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Every Wed. we pray and fast for one another for resolution to our marriages and our lives. Every Wed. we can check in and let our fellow prayer warriors know we have prayed for the group. Prayer does mighty things and group prayer is even better. "For where two or three have gathered together in My name, I am there in their midst." Matt 18:20.

We send out the prayer post on Mondays so everyone has an opportunity to check in and to add their own personal prayer request if they want to/need to. Then on Wed. we can check in, hit the "Post Reply" button, and enter "Amen".

I think it will be great to see how God works in our lives and heals our marriages and us. If you want to pray with us I will be more than happy to add your name to the list below.


Prayer Warriors who are praying and being prayed for: -.{173 Prayer Warriors and counting}
cajunky . Ezra . Willgetthruthis . Godisincontrol . Natasha79 . JohnC . NMWBTWBD (Not My Will, But Thy Will Be Done) . Wallace . relady . steadfast and committed . morriggs . lupolady . stillwaiting . Broken Hearted . PasDeDeux . hopeful_person . GinnyF . justpeachy . cry2much . SNL . LostAgain (Dave&April) . Dodger (Rtron) . gloriachu . LoveNcare . JMF . WEN . NiteHawk . Absurd . LetSTry . AgainsttheWind . cemmerson . getting better . kellidiane . Terrified . BeeLee . idostylin . Resilient . thiscantbehappening . day by day . Jloves . broken x3 . Sue with Hope . sunrise1 . shepette . Malc . Faithfulwife . timbo-e . Angelia . FeelingAllAlone . broken_joe .

dopey . awake . trulyafriend . Is it to late? . stilltryingtosaveit . landslide . GODBLESSU . vega . LoyalWarrior . janna-m-r . ferbie . epiphOny . simmy . cajeanie . d_rose . lost_lonely . briank4775 . mayflower . Caged_Bird . LunaDove . goldielocks109 . darwud . Mrs. Darwud . Zuzus Petals . adamv . Army Hubby . Gail (mojodiva) & Shane . bonnie five & H . TryingToKeepHope . Hopeful98 . lghoping . SoTired (Mike & Trish) . evega . Douglas and Kirsi Nielson . Jessicafl27 . kimmy2 . auntielala . weezy8550 . miserynmissouri . STBXWife . sealfan . Jen Brown . SMIAJ . cinderella . GreggC . trying_to_accept . solon . serenitydipity . ilia . lonejrock .

anchorhugger . Prayer & Patience . Chikar . Alex6 . Hopeforamiracle . fishlady . rookie . Made A Mess of Things . *DeepSigh* . boden . new comittment . deeplyhurting . jeff15679 . Bob Castaldi . k57mo . skottyjay (Scott & Melody) . TROD (Tony and Julie) . thisso . ladysheep . hurtmorethanheknows . singleguy . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage . Keesley . recovering_dad . Terrianna . javaContour . BH . Cheryls . cherry log . AD. . Suebee . REJECTED . LoveMyEx . LostHusband . kings kid . kwhittle . vividwhisper . imready2try . staeryn . JoeCM . mike729 . Ridingtherollercoaster . DREslinger . ecpsap . Mr.Miew . Standing_For_M . Alcoholic’s Wife . gentle . Stung by a Bee . maximus1

Blended family girl . Diamonzzz . sctaylor . RichardF . bygraceamfree . butterflie . FinallyLearning . angielt . luke parrish . sadmama . Timeheals . OuchThisHurts . mojo95 . Cherylpa . nvrgvup . Titleist . auto009988 . Hope92 . JLight . Culprit007 and hubby . ddc03 . gfranco . cmj .

Prayers Answered/God's Gifts to Us:

tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (made a promise to God to give me a headache when I am not living His Word – boy does my head hurt ;-), witnessed to a co-worker, who is going to pray for me and my family) . lupolady ( was a Witness and Testimony to her faith to a woman in the vet’s office) . Steadfastandcommitted (W told OM she would soon be leaving her job, he replied that he guesses he’ll have to start dating) .

