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Every Wed. we pray and fast for one another for resolution to our marriages and our lives. Every Wed. we can check in and let our fellow prayer warriors know we have prayed for the group. Prayer does mighty things and group prayer is even better. "For where two or three have gathered together in My name, I am there in their midst." Matt 18:20.

I will be entering the prayer post on Sundays so everyone has an opportunity to check in and to add their own personal prayer request if they want to/need to. Then on Wed. we can check in, hit the "Post Reply" button, and enter "Amen".

I think it will be great to see how God works in our lives and heals our marriages and us. If you want to pray with us I will be more than happy to add your name to the list below.


Prayer Warriors who are praying and being prayed for: -.{176 Prayer Warriors and counting}
cajunky . Ezra . Willgetthruthis . Godisincontrol . Natasha79 . JohnC . NMWBTWBD (Not My Will, But Thy Will Be Done) . Wallace . relady . steadfast and committed . morriggs . lupolady . stillwaiting . Broken Hearted . PasDeDeux . hopeful_person . GinnyF . justpeachy . cry2much . SNL . LostAgain (Dave&April) . Dodger (Rtron) . gloriachu . LoveNcare . JMF . WEN . NiteHawk . Absurd . LetSTry . AgainsttheWind . cemmerson . getting better . kellidiane . Terrified . BeeLee . idostylin . Resilient . thiscantbehappening . day by day . Jloves . broken x3 . Sue with Hope . sunrise1 . shepette . Malc . Faithfulwife . timbo-e . Angelia . FeelingAllAlone . broken_joe .

dopey . awake . trulyafriend . Is it to late? . stilltryingtosaveit . landslide . GODBLESSU . vega . LoyalWarrior . janna-m-r . ferbie . EpiphOny . Simmy . cajeanie . d_rose . lost_lonely . briank4775 . mayflower . Caged_Bird . LunaDove . goldilocks109 . darwud . Mrs. Darwud . Zuzus_Petals . adamv . Army Hubby . Gail (mojodiva) & Shane . bonnie five & H . TryingToKeepHope . Hopeful98 . Ighoping . SoTired (Mike & Trish) . evega . Douglas and Kirsi Nielson . Jessicafl27 . kimmy2 . auntielala . weezy8550 . miserynmissouri .STBXWife . sealfan . Jen Brown . SMIAJ . Cinderella . GreggC . trying_to_accept . solon . serenitydipity . ilia . lonejrock .

anchorhugger . Prayer & Patience . Chikar . Alex6 . Hopeforamiracle . fishlady . rookie . Made A Mess of Things . *DeepSigh* . boden . new comittment . deeplyhurting . jeff15679 . Bob Castaldi . k57mo . skottyjay (Scott & Melody) . TROD (Tony and Julie) . thisso . ladysheep . hurtmorethanheknows . singleguy . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage . Keesley . recovering_dad . Terrianna . javaContour . BH . Cheryls . cherry log . AD. . Suebee . REJECTED . LoveMyEx . LostHusband . kings kid . kwhittle . vividwhisper . imready2try . staeryn . JoeCM . mike729 . Ridingtherollercoaster . DREslinger . ecpsap . Mr.Miew . Standing_For_M . Alcoholic’s Wife . gentle . Stung by a Bee . maximus1
Blended family girl . Diamonzzz . sctaylor . RichardF . bygraceamfree . butterflie . FinallyLearning . angielt . luke parrish . sadmama . Timeheals . OuchThisHurts . mojo95 . Cherylpa . nvrgvup . Titleist . auto009988 . Hope92 . JLight . Culprit007 and hubby . ddc03 . new_beginning .
Waiting On My Change . allmyloveforever . lost him/FINDING ME . jamesp .

