Dear Prayer Warriors

My husband is a sex addict. There's lots to the story but he's been a sex addict the whole time I knew him and have been married to him, but I did not know it.

My husband is unsaved, without Christ.

It is time for plan B. My husband refuses to seek help for his addiction and satan is trying to destroy my home. The children never see dad because he's always locked in a room with the internet or at work.

God has been good to me and He's answered many prayers already.

I ask for your prayers first for my husband's soul. He needs God in his life, he needs the salvation of the Lord. Without God he'll never enter the kingdom of God where so many good things await him. I pray God will send people in his path who will direct him to the ways of the Lord. I pray God will soften his heart and give him courage to reject satan and his way of life for a Godly life which is full of joy, peace and love.

I ask for prayers for myself and my daughter - for peace, courage, strength, financial security, understanding, compassion and health.

I pray for God's timing. I've asked God to order my steps - to show me the words to say to my husband and for His timing.

Plan B is not easy. I have not given up on my commitment to marriage however I will not live in a house where active pornography exists - satan has brought his 7 partners to enter this home via my husband's invitation.

I ask your agreement in prayer for the requests above.

Thank you.

A

angelia,

I believe we've talked before on one of the other threads a while back. Sorry to hear about the stuff you're going through.

Wanted to tell you that I will be praying for you. The weekend doesn't get many postings but you can bet there are some lurking prayer warriors praying for you too.

Bless you.

S&C

Father God, I come before you and ask for Your loving hand to free Angelia's husband from this horrible curse. Lord show him that Jesus can free him of this horrible addiction. That Jesus can be the HIGH that he is seeking. A HIGH that will never leave him or forsake him. Father, I not only ask that You set him free, but that You would lead him to ministry to help other men and women with this horrible problem. Lord, give Angelia peace and comfort while You do Your perfect work in her husband. Give her wisdom and patience as time passes in making these permanent changes to him. Hold her up in her times of discouragement, and let her never lose her faith that You WILL do Your perfect work in her husband. In Jesus name we pray. Amen

God Bless
singleguy

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Thank you both! The God that I serve is still in the miracle working business but he is also a gentleman and he will not force himself on my husband.

Truthfully whether or not my marriage makes it I do not want to see him perish in hell.

God is a good all the time!

A

ANGELA

TRY NOT TO SPEAK NEGITIVE CAUSE THE DEVIL LIKES THAT! IF YOU LOVE YOR HUSBAND,DONT SAY THINGS LIKE "IF WE DONT MAKE IT" HAVE FAITH DONT LET THE DEVIL WIN,TELL HIM "DEVIL YOUR A LIAR,I BINNED YOU AND LOOSEN YOU OUT OF MY HOUSE IN THE NAME OF JESUS,AMEN!KEEP YOUR FAITH GIRL DONT LET GO OF YOUR HUSBAND AND BELIEVE WITH ALL YOUR HEART AND SOUL THAT GOD WILL CHANGE YOUR HUSBAND.YOU NEED TO FIGHT SPIRITULLALY FOR YOUR HUSBANDS SALVATION THATS WHAT I DID FOR MY HUSBAND AND IT WORKED,GOD IS GOOD. AND IF YOU ARE SAVED YOUR WHOLE FAMILY IS SAVED!GO TO CHURCH BLESS EVERYTHING IN YOUR HOME FROM THE BED TO HIS CLOTHES,EVERYTHING!INVITE THE HOLY SPIRIT INTO YOUR HOME.GOOD LUCK,GOD BLESS YOU AND I WILL PRAY FOR YOU AND YOUR CHILD.

Angelia,

Yes, what you say, you set into motion. Every word you have ever spoken is still out in the universe waiting to act, unless you have put it under the blood of Jesus. At judgement day, God is going to call in every word that you have not put under the blood and it will be a part of the evidence used to judge you. Today repent of every wrong word that you have spoken against your hubby, or your marriage.

Father God, in the name of Jesus, I ask for forgiveness of every word I have spoken that is against Your will. Lord, forgive me for being in the flesh and having self pity and unbelief in my heart and flowing out of my mouth. I repent of my sins, and chose to serve Your word beginning right now. As a believer in the Lord Jesus Christ, I take authority over my marriage and command it to line up with the word of God. That my husband and I are one flesh, and that not until death will we part. I bind every evil force of hell off of my marriage, off of my husband. And I lose the forces and powers of heaven to come and do the good work that God has planned from the beginning of time for my marriage. Again I ask this in Jesus name. Amen

God Bless
singleguy

Angelia,

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Truthfully whether or not my marriage makes it I do not want to see him perish in hell.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">IMHO, I think this is a good way to look at it. To me you seem to have given your M to God and asked Him to intervene, realizing that your H has a free will to make his choice. And if he doesn't choose Christ and your M, the Father will take care of you.

