talliho,
Hi talli, Welcome to MB and a special welcome to the Prayer Request Forum. While we're happy you have found us here, we're sorry you are in a situation that brought you.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> How many of you prayed and asked the Lord if it was the right decision to marry your spouse? I did not ask Him, actually I didn't ask Him anything at that point in my life. My relationship with my husband has not been emotionally or spiritually well since the beginning.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Let me say that this is not to advise you how you should deside, but just a possibility of what could happen.
20 years ago (day after tomorrow) I was married to a wonder woman. I was not a Christian and my wife was a backslidden Christian. I asked her to marry me and a few weeks later found that she was pregnant. After our son ws born, my W (wife) felt conviced to rededicate herself. She prayed and agonized over my conversion. Although I didn't mind her relationship with God I didn't feel it was necessary for me to change. I really gave her a hard time when she brought it up. I mean, my mom was Baptist and my dad was Catholic and their M (marriage) was just fine. However, she continued to pray for me. Circumstances too lengthy to explain now made me start to question what I had been taught. About 15 months after we were married, I accepted Christ as my Lord and Savior.
Even though God does not want us unequally yoked, there are two things to remember. God has put the two of you together and you have made vows to God. and God does not make mistakes. There is a reason the two of youare together. The second is, God can make all things work out for his purpose, even though we may make unwise choices.
I would recommend this. First of all, do the things that will make your relationship with God more intimate:read His word daily, journal anything that stands out; pray everyday for your husband, Power of a praying Wife is great; find some good worship cd's and find time to worship the Father; and also make sure you are in a church that you feel safe talking to people of the same sex and are willing to be accountable to them.
Read the concepts here understand how they are used. His Needs/Her Needs is a great book to start with.
Do you feel safe talking to your H (husband) about how you feel? Communicatin is vital, Good communication is essential. Marriage is work. My pastor once said that poeple put so much into the planning of a wedding but never really think about plannig for the marriage. The two of you need to plan for the marriage, it'd never too late.
Bless you talliho.
S&C