Prayers Answered/God's Gifts to Us:

hopeful98 (H went to church) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (made a promise to God to give me a headache when I am not living His Word – boy does my head hurt ;-) . lupolady ( was a Witness and Testimony to her faith to a woman in the vet’s office) . Steadfastandcommitted (W told OM she would soon be leaving her job, he replied that he guesses he’ll have to start dating) . RichardF (W and him went to a 'marriage weekend' together and have started communicating again) . TTSMM (stood by D in church when she did her first reading ever during her "First Penance" ceremony) . Standing_For_M (H is talking about MC; H is spending nights at the house; received $$ to payoff outstanding bills and bank the remainder) . adamv (talked and prayed the prayer of salvation with his 8yr old son) . finallylearning (has broken ties with the OM) . Steadfast and Committed (MIL left the hospital; his dog was found by the Humane Society) . Standing_For_M (H stayed over for Christmas Eve and Christmas Day; rec'd Christmas gifts for her and her kids and food/groceries from her mom and her job; had great talk with H on phone; H said he told a co-worker a story about when they first dated) . lupolady (broken arm is healed; bought herself a new car) . staeryn (H moving back temporarily to help with their new baby) . sadmama (H is ending A and coming home; her D's pray for the Prayer Warriors) . hopeful98 (R&R in Mexico) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (at Mass, a child was being baptized and my D said, "Look Daddy, another member has just joined God's family; D is doing a reading at her "First Sacrament of Reconciliation" service this Saturday) . Standing_For_M (her & H attended S' holiday concert and had a good time) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (kids were playing very loudly while W was baking and she didn't lose it, she let them have fun) . singleguy (found a gal, and her dog, who he can have a friendship with) . hopeful98 (had a nice conversation with her H) . Standing_for_M (had a five hour talk with H, some flirting with him as well) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (in my D's public school, they discussed things pertaining to the winter season, she said "God's Birthday") . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (I struck up a conversation with a former Catholic-Christian and shared my life, experiences and "The Purpose Driven Life" with him. first time I ever shared my faith with a stranger) . Blended faily girl (found a job within a Christian environment and received a raise) . Blended faily girl (the Lord placed a strong Christian woman in her life for a "Purpose") . Blended faily girl (four hour Bible study with sister on phone) . Standing_for_M (her H stayed the night, on the sofa, after visiting her and the children) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (a wonderful Thanksgiving with my wife and children - no fighting or talk of divorce) . Standing_for_M (her H's heart is softening by his actions towards her and their children) . LoveNcare (her son returns to his wife after 14 months) . lupolady (hard cast taken off her arm) . kings kid (good news about her biopsy) . Terrianna (daughter not moving away) . Steadfastandcommitted (wife is back and we are planning to renew our wedding vows in our church) . tryingTOsaveMYmarraige (D is interested in the Christian music I am listening to and asks a lot about God) . hopeful_person (H seemed more willing to consider a reconciliation) . GreggC (wife's heart is softening a bit and son asking about things in the Bible and believes in it) . WGTT (WH coming home) . d_rose (got a ways to go but we are going there together.) . Faithfulwife (GOT A JOB, Found a house, D is final and got a puppy that “just LOVES me”) . tsc (marriage being restored) . janna-m-r (Husband came home and wants to try to restore marriage even though he is the BS) . Steadfastandcommitted (wife gave up other man) . Stillwaiting (Got to see her husband for 2 hours and his heart seems to have softened) . Stillwaiting (neice is o.k.) . cajunky (wife not engaged & did something with family, told me she loved me) . Free (Marriage Restoration begun ) . Againstthewind (Got job) . betrayed and desparate (sucessful cancer surgery) . WGTT (accepted into mentor program) . Movingonwithlife (Wife coming home) . cry2much(sucessful surgery) . Steadfastandcommitted (first string again) . Lupolady (air conditioner) .

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The Power of a Praying Wife

Chapter 11 – His Health
Your husband’s health is not something to take for granted, no matter what his age or condition. Pray for him to learn to take proper care of himself, and if he becomes ill, pray for him to be healed. I’ve seen too many answers to prayers for healing in my life and the lives of other to doubt that the God who heals in the Bible is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow. I believe that when God said, “I am the LORD who heals You,” He meant it (Exodus 15:26). I have the same faith as Jeremiah who prayed, “Heal me, O Lord, and I shall be healed” (Jeremiah 17:14). I trust His Word when it promises “I will restore health to you and heal you of your wounds” (Jeremiah 30:17).

Jesus “took our infirmities and bore our sicknesses” (Matthew 8:17). He gave His disciples power to “heal all kinds of sickness and all kinds of disease” (Matthew 10:1). He said “These signs will follow those who believe…They will lay hands on the sick, and they will recover” (Mark 16:17, 18). It seems to be that God is interested in healing, and He didn’t put a time limit on it; only a faith limit (Matthew 9:22).

