Hello,
This is the 1st time I've posted to this board (normally on EN), but I've been struggling with this issue for the last 5 days or so.
At a counseling session last week, my H acknowledged that he is depressed. This was after a crisis the weekend before where he felt so confused and lost that he wanted to leave our home.
The therapist (actually my IC who has agreed to see us for MC after 2 failed experienced with MCs) has prescribed medication, but I know this is just the beginning of what I hope will be a healing process.
My H has been through a lot the last 2-3 years in addition to our M issues - largely the death of his father from a brain tumor. He was diagnosed with a Grade 4 glioblastoma (the worst tumor possible) on Valentine's Day and died at the end of that July. He loved his father very much, and feels very alone now. He has serious issues with his mother (which I made worse), extreme pressure at work, and I am afraid is still angry with God for not saving his father.
He has held a lot of this in for quite a long time, and I am at such a loss as to what I can do to help.
I am upset with myself for not seeing that he was in this state of mind (I have a long history of clinical depression and currently take medication) and that I have not been a better wife.
We are both Christians, but have not attended church regularly since we married (we have been looking, visiting since June 03 when we had our first crisis, but I know we are not trying hard enough).
I also believe that I am responsible for our finding a church home and thus the foundation for our future through Christ - by saying this, I mean, my H will go to church if I initiate and direct, but I do not believe he will ever be the one to lead in this step. I have no idea what will happen when we find the right place, but this 1st step is my responsibility.
My request is for quidance - in praying for my H (for the depression to lift, for our M, for me to remain strong while my H needs me the most, in finding a good church.
Thank you,
dd