Just don't stop praying for your H and keep your relationship with God intimate.

Blessing on you.

S&C

Thank you for your prayers.

angelia,
I read your post a few days ago, but for some reason, Satan, I have been reluctant to answer. Your story brings up too many painful memories of what I did to my W. I am the WS and was into pornography and the Internet, etc. I was raised Catholic and church-goer. But for the last 20 years of my life, I was not practicing (except for church) and I didn't believe anymore. I almost lost my soul.

I won't go into the rest of my story, you can read them in my signature below. What I want to tell you is, DON'T GIVE UP HOPE. God will get you through this. Yes God gives you free will to choose, but, when God wants you, there is nothing that will stop Him. Keep praying, for yourself and your H. Bless your house and everything that touches yoour H with holy water (I heard someone mention this in another posting - I will be doing that this week). Read God's book for your life, the Bible.

God, our Heavenly Father. Hear the prayers of your daughter angelia. Ease her suffering with Your Insurmountable and Unending Love. Protect her and her daughter from the pain her husband is inflicting upon them, while you draw her husband to You, through the Blood of Your Son, Jesus Christ. Pull him out of his "fog" by bringing his addiction out into the open through the intervention of the Holy Spirit. Let him know the consequences that his actions will bring upon him in this life and the next. Let him know that Your and Forgiveness is always there for him if he believes in your Love.
This we ask in Jesus' Most Holy Name. Amen.

God's Grace, Mercy and Love be with you,
TTSMM

Dear Trying.....I don't know what to say. I was saved at 11 and then my father started to sexually abuse me from 13 until I left for college. Then I married a man who didn't love me - I was a rebound marriage for him and we divorced 8 years later. Then, I met my current husband. I never healed from all the abuse so it was natural that I gravitated to another sexual addict.

I so desperately want my marriage to work however I am not willing to allow this in my life anymore. I have spent 11 years watching satan take over my home. My husband spends hours on the internet and self-gratification. We never have sex anymore - he doesn't need or want me. I am only a facade for his addiction - I am the face he wants to present to society and it's not glorifying God for me to enable him anymore.

This plan B is truly a consequence to the boundaries. I do not feel guilty about it and in fact feel the peace of God. I am not doing this out of spite or anger but because my children need to be protected and I need to be protected.

I am not limiting God by leaving. In fact, maybe once I am gone God can do his best work. I am codependent and have always picked up the pieces - maybe my husband will have to rely on God to pick them up.

I have not closed the door on my marriage. God is awesome and God is not instructing me to divorce - he's freeing me from the bondage I am in by allowing me to separate at this point.

My plan B letter outlines the ways we can reunite but it for sure includes NO pornography. I cannot share him or have a marriage when there's more than the two of us in it. God never intended marriage to be like that.

Thank you ever so much for your prayers. This is absolutely a horrible time in my life but God is still good. He's given me peace, love,a resting place, a sound mind, truth, wisdom, acceptance and I still know that I am saved and a child of the most high God!

I absolutely appreciate your truth. I appreciate your honesty and I thank you for your words. They were kind! I won't give up hope at all.

Your sister in Christ,

Angelia

How ya doing sister? Thinking about ya as I'm praying.

Bless ya.

S&C

Steadfast: Thanks for your prayers.

I feel God is leading me to do plan B - I've prayed and prayed and I do not feel God wants me to jump to divorce but to try plan B so I can get out of the way and God can work.

I've been re-reading The Tongue a Creative Force and speaking more over my life.

However, I wonder and am not sure if it's biblically correct if you can speak power over someone else's life? Do you know?

Thanks again for the prayers.!

angelia,

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">However, I wonder and am not sure if it's biblically correct if you can speak power over someone else's life? Do you know?</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Here's what I believe. God hears our prayers, the words we speak. He sees our heart, what we really want. He knows His will for those that the prayers effect (i.e. You pray for some thing to happen in someone's life; God looks at all of those around, the ripple effect answering the prayer the way you want, has on them). The he sets out to answer the prayer . With either "Yes", "No" or "Not yet".

When He does answer, all of the people effected will have an opportunity to choose the Godly way or not. Then we have to deal with the ripple effect. That means that in answering your prayer, you (or others) may go through some stuff that is painful, but good for you in the long run.