Remember, however, that even though we pray and have faith, the outcome and timing are God’s decisions. He says there is “a time to heal” (Ecclesiastics 3:3). If you pray for healing and nothing happens, don’t beat yourself up for it. God sometimes uses a man’s physical ailments to get his attention so He can speak to him. Keep praying, but know God’s decision is the bottom line.

The same is true when praying that God will save someone’s life. We don’t have the final say over anyone’s hour of death. The Bible says there is “a time to die” (Ecclesiastics 3:2), and we are not the ones who decide that, God does. And we must accept it. We can pray, but He determines the outcome. We have to give Him that privilege without resenting, faulting, or getting angry at Him. Pray for your husband’s health, but leave it in God’s hands.

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Lord, I pray for Your healing touch on (husbands name). Make very part of his body function the way You designed it to. Wherever there is anything out of balance, set in in perfect working order. Heal him of any disease, illness, injury, infirmity, or weakness. Strenghten his body to successfully endure his workload, and when he sleeps may he wake up completely rested, rejuvenated and refreshed. Give him a strong heart that doesn’t fail. I don’t want him to have heart failure at any time.

I pray that he will have the desire to take care of his body, to eat the kind of food that brings health, to get regular exercise, and avoid anything that would be harmful to him. Help him to understand that his body is Your temple and he should care of it as such (I Corinthians 3:16). I pray the he will present it as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to Your (Romans 12:1).

When he is ill, I pray You will sustain him and heal him. Fill him with your joy to give him strength. Specifically, I pray for (mention any area of concern). Give him faith to say. “O Lord my God, I cried out to You, Lord, that You are my Healer.” I pray that my husband will live a long and healthy life and when death does come, may it be accompanied by peace and not unbearable suffering and agony. Thank You, Lord, that You will be there to welcome him into Your presence, and not a moment before Your appointed hour. Amen!

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Chapter Eleven – Her Sexuality

Sex is not only a man’s strongest drive, but also one of his greatest needs….In the book you are reading now, I have put the greatest concerns of a woman’s heart in the beginning. That’s why “Her Sexuality” falls in about the middle.

…sexuality is a very complex issue for a woman. It is extremely hard for her to separate herself from her emotions, memories, thoughts, and experiences and just be strictly physical.

Your wife’s sexuality is wrapped up in two things:
1. How she feels about herself
2. How she feels about you

The way a woman feels about herself has a lot to do with how she gas been treated by men throughout her life….Even if it was not her husband her perpetrated [any cruelty towards her], the fact that she endured it will still cause her to have a hard time responding to him. As unfair as that may seem, if a woman doesn’t feel attractive or sexy, it’s difficult for her to act like she is.

The way your wife feels about you–if she is angry, unforgiving, disappointed, wounded, or bitter– will immensely affect her desire for intimacy. If you have hurt her in one way or another, even if it was completely unintentional, it may cause her to withdraw physically in self-protection.

For a woman, sex comes out of affection. She has no desire to be affectionate with a an who makes her feel hurt and neglected….A woman’s true sexuality is wrapped up in how loved and valued she feels, and it’s very difficult for her to give herself to someone who has made her feel bad.

Trust is also a huge factor in a successful sexual relationship….If either of you has violated the other’s trust, pray for complete repentance, forgiveness, and healing. A woman never fully gives her body, mind, and emotions to man she doesn’t trust.

If there has sexual infidelity in your relationship, you need prayers and support of strong, qualified, trustworthy Christian counselors who believe in the power of God to transform, renew, and bring total restoration. The betrayal must be fully confessed and thoroughly repented of, and forgiveness must be sought. Pray for sexual purity to be restored in the heart of each of you and for fidelity to be an uncompromising way of life. If these things are not the case, all unresolved hurts will be brought to the marriage bed. There has to complete healing in this area before trust returns, and only God can heal you both and restore trust.

Many couples have sexual problems in their marriages because one or both of them had improper sexual experiences before they were married. If that happened to either of you, pray to have those soul ties broken so you can be set free from their effects. You don’t need the ghosts of former relationships brought in to the bedroom.

According to the Scriptures, a husband and wife cannot rightfully withhold their bodies from one another. But at the same time, they have to be sensitive to each other’s needs and conditions….Often a woman will be too exhausted, but it’s nothing personal. There is so much vying for your wife’s attention… But allowing this part of you life to become neglected is not good either.