RichardF (W and him went to a 'marriage weekend' together and have started communicating again) . TTSMM (stood by D in church when she did her first reading ever during her "First Penance" ceremony) . Standing_For_M (H is talking about MC; H is spending nights at the house; received $$ to payoff outstanding bills and bank the remainder) . adamv (talked and prayed the prayer of salvation with his 8yr old son) . finallylearning (has broken ties with the OM) . Steadfast and Committed (MIL left the hospital; his dog was found by the Humane Society) . Standing_For_M (H stayed over for Christmas Eve and Christmas Day; rec'd Christmas gifts for her and her kids and food/groceries from her mom and her job; had great talk with H on phone; H said he told a co-worker a story about when they first dated) . lupolady (broken arm is healed; bought herself a new car) . staeryn (H moving back temporarily to help with their new baby) . sadmama (H is ending A and coming home; her D's pray for the Prayer Warriors) . hopeful98 (R&R in Mexico) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (at Mass, a child was being baptized and my D said, "Look Daddy, another member has just joined God's family; D is doing a reading at her "First Sacrament of Reconciliation" service this Saturday) . Standing_For_M (her & H attended S' holiday concert and had a good time) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (kids were playing very loudly while W was baking and she didn't lose it, she let them have fun) . singleguy (found a gal, and her dog, who he can have a friendship with) . hopeful98 (had a nice conversation with her H) . Standing_for_M (had a five hour talk with H, some flirting with him as well) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (in my D's public school, they discussed things pertaining to the winter season, she said "God's Birthday") . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (I struck up a conversation with a former Catholic-Christian and shared my life, experiences and "The Purpose Driven Life" with him. first time I ever shared my faith with a stranger) . Blended faily girl (found a job within a Christian environment and received a raise) . Blended faily girl (the Lord placed a strong Christian woman in her life for a "Purpose") . Blended faily girl (four hour Bible study with sister on phone) . Standing_for_M (her H stayed the night, on the sofa, after visiting her and the children) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (a wonderful Thanksgiving with my wife and children - no fighting or talk of divorce) . Standing_for_M (her H's heart is softening by his actions towards her and their children) . LoveNcare (her son returns to his wife after 14 months) . lupolady (hard cast taken off her arm) . kings kid (good news about her biopsy) . Terrianna (daughter not moving away) . Steadfastandcommitted (wife is back and we are planning to renew our wedding vows in our church) . tryingTOsaveMYmarraige (D is interested in the Christian music I am listening to and asks a lot about God) . hopeful_person (H seemed more willing to consider a reconciliation) . GreggC (wife's heart is softening a bit and son asking about things in the Bible and believes in it) . WGTT (WH coming home) . d_rose (got a ways to go but we are going there together.) . Faithfulwife (GOT A JOB, Found a house, D is final and got a puppy that “just LOVES me”) . tsc (marriage being restored) . janna-m-r (Husband came home and wants to try to restore marriage even though he is the BS) . Steadfastandcommitted (wife gave up other man) . Stillwaiting (Got to see her husband for 2 hours and his heart seems to have softened) . Stillwaiting (neice is o.k.) . cajunky (wife not engaged & did something with family, told me she loved me) . Free (Marriage Restoration begun ) . Againstthewind (Got job) . betrayed and desparate (sucessful cancer surgery) . WGTT (accepted into mentor program) . Movingonwithlife (Wife coming home) . cry2much(sucessful surgery) . Steadfastandcommitted (first string again) . Lupolady (air conditioner) .


The Power of a Praying Husband - Stormie Omartian
Chapter Six - Her Marriage

Your marriage is like a garden. The soil is rich and prepared through prayer. Then you have to plant the right kind of seeds – the good seeds of love, fidelity, respect, time, and communication.

