go to it, but on the other hand I also need to protect myself. I will be praying hard tonight. Hopefully, God will talk to me and let me know what I have to do.

Hello Jamesp,
We all are including you in our prayers.
Please know our Father walks beside you when you go anywhere. I say a prayer and then within minutes I am fine. Please do not give up on Plan A. Just be kind and agree. God is causing her confusion and we get caught in the middle. My own circumstance at this time has gotten worse, but I know God will intervene once again and smooth it all out. We have to be patient and never forget to pray and give him thanks!

God Bless you and the Grace of God be with you.

Hi All,

I haven't been on in a few days so I decided to give you guys an update and also ask for your prayers.
Friday we had a talk about the separation and it is clear to me that she desire to leave. This broke my heart, but I knew there is nothing I can do about it. I decided to take D to my sister's house for the weekend and hope that with some peace and quiet may help her thinki things through. She insited that O call my lawyer on Monday and start the D process. What should I do? I asked God to give me some sign of what I should do, but so far I have not seen it. Please pray for me to be strong in face of evil and save my family from destruction.

james,

Did you go to the www.restorem.org or the others mentioned? If you didn't , please go and read the testimonies.

As to what to do at this point, nothing but pray and fast and read GOd's word. You can't change your wife's mind. Let God work on you and draw closer to Him. All things are possible with God. It takes time and it is Gods' time not ours.

Please do a search here and read old post from me and others here. If you read mine you will see that God has done much in my life and my relationship with my husband has changed. Nothing is going to change today. Hang on, I will be praying for you and yur marriage.

gentle

Gentle,

Thank you for the word of encouragement. I have been to restom.org and logged my prayer a few times already. You are right, I will have to let her be and go from there. I will post more once I get home tomorrow. Again thank you for all the prayers.

Hi all,

I came home today and find out that she spent most of our money from the bank account... I got really mad and lost it. I called her name and such. I really do feel bad about it. Part of me is very hurt by her action and its tell me to go ahead with the divorce and get it over with. The other tell me to hang on. She also tell me again that her desire is to leave. God help me get through this please!!!

Brother,
I feel for you and know what you are going through. I will not give advice unless the Holy Spirit moves me to, but I will tell you what I am doing.
I am the WS so my situ is different than yours. My W filed back in Spet and I never responded. I am living at home, sleeping on the sofa in the family room, and it has been very difficult at times...but, thanks to the men and women here at MB and to my deepening my personal realtionship with God, I am more than surviving. I had to make a difficult decision last wee and am looking for a lwayer. I did this because my W has become very anti-religion towarsd our S&D. She is a non-believer. I need to make sure that the children's rights and salvation are protected. I spoke with my D's religious ed teacher last week and she told me how enthuiastic and inquisitive she is about God and Jesus. I don't want that squashed. SO I have been searching for a Christian lawyer; I don't want to rake her over the coals.
At the moment the defnse (if you will) that I am going to use for myself is that, Yes, i did have an A 5 yrs ago and did it in a cruel way. Also, in the last 5 yrs I don't go to strip clubs, flirt, online chat, A's, etc. If she wanted a D she shuld have sone so 5 yrs ago, notjust after we bought a house. I will asking the courts to order couples counseling for us and see what happens from there. I don't know if any of this will work, HIS WILL BE DONE.
AND at the same time I am working on me. I am improving my relationship with God, by reading the Bible, getting involved in groups (we have one online with singleguy, LoveNcare, and lupolady for "The Purpose Driven Life" book), praying, talking and shouting at God.

That's how I am handling it. Ask God what He wants you to do.

God's Grace and Mercy,
TTSMM

ttsmm,

I hear you and unserstand how you are feeling. I spoke with my lawyer yesterday and ask him to go ahead and contact hers. I have to take care of the babies now. Will continues with this in a little bit. don't stop talkingto God, at least I will not.

ttsmm,
Continue on with my coversation. Anyway, We have had our problems, mostly on the money issues. I spent too much without telling her, also I kind of force to to give in to buying the house and car etc. She is the type that foesn;t care about materials stuff while my feeling is I make the money and that I should be able to spend it. It all came crashing down on me about a year or so when she told me that she longer interest in making it works. That was when I realize the problem and tried everything I could to stop her from doing so. At First, I did all of the LB, I pleaded with her, I yelled, I cried and all that stuff nothing works, then I found this and dirvorce busting sites. That when I started to applied the Love bank Concept and EN. althought I thought things were getting better, she gave me the separation paper a week and a half ago. She also mention that she is thinking about MC only if the D is going forward. I have no choice, but to have my lawyer contact hers in hope that she will agree to go to MC. rigth now I'm feeling very down almost everyday, all day, When I do find the time, I prayed to God and talk to him. It does make me feel better once in a while, but the feeling came back when I started to think about it again. That's where I'm right now, we sleep in separate room and had been for a while now. ALl I can do now is put my trust inthe Lord and hope that he will guide me through all this and heal my family again.

jamesp,
His Will WILL Be Done.
I have been debating whether or not to continue this with a lwayer. Well, on the way into work today I was listening to Dr Charels Stanley on the radio. He was talking about how God's Grace is always there and for us not to give up, and that it willbe His Way. I thought about stopping with the lawyer and putting it back in his Hands. At work I rec'd a call from the lawyer's asst. His case load is too big, and he doesn't have any Christian references he can give me at this time.
OK, Lord, what are trying to tell me? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

God's Grace and Mercy to you,
TTSMM

ttsmm,

May be God is trying to tell you something. Well, my lawyer call me today to see if I was ok. I guess that's kind of un-usual since D lawyer usually don't call client the day after you talked to him to make sure that you are ok. I didn't get to talk to him because I was working and did not hear the phone rang. Any how I hope God will reveal to me soon of what he wants me to do. My faith has not been that strong to begin with, it had gotten worst lately. I do pray often and try to talk to him with the hope that some how someway he will let me know.

I will be praying for you ttsmm.

God Bless!!