Sex needs to be a priority in a marriage. Men already know that. Women don’t always see it that way. Far too often a wife does not understand how great her husband’s need for sex actually is. That’s why it is good for you to pray that your wife will gain a clear understanding of this and give you the physical intimacy you need. And you don’t have to feel like you’re being selfish in doing that. You’re not. You are watching over and spiritually covering a vital part of your marriage that, if neglected, could lead to your marriage’s destruction. You can’t leave this highly important aspect of your relationship up to chance.

…women want to be able to share affection with their husband without always having it lead to the sex act. Your wife wants a sense of togetherness—a hug, a kiss, a simple touch, an embrace—that doesn’t always lead to physical intimacy. Sometimes she needs emotional connection, affirmation, and closeness without having to perform.

There nothing more attractive to a woman that a man who is strong in the Lord….If you want to be more attractive to your wife, grow deeper in the Lord. Let God mold your heart, and He will also enhance you’re appearance as you are transformed into His likeness.

He Says…
By Michael Omartian

My wife is a “babe”! She was the first day I met her, and she continues to be so to this very moment. (Let’s face it, men, most of us married over our heads.) But Stormie’s beauty is not her sole responsibility though, because, believe it or not, I have something to do with it. It begins when I vow to revere her in marriage and not violate our sexual trust at any time. I purpose not to allow Satan to destroy our bond. I’m not perfect, and at times I fail in my thoughts, but I do recognize the power of our culture, as orchestrated by the enemy, to make us view our mates as somehow less beautiful and interesting physically, especially after many years of marriage. We’re being pushed for fantasize and to dabble in sin. But God will keep us sexually pure if we ask Him. He will keep us away from temptation and infidelity if we seek Him for that.


Prayer Power

Lord, I pray that You would bless {wife’s name} today, and especially bless our marriages and our sexual relationship. Help me to be unselfish and understanding toward her. Teach us to show affection to one another in ways that keep romance and desire alive between us. Where one of us is more affectionate than the other, balance that out. Help us to remember to touch each other in an affectionate way every day. I pray that how often we come together sexually will be agreeable to both of us.

Show me if I ever hurt her, and help me to apologize in a way that will cause her to forgive me completely. Any time we have an argument or a breakdown of communication, enable us to get over it quickly and come back together physically so no room is made for the devil to work. If ever the fire between us dies into a suffocating smoke, I pray that You would clear the air and rekindle the flame.

Help me to always treat my wife with respect and honor and never say anything that would demean her, even in jest. Help me to be considerate of her when she is exhausted or not feeling well. But also pray that she would understand my sexual needs and be considerate of those as well. Only You can help us find that balance.

Make our sexual relationship fulfilling, enjoyable, freeing, and refreshing for both of us. May our intimacy bond the two of us together and connect our hearts and emotions as well as our bodies. Help us to freely communicate our needs and desires to one another.

Keep our hearts always faithful. Take out of our lives anyone or anything that would cause temptation. Where there has been unfaithfulness in thought or deed on the part of either of us, I pray for full repentance, cleansing, and release from it. Keep us free anything that would cause us to neglect this vital area of our lives. May our desire always be for each other. Renew and revitalize our sexual relationship, and make it all You created it to be. Amen.

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Last nite my pastor told a story about another pastor who was working late on a Saturday nite getting ready for a big program the following day. He was the pastor of Allmighty God Tabernacle Church. It was about 10 PM and he realized he should call his wife to tell her he was on his way home. Apparently not paying a great deal of attention, he dialed the number and when there was no answer, he realized that he had called the wrong number. Monday morning as he worked in his office, the phone rang and the man on the other end said "you tried to call my house Saturday nite about 10 PM". The pastor immediately started to apologize, but the man said "no,no, listen to what I have to say". He said that he had been very depressed as of late and that all day Saturday he had been planning to commit suicide. Finally just before 10 that nite he put the gun to his head, and said "God,if you are for real, give me a sign, and I will abort this suicide, and I will change and begin to serve You". I no more than finished saying that when I was startled by the phone ringing. I have caller ID and as I gazed down to see who it was, it said Allmighty God! The rest of the name of your church wouldn't fit in the little window. He told the pastor he got scared and couldn't answer it!

Just thought that story might humor someone, or even speak to someone. God works in mysterious ways. His ways are not our ways! But the moral of the story is to not give up, or give in. "Just one more day" the song says. "If you will endure to the end, AND NOT GIVE UP, you will receive the crown of life"!

