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Every Wed. we pray and fast for one another for resolution to our marriages and our lives. Every Wed. we can check in and let our fellow prayer warriors know we have prayed for the group. Prayer does mighty things and group prayer is even better. "For where two or three have gathered together in My name, I am there in their midst." Matt 18:20.

We send out the prayer post on Mondays so everyone has an opportunity to check in and to add their own personal prayer request if they want to/need to. Then on Wed. we can check in, hit the "Post Reply" button, and enter "Amen".

I think it will be great to see how God works in our lives and heals our marriages and us. If you want to pray with us I will be more than happy to add your name to the list below.


Prayer Warriors who are praying and being prayed for: -.{169 Prayer Warriors and counting}
cajunky . Ezra . Willgetthruthis . Godisincontrol . Natasha79 . JohnC . NMWBTWBD (Not My Will, But Thy Will Be Done) . Wallace . relady . steadfast and committed . morriggs . lupolady . stillwaiting . Broken Hearted . PasDeDeux . hopeful_person . GinnyF . justpeachy . cry2much . SNL . LostAgain (Dave&April) . Dodger (Rtron) . gloriachu . LoveNcare . JMF . WEN . NiteHawk . Absurd . LetSTry . AgainsttheWind . cemmerson . getting better . kellidiane . Terrified . BeeLee . idostylin . Resilient . thiscantbehappening . day by day . Jloves . broken x3 . Sue with Hope . sunrise1 . shepette . Malc . Faithfulwife . timbo-e . Angelia . FeelingAllAlone . broken_joe .

dopey . awake . truly a friend . Is it to late . stilltryingtosaveit . landslide . GODBLESSU . vega . LoyalWarrior . janna-m-r . ferbie . epiphOny . simmy . cajeanie . d_rose . lost_lonely . briank4775 . mayflower . Caged_Bird . LunaDove . goldielocks109 . darwud . Mrs. Darwud . Zuzus Petals . adamv . Army Hubby . Gail (mojodiva) & Shane . bonnie five & H . TryingToKeepHope . Hopeful98 . lghoping . SoTired (Mike & Trish) . evega . Douglas and Kirsi Nielson . Jessicafl27 . kimmy2 . auntielala . weezy8550 . miserynmissouri . STBXWife . sealfan . Jen Brown . SMIAJ . cinderella . GreggC . trying_to_accept . solon . serenitydipity . ilia . lonejrock .

anchorhugger . Prayer & Patience . Chikar . Alex6 . Hopeforamiracle . fishlady . rookie . Made A Mess of Things . *DeepSigh* . boden . new comittment . deeplyhurting . jeff15679 . Bob Castaldi . k57mo . skottyjay (Scott & Melody) . TROD (Tony and Julie) . thisso . ladysheep . hurtmorethanheknows . singleguy . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage . Keesley . recovering_dad . Terrianna . javaContour . BH . Cheryls . cherry log . AD. . Suebee . REJECTED . LoveMyEx . LostHusband . kings kid . kwhittle . vividwhisper . imready2try . staeryn . JoeCM . mike729 . Ridingtherollercoaster . DREslinger . ecpsap . Mr.Miew . Standing_For_M . Alcoholic’s Wife . gentle . Stung by a Bee . maximus1

Blended family girl . Diamonzzz . sctaylor . RichardF . bygraceamfree . butterflie . FinallyLearning . angielt . luke parrish . sadmama . Timeheals . OuchThisHurts . mojo95 . Cherylpa . nvrgvup . Titleist . auto009988 . Hope92 . JLight .

Prayers Answered/God's Gifts to Us:
RichardF (W and him went to a 'marriage weekend' together and have started communicating again) . TTSMM (stood by D in church when she did her first reading ever during her "First Penance" ceremony) . Standing_For_M (H is talking about MC; H is spending nights at the house; received $$ to payoff outstanding bills and bank the remainder)