That is why it is so important to be close to God. If you end up going through painful stuff you will understand it is temporary and it is not becasue God wants you to suffer. It's not because God isn't listening to you or not answering your prayer. So many people pray a prayer, then they look at the circumstances and aren't intimate enough with God to understand He really is working in a way that is divinely best for them (and all parties involved).

Does that make since? God is a God that loves everyone the same whether or not we are Christians. Just because someone has not chosen God doesn't make Him love them less. Just because someone has chosen to turn away from Godly choices doesn't mean God doesn't care for them. And He is still the gentleman. He will not force anyone to make a choice they don't want to make.

I've made a short story longer than it needed to be. IMHO, I believe we can, through our prayers, have a mighty influence in the circumstances of someone that will enable them to make Godly choices. I don't think we can make someone make a decision we want them to.

Hope that helps. Bless you.

S&C

Angelia,

I agree with your plan B. I also agree with S&C. And his statement about " the opportunity to chose " tells me he is growing in wisdom!!!!!!

Even the bible says there is a time for seperation to " repair " the relationship, as long as there are no new relationships formed. he won't stop some of these things unless there are severe consequences. I know porn is a very strong addiction, and is as hard to cure as some drugs.Hopefully he will wake up, and soon. I hope you have healed from what was done to you by your father. being the father of two girls, I couldn't begin to understand. But I respect and admire you for who you are. Please keep talking to us so we can hopefully be supportive. Like S&C said " I don't think we can make someone make a decision we want them to ", obviously leaves them with making a choice!!!! Your hubby has to make it.

God Bless
singleguy

Single and Steadfast: I can't even begin to tell you how much satan is trying to condemn me right now for wanting plan B. I keep feeling like I didn't love him enough, couldn't fix him enough, didn't get him enough time to change, should try to talk to him yet one more time, try to wordsmith it this or that way.

I feel the most peaceful when my husband is not around at all.

I asked God a while back to give me truth and wisdom. I receive truth daily.

Now, I need strength and courage to step out of this boat and know that God will not let me sink!

Greater is HE in me than he that is in the world.
Hallelujah!

Angelia,

Why would satan attack you if you WEREN"T doing God's will. Obviously he sees this as a possible restoration tool and doesn't like it, so he's making you feel guilty. You still need to make a stand, just be sure to stay close to God in this. Remember, you can't control your hubby, or his decisions. But you can pray for him.

God Bless
singleguy

A word from God...Thank you!

angelia,

Do you remember what it was that caused Peter to start sinking when he walked on the water towards Jesus.

The Storm was going and Peter stepped out was walking on water and instead of being amazed and encouraged that he was walking on water, he looked around and saw the wind and the waves (Satan rattling his saber).

Matthew 14:30 But when he looked around at the high waves, he was terrified and began to sink. "Save me, Lord!" he shouted. 31Instantly Jesus reached out his hand and grabbed him. "You don't have much faith," Jesus said. "Why did you doubt me?" 32And when they climbed back into the boat, the wind stopped.

Angelia, Satan is just making noise. Trust Jesus and don't doubt.

I have a plaque in front of my computer screen at work that says: "Sometimes the Lord calms the storm; and sometimes the Lord lets the storm rage and calms His child." May the Lord comfort you and hold you in His arms. May His peace envelope you and give you rest. ((((((angelia))))))

Love in Christ.

Bless you.

S&C

angelia,

What I've learned through this whole ordeal is that when God is working diligently, Satan works double overtime to try to overpower the good that God is doing. So that makes God work twice as hard! I've taken notice that when something good happens, something just as bad happens. I'm learning to welcome the storms because it just means that God is working twice as hard to answer my prayers! When Satan sees that someone is turning back to God, boy does he get angry! But God just sits back, says, Rebuke & bind you, Satan! And more good comes the way.

Just remember when those trials seem too difficult to overcome, that God is listening, He not only is answering your prayers, but He also is there rubbing your back, drying your tears, picking you up when you're falling down, and so much more.

I'm learning to say Thank YOu God when something that looks dim happens that day. Yes, I cry, I sometimes ask, Why? But then I read my Psalms and I know that He is working; I just haven't given Him enough credit. Hang in there, things WILL get better. And learn to praise the little things that come your way, small little miracles that God sends to show us He cares and He is the one in control.

God bless!

S&C,

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Sometimes the Lord calms the storm; and sometimes the Lord lets the storm rage and calms His child." </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I just absolutely love this quote!