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When I first read this I was startled. But, I checked out a site I go to frequently for urban legends. Sorry....
Allmighty God

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While this particular story may not be true, I can tell you for a fact that I have witnessed God stop someone committing suicide.

I got a call one night about 2am. It was a Vietnam Veteran. He had a habit of calling me every once in a while about 1 or 2 am: drunk, hating the world and wanting to talk. But this night was different. There was something in his voice or maybe just the Holy Spirit. But I knew somethign wasn't right. I told my W I had to go see this guy.

I got to his house; and it was a mess. The furniture was tossed upsidedown and things were thrown everywhere. I asked him what was up and he said I'm looking for my gun. I asked why? He said he was tired and was going to F@#&king kill himself. He had the clip in his hand and it was full enought to do acomplsih what he said he wanted to do. He then looked in the refridgerator and found the gun. He wondered why it was there and not where he thought he had put it. He slipped the clip on the but of the gun, cocked it. I tried to get him to put it down but I could not pursuade him to. He put the gun barrel in his mouth and looked like he was going to do it.

I fell to my knees and said; "God, this is in your hands. If he is to be saved, it is by your hand alone." The guy paused and pulled the gun out and said why shouldn't I? I said; "Put the gun down and lets go outside." We went out side and laid down on the grass, and looked up in the sky. I told him to look up there and see everything. I asked; "Do you think all of this just happened?" Look at the creation and tell me that there isn't a creator." He asked me if that is why I was there. I said "Yes."

The guy gave his life to christ that night. I lost touch of him after a while and never knew where he went. I actually got a call from him about two months ago (11:30pm). He called thinking my number was no longer any good. I picked up the phone and heard his voice. I said "Kevin?" (not his real name). He said; "You know who this is?" "Sure." I hadn't heard his voice in over 16 years.

He called to tell me that he remembered the night God saved his life and to thank me.

True story my friends.

Never give up. Just one more day. He will comfort you. Trust Him in His work.

Bless you all.

S&C <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

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Please add me to the prayer warrior list - thank you. God Bless us all.

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allmyloveforever , Welcome. You have been added to the list.

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My GYN has me filling out a chart for depression. I've been doing it for two months. He didn't want to give me any meds until he had a better picture. I do have SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) but the dark days are almost over.

So my two months are up on Wed, and I have an appointment. Pray that the right thing will be done -- I do NOT want meds unless I really need them (i.e., not chemically based). And circumstance-based depression does not normally need meds.

Secondly, for my shoulder. The doctor's don't know what's wrong, but I can't lift it. Have to go back to Physio... bummer.

Praises:

My stb-SIL's surgery (a success)
Traveling mercies for my daughter (safely there - coming home on Tuesday before prayer, but if anyone thinks of it before hand, prayers graciously requested).
Getting ahold of my 92 year old grandmother - she thinks the phone is just "pretty ringing" and hasn't answered it in a month. The day before yesterday she DID, and we had a lovely talk.

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S&C,
PTL, beautiful story.
I wasn't putting that out there to discredit what God can do; I did it to bug sg <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> . No <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> . But really, I feel as Christians, if we are going to witness or retell of someone else's witness, we have to be accurate, or we and the Christian faith lose credibility.
I believe (know first hand) that God will save those who cry out in dispair and will put people there to assist.
Remember back last July when a certain MBer <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> stared at a bottle of pills for a few hours. A fellow MBer came back and said for someone to contact the police and track down the IP address and send someone to the house. Plus, this certain MBer received a cell phonecall from a friend (not a Christian - but God was using him) which stopped the deed.
So YES God will save those and it will be HIS which will be done (too many wills <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> ).

Please pray for my M this Wed. Mixed signals again from W. She calls me at work to check on the preschool at my church for Stefan in September <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> . When I get home, I find a letter she is mailing out to her lawyer <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> . So keep me in your prayers as you will be, and are, in mine.

God's Grace,
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Beautiful story, S&C. I was very touched. Trying, I will be praying for you. Just a note, my H was still talking the Big D when his heart started to soften. Don't despair, my friend. God is with you.

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Please pray for our church's Council President. Her mother is on her deathbed. May the Lord watch over her & take her to His glory peacefully & full of joy. Amen. Thanks a million!