adamv (talked and prayed the prayer of salvation with his 8yr old son) . finallylearning (has broken ties with the OM) . Steadfast and Committed (MIL left the hospital; his dog was found by the Humane Society) . Standing_For_M (H stayed over for Christmas Eve and Christmas Day; rec'd Christmas gifts for her and her kids and food/groceries from her mom and her job; had great talk with H on phone; H said he told a co-worker a story about when they first dated) . lupolady (broken arm is healed; bought herself a new car) . staeryn (H moving back temporarily to help with their new baby) . sadmama (H is ending A and coming home; her D's pray for the Prayer Warriors) . hopeful98 (R&R in Mexico) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (at Mass, a child was being baptized and my D said, "Look Daddy, another member has just joined God's family; D is doing a reading at her "First Sacrament of Reconciliation" service this Saturday) . Standing_For_M (her & H attended S' holiday concert and had a good time) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (kids were playing very loudly while W was baking and she didn't lose it, she let them have fun) . singleguy (found a gal, and her dog, who he can have a friendship with) . hopeful98 (had a nice conversation with her H) . Standing_for_M (had a five hour talk with H, some flirting with him as well) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (in my D's public school, they discussed things pertaining to the winter season, she said "God's Birthday") . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (I struck up a conversation with a former Catholic-Christian and shared my life, experiences and "The Purpose Driven Life" with him. first time I ever shared my faith with a stranger) . Blended faily girl (found a job within a Christian environment and received a raise) . Blended faily girl (the Lord placed a strong Christian woman in her life for a "Purpose") . Blended faily girl (four hour Bible study with sister on phone) . Standing_for_M (her H stayed the night, on the sofa, after visiting her and the children) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (a wonderful Thanksgiving with my wife and children - no fighting or talk of divorce) . Standing_for_M (her H's heart is softening by his actions towards her and their children) . LoveNcare (her son returns to his wife after 14 months) . lupolady (hard cast taken off her arm) . kings kid (good news about her biopsy) . Terrianna (daughter not moving away) . Steadfastandcommitted (wife is back and we are planning to renew our wedding vows in our church) . tryingTOsaveMYmarraige (D is interested in the Christian music I am listening to and asks a lot about God) . hopeful_person (H seemed more willing to consider a reconciliation) . GreggC (wife's heart is softening a bit and son asking about things in the Bible and believes in it) . WGTT (WH coming home) . d_rose (got a ways to go but we are going there together.) . Faithfulwife (GOT A JOB, Found a house, D is final and got a puppy that “just LOVES me”) . tsc (marriage being restored) . janna-m-r (Husband came home and wants to try to restore marriage even though he is the BS) . Steadfastandcommitted (wife gave up other man) . Stillwaiting (Got to see her husband for 2 hours and his heart seems to have softened) . Stillwaiting (neice is o.k.) . cajunky (wife not engaged & did something with family, told me she loved me) . Free (Marriage Restoration begun ) . Againstthewind (Got job) . betrayed and desparate (sucessful cancer surgery) . WGTT (accepted into mentor program) . Movingonwithlife (Wife coming home) . cry2much(sucessful surgery) . Steadfastandcommitted (first string again) . Lupolady (air conditioner) .


The Power of a Praying Husband - Stormie Omartian
Chapter Five - Her Moods

The chapter on emotions is very concrete. Solid, identifiable emotions have names like depression, sadness, anxiety, or anger. Moods…are often hard to recognize, identify, or understand.

First of all, you must keep in mind that there is a process always going on in a woman’s mind and soul, unbeknownst to her unsuspecting husband—and perhaps all others in the vicinity….It doesn’t matter what might have been happening just a few moments ago, or the last time you talked to her. That was then. This is happening now.

Try to understand that as a man you have simple, clearly defined needs, such as food, sex, success, appreciation, and recreation. Your wife, on the other hand, is a complex being. Her needs are so intricate that even she is at a loss for words to explain them to you. Only God, her Creator, can fathom it all.

Her cycle of hormones alone is beyond comprehension. A woman can be emotionally sensitive in the days before, during, and after her monthly cycle. That leaves about three days in the middle when she is normal, and on one of those days she is ovulating, so it’s up for grabs how she is going to be that day….In addition to that, if there is any stress on her life,…then the atmosphere in and around her can be charged with overwhelming frustration. It seems impossible to cope with it at all.