Seeds of Love
Seeds of love are some of the easiest seeds to plant, and their growth is so rapid that you can sometimes see results instantaneously. If seeds of love are planted by our marriage partner, then hope, peace, and happiness will grow in us. These things will give us courage to face our fears, failures, and inabilities. They will give us strength to stand up and resist the things that oppose us.
If weeds of hurt, strife, misunderstanding, criticism, selfishness, and anger are allowed to flourish in the marriage garden without being uprooted, they will choke out anything good that is planted. If seeds of lovelessness are planted, we wither and slowly die from the inside out.
If you and your wife do not produce enough love to allow each of you to grow into all God created you to be, then your relationship needs to be examined for selfishness, fear, pride, control, or whatever weed of the flesh is stifling it. If you have serious problems in your marriage, know that God can work miracles when you pray. He can change hearts and perspectives in an instant. He can uproot seeds of sin, resurrect love where it has died, and make it not only grow again, but flourish.
The Bible says, “Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor what is evil. Cling to what is good” (Romans 12:9). Cling to what is good in your marriage with all sincerity of heart. Despise what the devil is trying to plant there. Pray that God will show you how to plant new seeds of unconditional love. With proper care, those seeds of love will produce a great harvest.

Seeds of Fidelity
…the boundaries of marriage are set up for its protection. If we don’t watch over the boundaries, something is sure to be stolen from us….if the fence falls into disrepair because it isn’t maintained, they find a way in through the weakest part. When we plant seeds of infidelity, we break down the boundaries and invite unwanted creatures of prey to come in.
Everyone gets tempted to sow outside his own garden. The ones who resist, and instead deliberately plant seeds of fidelity, reap a harvest of plenty. Even if you have the most perfect marriage ever known to man, the enemy will still try to tear down the fence and destroy it by one means or another.
Pray that God will keep you and your wife from planting anything you will live to regret. Ask Him to show you how to plant seeds of fidelity and build a fence so solid it will be the envy of all your neighbors.

Seeds of Respect
One of the main reasons marriages fail is that the husband or wife does not seek the other’s best interest. The Bible says, “ Let no one seek his own, but each one the other’s well-being” (1 Corinthians 10:24).
[Did you know] your wife does not want to be your mother, nor does she want to be your maid. The former will cause her to lose respect for you; the latter will make her feel that you’ve lost respect for her.
[When this happens,] the less she will feel like your lover. Ask god to help you see things from your wife’s perspective and show you how to plant seeds of respect in your marriage.

Seeds of Time
It takes many hours to plant, water, feed, nurture, and harvest. In successful marriages the husbands and wives spend time together alone. You need that time of togetherness to talk, work things out, to share interests and dreams, to just be together in silence, and to have intimate times that are not rushed. Pray that God will help you plant seeds of time together.

Seeds of Communication
If a person plants words of anger, indifference, criticism, impatience, or insensitivity in his marriage, the fruits of those words will be lack of intimacy and warmth, loss of harmony and unity, and the silencing of laughter and joy.
One of the biggest problems in many marriages is a lack of communication. This comes about because men and women think differently. It’s one of the ways we complete one another. If a man and woman inevitably see things from different perspectives, then it stands to reason that they should ask God to help them both see things from His perspective. That way they can see them together, from the same viewpoint.
Seeds are planted through actions, but mostly through words – and when a husband and wife can’t communicate well with their words, bad things start growing.
If bad word-seeds have already been planted in your marriage, and fast-growing weeds are choking the life out of your relationship, know that God has given you the tool of prayer to uproot them. Get to the bottom of whatever you see growing out of control, such as bitterness, anger, or unforgiveness, and pray for those things to be dug up and thrown away.


…it’s not easy becoming one with another person, even if that person is the one God created especially for you….it’s not about causing our mate to grow into our image, it’s about both husband and wife growing into God’s image together.
Marriage does not need to be stifling, forcing two people to lose all individuality. Rather, it can actually provide the perfect environment for the gifts of each person to be developed to the fullest. When the two people in a marriage partnership relate to one another in the way God wants them to, it brings about a fulfilling of each one’s purpose that will not happen otherwise. Through prayer, each one can release the other rather than control; encourage rather than condemn.
God will not bless our disobedience. He doesn’t approve when selfishness, deceit, strife, neglect, and cruelty are permitted to grow unchecked in a marriage garden. When we treat our marriage partner in a way that is less than what God wants us to do, not only are we rebelling against the Lord, but we are working against what God wants to accomplish in us as individuals and as a couple.
Ask God to help you and your wife appreciate your differences. The very thing that is designed to be our greatest blessing can often become an irritant because we don’t ask God to let us see it from His perspective.
Divorce doesn’t happen because people don’t want their marriages to work out. It’s usually because the husband or wife believes that things will never change. Ask God to change what needs to be changed in either of you. Even if appears that irreparable damage has already been done in your marriage, that the garden has been hopelessly blighted, know that God can and wants to work a miracle. We have no idea of the wonderful things God has for us when we humble ourselves and love God enough to live His way (1 Corinthians 2:9). This is never more true that in a marriage.

