<BR>MY HUSBAND LEFT HOME AND SAID HE <BR>IS NEVER COMING BACK BECAUSE FOR <BR>THE PAST YEAR MY SISTER HAS BEEN <BR>TELLING HIM I DON'T APPRECIATE <BR>HIM I AM CHEATING HE DESERVES <BR>BETTER WHY DOES HE PUT UP WITH ME <BR>ETC. WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED A <BR>LITTLE OVER A YEAR AND WE HAVE <BR>PROBLEM LIKE EVERYONE BUT WITH <BR>HER INSTILLING AL OF THIS IN HIS <BR>HEAD IT JUST GOT BAD TUESDAY <BR>NIGHT I PUT HIM OUT OF THE CAR <BR>THREE BLOCKS FROM THE HOUSE <BR>BECAUSE HE WAS YELLING AND <BR>SCREAMING AND SCARING MY BABY I <BR>AM THINKING HE WOULD JUST COME <BR>HOME HE DIDN'T HE SPENT THE NIGHT <BR>AT MY SISTERS I ACCUSED THEM OF <BR>SCREWING SHE SAID MAYBE HE SAID I <BR>AM MAD CAUSE HE DIN'T COME TO ME <BR>I DON'T KNOW IF IT IS TRUE OR NOT <BR>ANYWAY I FOUND HIM AT A HOTEL <BR>YESTURDA WENT TO TAK HE WANTWD TO <BR>FIGHT SO I TORE THE ROOM UP I AM <BR>SAD AND HURT BECAUSE HE IS SO <BR>GULLABLE TO LET AN OUTSIDER RUIN <BR>SUCH A GOOD THING I MEAN ALL OF <BR>OUR FRENDS WERE JEALOUS OF OUR <BR>RELATIONSHIP NOW IT IS GONE I <BR>DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO HE WAS OU <BR>SOLE PROVIDER I HAVE UPDATED MY PROFILE<P><BR>------------------<P>MAY GOD HELP ME!!!!!!!<p>[This message has been edited by indianpeanut (edited November 26, 1999).]

Welcome, Indianpeanut.<P>Take a deep breath. Calm down. Take another one.<P>I'm so sorry you have to be here with us. But we are here, to support and help you whenever you need us.<P>I clicked your profile and didn't see a lot of information. Can you take another deep breath and calm down and tell us just a little more about your marriage and what's going on right now?<P>I know the pain is raw. It hurts like nothing else. But there are things you can do - to help your marriage, and, more importantly, to help yourself.<P>We're here for you. Right now. Talk to us.<P>Lori

Welcome <B>indianpeanut</B> to the Marriage Builders - Infidelity Forum.<P>FYI: Try not to type in <B>all</B> capital letters... on chats/BBs/etc... it implies you are <B>YELLING</B> at someone... <P>The people here represent both betrayed spouses and betrayers alike and the occasional Other Woman/Man/Person (OP/OW/OM).<BR><B>All</B> of us are really here to try and build or rebuild our marriages... and we are trying to use principals and concepts that are espoused by Dr. Willard Harley of Marriage Builders(MB).<P>There is a wealth of information here at this site, starting from the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/" TARGET=_blank>Marriage Builder's Home Page</A>.<P>If you're new to the ideas being presented here at MB start off with <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3000_intro.html" TARGET=_blank>Dr. Harley's Basic Concepts</A><P>Many of us need to start immediately working on our marriages and a <B>sound</B> understanding of <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A and Plan B</A> is crucial!<P>A little more information in your profile would be helpful... are you betrayed... are you a wayward spouse?... It was unclear from your first post.<P>You'll see a barrage of "terms" which you might guess the meaning of... but an alternative is to look up what they mean at this site... Words like (click on them to find out):<BR><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3400_lovebust.html" TARGET=_blank>Love Busters</A>, <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3200_love.html" TARGET=_blank>Love Bank</A>, <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3300_needs.html" TARGET=_blank>Emotional Needs</A>, <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3550_give.html" TARGET=_blank>Giver and Taker</A>, <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3500_policy.html" TARGET=_blank>The Policy of Joint Agreement(POJA)</A>.<P>You'll need to learn more about, not just marriage building... but self building too! The learning isn't going to happen overnight though... look at the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8100_article.html" TARGET=_blank>Articles</A> and <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5525_qa.html" TARGET=_blank>Infidelity Q&A</A>.<BR>The real learning is best aided by obtaining some of the books from the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6000_bookstore.html" TARGET=_blank>MB Bookstore</A>... of most important for those who have affairs in progress, or soon to be, is <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6070_sa.html" TARGET=_blank>"Surviving An Affair"</A> by Dr. Willard Harley. <B>This is the 'bible' for this forum.</B><BR>Other books can be very useful as well... like <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6020_needs.html" TARGET=_blank>"His Needs, Her Needs"</A> and <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6030_love.html" TARGET=_blank>"Love Busters"</A>.<BR>There will be many other good books that the MB people will recommend... take their advice... they've been around.<P>Most of all... you will find <B>compassion</B> and <B>love</B> here. No judging... no demeaning... no malice here! (For the betrayed or wayward spouse!)<BR>The people here have all had their lives thrown into a whirlwind of despair, confusion, and sadness.<BR>We've all experience gut wrenching emotions that we though could never exist, in anyone's idea of humanity.<BR>Feelings of hatred, love, disillusionment, envy, rejection, emptiness, <B>deep depression</B>, and on and on...<P>But just the books and facts aren't going to get you through it all... not without <B>support</B>. That's where <B>we</B> come in! <B>We</B> care... because <B>we</B> know how it feels. Believe it... <B>You are <I>not</I> alone</B>! <BR>Come to this forum to vent... to cry... to laugh (a little)... to express your feelings... to advise others... or just to get away!<BR>Your probably going through H*!! right now... don't go it alone... remember... <B>you are <I>not</I> alone</B>! <P>There is never any guarantee to save all marriages... life doesn't work that way, unfortunately.<BR>We can, and do guarantee, to give you help... to build back many vital aspects of your life and sanity. <P>Post... Post... Post... Reply... Reply... Reply... READ! READ! READ!<P>I've been speaking in behalf of some dear friends... as well as some complete strangers too..., when I've used <B>"we"</B>!<BR>But... if you're here... join in with them... they <B>will</B> join in with you. <P>Do slow down... If you are here to save your marriage... do read first about <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A>... <B>No</B> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3400_lovebust.html" TARGET=_blank>Love Busters</A>!<P>Jim<BR>---------------------------------<BR>Where two or more are gathered...