If you ever find this phenomenon occurring in your wife, it’s best not to say, “What in the world is matter with you now?”
It’s better to first pray, “Lord, reveal to me what is happening in my wife and show me what I can do about it?”
Then say to your wife, “Tell me what’s going on in that pretty head of yours.”
She may not be able to articulate an answer that is remotely understandable to you, but the important thing is that she sees you are listening. If she tells you how horrible she thinks she is and she doesn’t know what you see in her, don’t agree with her. If she says she hasn’t forgotten how you have let her down, don’t deny it. If she shares with you that she feels like running away or murdering someone, put your arm around her and say, “How can I help you find a more suitable option?”
Then do everything in your power to keep your eyes from glazing over….And above all, keep your mind from thinking about more important things you could be doing. Women have a special ability to spot that from 50 yards away.

Here is some advice that can help you navigate these waters successfully, including a few good lines that always work. Say them to your wife in any order, and then pray for her.

1. “I love you.”

2. “You are the greatest woman in the world to me.”

3. “You’re beautiful when you’re moody.” (Maybe you shouldn’t use the word “moody”. “Upset” might be a better choice.)

4. “Tell me what’s on your mind, and I promise not to get mad.”

5. “How have I let you down?”

6. “How can I make it up to you?”

7. “Have you been getting enough sleep?”

8. “What would make you happy right now?”

9. “I don’t have all the answers. But God does.”

10. “Do you want to pray about this together?”


This whole process, prayer included, could take less than 15 minutes of your undivided attention, and it will dissipate the power of all those converging forces.
Whatever you do, don’t ask your wife, “Is it that time of the month again?” She doesn’t want her suffering to be dismissed or explained away so easily.

In the midst of the complex manifestations of your wife’s moods, there will come forth a simple message. It may be a cry for intimacy. It could be a desire to be known and appreciated. Perhaps it is a deep longing for reassurance that everything is going to be okay. Ask God to help you hear the message and show you how to pray accordingly.

PRAYER POWER

Lord, I pray for (wife’s name) and ask that You would calm her spirit, soothe her soul, and give her peace today. Drown out the voice of the enemy, who seeks to entrap her with lies. Help her to take every thought captive so she is not lead astray (2 Corinthians 10:5). Where there is error in her thinking, I pray You would reveal it to her and set her back on course. Help her to hear Your voice only. Fill her afresh with Your Holy Spirit and wash away anything in her that is not of You.

Balance her body perfectly so that she is not carried up and down like a roller coaster. Give her inner tranquility that prevails no matter what is going on around her. Enable her to see things from Your perspective so that she can fully appreciate all the good that is in her life. Keep her form being blinded by fears and doubts. Show her the bigger picture, and teach her to distinguish the valuable from the unimportant. Help her to recognize the answers to her own prayers. Show me how to convince her that I love her, and help me to demonstrate it in ways she can perceive.

Lord, I know that You have “called us to peace” (1 Corinthians 7:15). Help us both to hear that call and live in peace that passes all understanding. I say to my wife, “Let the peace of God rule” in your heart, and “be thankful” (Colossians 3:15).


Love in Christ,
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The Power of a Praying Wife

Chapter 5 - His Affection

Tom and Patti had been married a number of years before she actually had a serious talk with him about his lack of affection. Tom was a wonderful husband in every other way and their sexual relationship was good, but apart from the sexual act there was no affection. It wasn't because Tom didn't love Patti - he adored her. It was because affection was something he grew up without as a child. Patti felt guilty about the way she was feeling and didn't want to criticize or hurt Tom, but she had not known affection as a child, either, and that's why she needed it so in her marriage. Each time Patti confronted Tom about his problem he would try to change, but soon things were back to the way they had been. This led to great frustation and hurt in both of them. Eventually Patti became hopeless and felt like she was dying inside. She didn't see how she could live th rest of her life without affection, but she saw no hope of Tom's ever being any different.

Finally, Patti's misery forced her to take the problems to her prayer partners. They diligently covered it in prayer every week and as they prayed, God worked on Patti. He spoke to ther about obeying Him in the area of eating right and getting proper exercise 0 an area where she had always been in rebellion. When she totally submitted to God regarding this and started doing the things He had been teeling her to do, she began to feel better about herself and realized that she deserved to be treated affectionately by her husband. She didn't have to feel guilty about wanting affection because the Lord wanted that for her, too. Soon she felt the leading of God to confront Tom about it again. This time it would be different because she was now led by the Holy Spirit, and she and her prayer partners had been praying for a miraculous transformation in Tom.