Prayer Power
Lord, I pray that you would establish in me and (wife’s name) bonds of love that cannot be broken. Show me how to love my wife in an ever-deepening way that she can clearly perceive. May we have mutual respect and admiration for each other so that we become and remain one another’s greatest friend, champion, and unwavering support. Where love has been diminished, lost, destroyed, or buried under hurt and disappointment, put it back in our hearts. Give us strength to hold on to the good in our marriage, even in those times when one of us doesn’t [i]feel love.
Enable my wife and me to forgive each other quickly and completely. Specifically I life up to You (name any area where forgiveness is needed). Help us to “be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving,” the way you are to us (Ephesians 4:32). Teach us to overlook the faults and weaknesses of the other. Give us a sense of humor, especially as we deal with the hard issues of life.
Unite us in faith, beliefs, standards of morality, and mutual trust. Help us to be of the same mind, to move together in harmony, and to quickly come to mutual agreement about our finances, our children, how we spend our time, and any other decisions that need to be made. Where we are in disagreement and this has caused strife, I pray you would draw us together on the issues. Adjust our perspective to align with Yours. Make our communication open and honest so that we avoid misunderstandings.
May we have the grace to be tolerant of each other’s faults and, at the same time, have the willingness to change. I pray that we will not live two separate lives, but will instead walk together as a team. Remind us to take time for one another so that our marriage will be a source of happiness, peace, and joy for us both.
Lord, I pray that You would protect our marriage from anything that would destroy it. Take out of our lives anyone who would come between us or tempt us. Help us to immediately recognize and resist temptation when it presents itself. I pray that no other relationship either of us have, or have had in the past, will rob us of anything in our relationship now. Sever all unholy ties in both our lives. May there never be any adultery or divorce in our future to destroy what You, Lord, have put together. Help us to never cast aside the whole relationship just because it has developed a nonworking part. I pray that we will turn to You – the Designer – to fix it and get it operating the way it was intended.
Teach us to seek each other’s well-being first, as You have commanded in Your Word (1 Corinthians 10:24). We want to keep You at the center of our marriage and not expect from each other what only You can give. Where either of us have unrealistic expectations of the other, open our eyes to see it. May we never waver in our commitment and devotion to You and to one another, so that this marriage will become all You designed it to be.
Amen.[/i]


Love in Christ,
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The Power of a Praying Wife

Chapter 6 – His Temptations

Pg. 75
From the time Michael and I were married, I prayed for God to remove temptation from our lives. I don’t know if it has been the result of prayer or the fact that we both guard ourselves against such things, but we’ve never given each other a single moment of concern. I’m sure it’s due more to the hand of God than the strength of human restraint, but both are important.

I know several couples who experienced adultery in their marriages, but because in each case there was a wife who was willing to pray and a husband open to allowing God to change and restore him, the marriages are still intact and successful today. Only prayer, a submitted heart, and the transforming power of the Holy Spirit can work those kinds of miracles.

Pg. 76
Temptation is everywhere today and we’re fools if we think we or our husbands can’t be lured by it in some form or another. The Bible says, “The eyes of man are never satisfied” (Proverbs 27:20). The enemy of our souls knows where our flesh is the weakest and he will put temptations in our paths at our most vulnerable points. The question is not whether there will be temptations, it’s how we will handle them when they arise. While prayer may not be able to stop a man from doing something he is determined to do, it can diminish the voices of temptation and strengthen his resolve. It can pave the way for him to make right choices.

The Bible says that God does not tempt us. It is our desires that draw us away to what entices us. It is our desires that cause us to sin and bring death into our lives. But “blessed is the man who endures temptation; for when he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him” (James 1:12). God wants us to get through temptation because he wants to bless us. But He needs to see if we can be trusted to choose His way over our fleshly desires. He’ll always give us a way out if we want it badly enough to seek Him for it.

Pg. 77
If after all your praying, your husband still falls into the hands of temptation, do not blame yourself. The decision is ultimately his. He has chosen to walk in the flesh and not in the Spirit. “Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish” (Galatians 5:16, 17). Don’t stop praying for him. No matter how hopeless it seems when you see him being tempted again and again, know that God has provided a means of escape and you may be the instrument He will use to help him find it. If there is no temptation problem in your marriage, be thankful and pray that it stays that way.

PRAYER

Lord, I pray that You would strengthen my husband to resist any temptation that comes his way. Stamp it out of his mind before it ever reaches his heart of personal experiernce. Lead him not into temptation, but deliver him from evils such as adultery, pornography, drugs, alcohol, food addiction, gambling and perversion. Remove temptation especially in the are of (name specific temptation). Make him strong where he is weak. Help him to rise above anything that erects itself as a stronghold in his life. May he way, “I will set nothing wicked before my eyes. I hate the work of those who fall away; it shall not cling to me” (Psalm 101:3).

Lord, You’ve said that “Whoever has not rule over his own spirit is like a city broken down, without walls” (Proverbs 25:28). I pray that (husband’s name) will not be broken down by the power of evil, but raised up by the power of God. Establish a wall of protection around him. Fill him with Your Spirit and flush out all that is not of You. Help him to take charge over his own spirit and have self-control to resist anything and anyone who becomes a lure. May he “abhor what is evil. Cling to what is good” (Romans 12:9). I pray the he will be repulsed by tempting situations. Give him courage to reject them. Teach him to walk in the Spirit so he will not fulfill the lust of the flesh.

AMEN!

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Update:

W and I are doing very well now and definitely on the right track in moving forward! Our love has been growing for each other again over the weeks! Thank you all again for your prayers!

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Need your prayers, guys. Please pray with me that God convicts my H's heart & puts an urgency inside him to go to my counseling session tomorrow. Right now he is unsure if he wants to - please pray that God puts the curiosity in his heart so badly that he cannot help but want to be there. Thanks for your prayers warriors!

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Just wanted to add a quick request to the group. I need prayers for my husband who is stationed in Iraq. Pray for him to do what is best for his family especially at the end of the week.

Also pray for our son. He is having a tough time this week.

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My prayers and thoughts are with everyone on the list. May God bless us all, and guide us on the path to do His will.

I'd also like to add a prayer for my wife, who is worried about the result of a medical test she took recently:

Lord, you know all things, and have the power to do all things. May the result of the test be whatever you judge is best for my wife, so she can continue to heal from the emotional wounds that I caused.
Amen

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Abba, God, I pray that now that I am completely out of the way, YOU will really start to move in my husband's life. I pray that you just overwhelm him with YOUR LOVE AND GRACE and help him to face himself for what he really is. God, heal his hurting heart and help him to be the man of God I know you desire him to be. Use this time to make me the wife I need to be for him. Thank you for my church and the Christians you are brining into my life. Thank You for Your constant love and faithfulness. I pray that You will continue to work mightily in all these people's lives and marriages. In the name of Jesus and through the power of His blood, I pray that you will not let Satan win over these marriages. Help us to be focused on You and not on our circumstances. We love You, Abba. Amen

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AMEN!

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My W just called to tell me that she will be paying her lwayer $500 over the next five weeks to continue the D proceedings. I told her, "OK. I understand." Then she said that it would have been cheaper but that I didn't want to make any otehr arrangements (living in the basement after D) so she had no other choice. Agains, I said, "OK."

I feel like I was just punched in the stomach.