"It took courage for me to even speak of this again," she told me. "I was afraid it could lead to divorce because we were both so hurt and saw no hope in each other. But God gave me the ability to speak in love the words that needed to be said, and this time the conversation brought immediate breakthrough."

"The turning point came," Tom recalled, "when Patti said to me, 'Honey, how can someone as wonderful as you, with all your attributes, someone I love and trust so much, not be able to be affectionate?'"

"Because I said words that affirmed him," Patti explained further, "it gave him hope that it was worth trying again."

Tom proceeded differently this time. He took the problem to his own prayer group of men, who instantly rallied around him. They decided not only to support him daily in prayer, but also to keep him accountable to show some form of affection to Patti each day.

"This was something I welcomed, because I wanted to change," Tom said. "I love Patti and hated that I was hurting her. I wanted to be different and I knew that true transformation can only happen by the power of the Holy Spirit."

Every day for a number of weeks, one of the men from the group called Tom and said, "What hav eyou done to show affection to Patti today?" They also suggested ways to show affection and affirm her. They told Tom to check in regulary with Patty and say, "How am I doing?" For someone whose heart had not been prepared by the Holy Spirit, this could have been extremely annoying. But because Tom welcomed the Lord's working in him, it brought no burden.

"Now the first thing he does when he comes home is give me a hug and a kiss," Patti said with a radiant smile. "I felt like a new person after five hugs."

Tom and Patti's situation is not a rare one. Many people, even godly men and women, live in marraiges that are dead because there is no affection. Aand women endure it because their husbands are good in other ways, or they don't feel worthy enough to ask for affection. But, this is not the way God designed the marital relationship. "Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband" (1 Corinthians 7:3). There is "a time to embrace," the Bible says (Ecclesiastes 3:5). When you're married, it's definitely the time. Affection isn't at the top of a man's priority list because men often see sex and affection as being the same. A woman's greatest need is for affection. If you are in a marriage that lacks it, pray for the Holy Spirit's transformation.

PRAYER

Lord, I pray for open physical affection between my husband and me. Enable each of us to lay aside self-consciousness or apathy and be effusice in our display of love. Help us to demonstrate how much we care for and value each other. Remind us throughout each day to affecionately touch one another in some way. Help us to not be cold, undemonstrative, uninterested, or remote. Enable us to be warm, tender, compassionate, loveing and adoring. Break through any hadheadedness on our part that refuses to change and grove. If one of us is less affectionate to the other's detriment, bring us into balance.

Where any lack of affection has planted a negative view of marriage in our children, or taught them an incorrect way of relating to a marriage partner, help us to model the right way so that they can observe it. Show us how to openly confess our errors to them and demonstrate our commitment to live differently.

Change our habits of indifferences or busyness. May we not so take each other for granted that we don't make the effort to reach out and touch one another with affection. Help us not to weaken the marriage through neglect of this vital means of coummunication. I pray that we always "greet one another with at kiss of love" (1 Peter 5:14). I know that only the transforming power of the Holy Spirit can make changes that last. I trust You to transform us and make us the husband and wife You called us to be.

AMEN!!

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I want to ask that you please pray for my H this week. He is having knee surgery on Thursday (torn ACL) and will be in bed for 2 weeks after. I wish I could be there for him but if that is God's will, He will open a door for me. If not, I know God will be there for him every minute. I will be sending him some flowers once he is at home and was thinking of emailing him before (but not sure yet). Please, just keep us in your prayers. Thank You!!

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Please add my name and my family to your prayer list.
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Okay, folks...

I'm a little embarrassed to admit this, but it's the truth, so here we go.

I'm going to ask you'all to pray for me, because I'm having a bumming day. It's a week until payday, and whilst it's fun to see how God miraculously provides for me, I'm sick of having just a few bucks to my name. I read the Praying Husband and Praying Wife and just CRIED because I so much wanted a husband who would love me like that and talk to me like that, and it just hurts that I don't have that right now. See?? Just bumming--devil whispering in my ear too loudly today.