Abba, Father, I ask that You fill the painful place in my heart right now. Remove the sicknes and sadness I feel. Replce it with Your Love. Also, remove the jealousy (happy but jealous) I have for those here who marriages have started turning. I know I shouldn't be jealous, only happy, and I am hurting deeply inside. Pleae draw my wife, Marie, to You. Let her hear Your voice in her ears and not Satan's.
I know that everything is Your Will Be done. And, that I will be closer to the man You designed me to be when all has passed. I just pray for pain to lessen.
I ask this by the Most Precious Blood of Jesus Christ, my Lord and Savior. Amen.

Love in Christ,
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AMEN!

My focus has been on my M lately. As hard as I've tried I just couldn't leave it in God's hands any longer. Two days ago I bought a Joyce Meyer's Book (The Battle Belongs to the Lord). GOOD book. I'm only in the 3rd or 4th chapter but it is EXACTLY what I needed to read. Thank You Lord for giving it to me. She talks about Praising God for everything, even in the middle of our trials. Today's Charlyne Cares email is about Praising God. Thank you Father. I will be PRAISING HIS NAME all day today!!!

I am fasting and praying for all you today. God Bless each and every one of you.

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Dear Lord, hear your children, ease their pain, guide all of our footsteps and show us the right path. in Jesus' name, I pray. Amen.

update for me: no contact continues. i have reached a point where i 100% do not want any contact to ever occur. i am grateful for that. i continue to not tell my H. I pray that is the right choice. i pray that if telling is what i should do that God guides me towards that decision and that i am able to help my H deal with all the pain i have caused him.

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Abba Daddy,

I lift up each and every one of the names on the above list. Their lives, their M’s their families torn because of one thing or another. Today the hurt is heavy for many and the pain doesn’t seem to lessen. Lord I ask that your hand touch each person today. Give them peace.

Remove the anxiety even if it is for a moment. Let them understand your peace that surpasses all understanding. Let them know you are working. Refresh their spirit.

Abba, place hedges of thorns around those spouses active in their A’s. That the OP will see more than the fantasy. That they will see the hurt caused by what they are involved in. Send your angels to surround the WS. …to protect them from the attacks of the enemy. Allow the shields of our faith to protect our spouses and let your light shine into their hearts to soften them. Lord set them on the road back home.

Strengthen our hearts and our resolve to persevere and remain faithful when they return. Rekindle our love for them and make it strong.

Father I ask this in the precious name of you son Jesus Christ.

Amen and Amen.

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Thank you for that prayer S & C. I know I am not struggling with an affair in my marriage like so many of the precious people represented on this board, but I took comfort from the prayer just the same.

This last week has been one of the worst weeks of my life, spiritually. I feel such an unbelievable attack from without and within.

It just seems that everyone on this prayer board was up and rejoicing just a few short days ago, now it almost seems abandonded .. like my heart feels.
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Please lift me up in prayer too. I need a some hope today.

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God is Great and VERY patient with me!

I felt so down, still do, but less so. On the way home I was listening to Star 99.1 (CCM radio station in NJ/NY area), and I heard a song "I Really Want to Get to Know You", which I have heard many times, but never listen to the lyrics. Today in my off-state, I HEARD them and I feel that it was God's way of telling me something about me and my marriage.

To Know You - Nicole Nordeman

It's well past midnight
And I'm awake with questions that won't
Wait for daylight
Separating fact from my imaginary fiction
On this shelf of my conviction
I need to find a place
Where You and I come face to face

Thomas needed
Proof that You had really risen
Undefeated
When he placed his fingers
Where the nails once broke Your skin
Did his faith finally begin?
I've lied if I've denied
The common ground I've shared with him

(CHORUS)
And I, I really want to know You
I want to make each day
A different way that I can show You how
I really want to love You
Be patient with my doubt
I'm just tryin' to figure out Your will
And I really want to know You still

Nicodemus
Could not understand how You could
Truly free us
He struggled with the image
Of a grown man born again
We might have been good friends
'Cause sometimes I still question, too
How easily we come to You

No more campin' on the porch of indecision
No more sleepin' under stars of apathy
And it might be easier to dream
But dreamin's not for me



The lines about Thomas really hit home with me with what God's Will is for my M. Add to that, Nicodemus is my W's mother's maiden name. Finally, the lines "I'm just tryin' to figure out Your will. And I really want to know You still." Even with my doubting, I will not be shaken in faith that God wants the best for me (I hope that means a saved M; I JUST WANT TO KNOW HIS WILL. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Love and Peace in Christ,
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So...after the song, I was still trtying to figure out WHAT God wants me to do?