I'll practice my own preaching I guess:

Abba, Blessed are You, Lord our God, King of the Universe, creator of me. Thank You for showing me Your miracles day after day after day and literally multiplying the money I have in my wallet. Thank You for humbling my spirit so that I can learn to ask people, friends, and co-workers for what I need. Thank You for teaching me to live on FAITH and not on works. Thank You for being alone. Thank You for teaching me how to be intimate with You and not be encumbered by a man right now. Thank You for putting me in a position where I have to turn to You as my husband and depend on You for my emotional needs. Thank You for creating me moody. Thank You for creating me with a distinctily feminine desire for affection. Thank You for my puppy, who jumps on me when I see him--it helps. Thank You for putting my money where my mouth is. I would appreciate if You would give the devil on my shoulder laringitis so I can't hear him...or maybe deafen my ears with laughter or something.

Amen.

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faithful,
kind of know what you mean by bumming. i would just like to be held right now, and to hold. i'm missing cuddling and spooning. i feel physically lonely. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

will be praying and fasting tomorrow.

Love in Christ,
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PS titleist, i added your name above.

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Father,

My wife is feeling particularly sad again today. Help her, and others like her who suffer depression and loss as a result of their spouse's actions (or inactions) find and understand your infinate capacity to love and forgive. Help their spouses, and myself, understand how we can manifest your perfect love to them instead of our own selfish desires.

Amen.

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AMEN! AMEN! AMEN!

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Please pray for me as I believe God is leading me to separate from my husband. I never thought it would come to this. I love him tremendously, but he has become manipulative, controlling, and emotionally abusive. Please pray that I will have the strength to do this, and the knowledge to stop if this is not the right thing to do. Pray that God breaks the R with the OP, and that my husband repents and becomes the man of God he once was. I miss him terribly. I am fasting with you all today, as I believe I will have to confront and leave him soon. Also, please pray for my MIL who is hurting because of her son's behavior and who has to deal with this mess going on in her house.

Abba,
You have been so faithful to me through these past few months. You have been my eternal husband - faithful, true and loving. Thank You so much for the times I have felt Your arms around me. Thank You for Your infinite grace, mercy, and love by which You tell me again and again I am valuable, precious and beautiful in Your sight. Father, I pray that I will not enable or help my husband's sin anymore. I pray that I will take a stand for what is right and speak the truth in love. Help my motives to be pure. Help me to stand with dignity. Oh, Father, if possible, bring me a miracle so that this does not have to happen!!! I know You promised that if we ask anything ANYTHING in Your name, You will hear us and grant our petition. I know it is YOUR will that my marriage not be broken apart by my husband's affair. Turn his heart to you and his earthly love towards me. Save our marriage for YOUR glory. Abba, please let me know if this is not the right way to go. Be with my MIL as she is struggling to find the balance between helping others and doing what is right. Help her to know what to say and do so that her family can see love does not tolerate sin. Oh, Father, be my strength. Thank You for these people who are fasting and praying today. I pray that You will work in their marriages too. We need You so desperately. You are the One who will save our marriages - not us. You are the Healer. Thank You for Your love to us and our spouses. Help us all be more like You. Amen

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Just checking in and letting everyone know I am praying and fasting for all today. Thanks!!

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Quick one to say me too!

Blessings S&C

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Amen.

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HELLO...Hello...Hello...hello. Anybody around. Never seen this place get zero posts in nearly two days.

Hope everyone is doing ok. Lifting you all up tonight.

Blessings to you all.

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I going to reply yesterday with the same observation. The last posting I saw on this forum was Wed; it feels like it is the weekend.

I have been struggling the past two days and I will start a separate thread on that later today.

Love in Christ,
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Hello all.

Feeling awfully blue without my hubby & could use some prayer power. Please add me & my husband to your prayer list.

Remembering you all in my prayers, and giving thanks for this great MB community...

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Hi All,
Just a note to let you know that I have been with you and praying every Wed for all.
I need your prayers this week! I have court on Fri the 23rd. This is the trial as I am contesting the divorce. I do know God is with me and what ever happens is in his hands.

God Bless and Love you All


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