She immediately had things for me: the light in HER <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> bedroom isn't working; our S was bad and she slapped him(very, very rare) and she was distraught over it; she slipped on the ice and her hand was black & blue. I listened and, I felt, was there for her.
She feels she deserved "falling on the ice" because she slapped our S. Motherly guilt.

Father, take today's incident and use it to draw my wife to You. Wipe away her tears and sadness for her actions with Your unconditional love. Let her feel You in her life so she will no longer doubt. I ask this through my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ's, Most Holy Name.


Love and Peace in Christ,
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Hello All,
Thanks to many for the beautiful prayers.
I have a praise report! PTL!
After praying today, I had a phone call from lawyers office and my trial on Fri got postponed!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
I want to give a big thanks to all PRAYER WARRIORS!
This means my support is not canceled for this month and bills will get paid. It may give WH more time to really see all of this. I am still contesting the divorce, but the Judge can award it if my WH can prove me at fault. Keep the prayers going for me please.

Thanks again and God Bless you all

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Lord,

Please forgive me for being angry and unforgiving yesterday. Please forgive me for giving in to despair and destruction. Please forgive me for being cold and uncaring towards my H. Please forgive me for trying to solve things MY way instead of YOURS. Thank you for no contact yesterday. I know this means that you are trying to spare him from seeing my pain which in turn would push him further away. I ask you Father, that the next time we see each other, that I be filled with joy, peace, and contentment and filled with Your love. Amen.

I really could use some lifting up everyone. I feel such anger toward my H (as you can guess, he didn't show up to counseling - no phone call or anything, just didn't show up). I do not want to demean him though. I want to lift him up, to respect him because he is my H. By his actions yesterday, I feel I must resolve myself to the fact that this M is over. There is no saving it. I feel full of such despair. It is hard for me to believe that this is what God wants for my life. That he would want me to be alone for the rest of my life because I do not want anyone else. I do not want to allow myself to become an adulteress by being with another and I know I don't have to be, that I don't have to give in to human desires of wanting a mate, but I long for my H so much, to feel his touch again, to feel his arms wrapped around me again. To hear the words, I love you, from my H. I know that God loves me and that should be enough, but I feel so....what's the word? I don't know. I'm just so unsure about everything right now.

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"We thank You, Father, for all the trials and hardships we endure, because we know through them we are becoming the sons and daugthers You have called us to be.
Lord, lift up Your daughter, Yvette, and let her feel the Warmth and Power of Your Mighty Arms. Let her know and experience You today so her pain will diminish, and her negative feelings towards her husband will subside.
Lord, there are many at this site who miss the physical embrace of their spouse. Fill us with Your Love, and show us a glimpse of Your Will for us, so we can resist temptation and live in peace, Your Peace.
We ask this by the Power and Love of Your Holy Son, Jesus Christ. Amen."

Love and Peace in Christ,
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Could you please add me to your prayer list? I/we are in desparate need of prayer support. I am new to this site - my husband left us in September and is seeing OW. It hurts to breathe. My boys (13, 11) are having such a hard time and only have begun to express these feelings with their dad recently. They have cried with me since day one. We are in the process of a divorce and I pray all day, everyday that God intervenes (sp?) and stops this madness. We want him home. Please help me pray that something, anything touches my husband's heart and he realizes that he has a wife and boys that love him very much and need him to come home. I don't know what more to say than what everyone else has already shared. God just be with us, all of us during this horrible time in our lives. Open my husband's heart and shine the light of His love down upon him and show him the way - home. God Bless.

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