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My wife filed for the divorce 3 weeks ago. Please pray that God will stop the divorce proceeding and lead my family back to his love

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jamesp, your name has been added.
My H has also filed for D (almost 5 mths ago), so I understand how you feel. I will pray that God will stop the proceedings in both our M's. Keep standing, God will lead us thru this.

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I also want to add a special prayer request for this week. I have a good friend who is also separated from her husband. He is flying in to see his son this Thurs (and her). Please join me in prayer for her, that what the enemy has planned for evil in this reunion, God will change for good. Thanks.

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In case your on the late show like me...
I may be to late to post for 3/3 but I will be praying and fasting for "The Restoration of Marriage tomorrow"
ttsmm, your words are heartfelt
Dear Father,
Help me walk with You. Guide me and show me Your way and Your Will, and bestow the gifts of The Holy Spirit.
Give me Your Peace to understand the way You are working on my marriage right now.
Give me patience to accept that You are in control and not man.
Give me Your Joy to make my day bright, knowing that I am special in Your eyes.
Give me self-control to not give up or give in to temptation.
Fill my heart, to bursting, with Your Love, so it will pour forth to everyone I meet.
We ask this by the Precious Blood which was spilled by Your Holy Son, Jesus Christ, for all humanity.
Amen.
God Bless you all

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Dear fellow prayer warriors,

I would like to lovingly point out that this thread is called the Restoration of Marriages AND LIVES. The reason this thread is called that is that not every marriage is restored, but every life can be.

For the longest time, I fought and fought and fought for my marriage. I read MB books, went to seminars, answered questionnaires, went to IC and MC...you name it, I did it. Unfortunately my exH's commitment was not nearly so strong, and he ended up leaving the kids and I and choosing divorce. At the time I received the papers, I thought, "Now I will never be on the Recovery Forum" (okay--silly thought, but true!). Guess what I've discovered? Recovery does not only occur when a marriage survives an affair. Sometimes, recovery occurs when one of the spouses survives the affair, or when one of the spouses is restored.

It is my firm belief and commitment that if a marriage can be saved and restored it should be. However, I also believe that there are times when God allows a divorce to happen in order to bring an individual to recovery and restoration. In my own life, I strongly believe that although my exH chose divorce, that I recovered and am in a much more healthy (and safe) place. I also strongly believe that God allowed our divorce to occur so that He might one day have a better chance of restoring my exH to a relationship with Him.

However, on occasion, since it would appear at this time that my exH is not interested in restoring our marriage, and since our divorce is final, there are times when I feel as if those of us who are out there single for the time being are forgotten. At this time, it looks like our marriages will not be restored--or for now, the answer is "no". Okay, I'm accepting that with serenity and courage... I'm sad that my marriage is not restored, BUT I'M SO HAPPY THAT *I* AM RESTORED.

My life did not end when my marriage ended. My service to God is still a valuable, and I still need to be just as dedicated and faithful--maybe moreso! So folks, lets not forget to praise God for our RESTORATION OF LIVES.

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Blessed are You, Lord our God, King of the Universe, Creator of Life. As we are reading and studying in Genesis, remind us of Your desire way back then to restore each one of us to a relationship with You, and Your deep love for each of us. Thank You today for loving those of us whose marriages have not been restored. Thank You for loving US and wanting to restore our lives. Thank You that we are recovering and "in recovery"--heehee. Thank You that You have used the pain of our divorces to purify us and smith us into the person you want us to be. Thank You that You are bringing new friends and family into our lives--either at work or church or neighbors--to show us support and love and encouragement and wisdom.

Abba, thank You for this group of prayer warriors. Thank You for the gals, who challenge me to be a better woman and an better testimony by my life. Thank You for the guys, who never cease to amaze me with their thoughtfulness, kindness, gentleness, humility, and wisdom.

Thank You specifically for lovely Miss Sheryl who is my oldest, bestest friend--I think You knew we needed to be in touch with each other right now. Bless her life abundantly as You have promised You would, and give her Your faith to believe it will happen. Thank You for lupolady--she is SO wise it impresses me, and yet I recognize Your voice in what she types. Good one! Thank You for StandingTogeter--she is so faithful and committed; please honor that and give her to courage to change the things she can. Thank You for hopeful98 and her willingness to serve You on this forum by posting this thread every week.

Thank You for the fellas too. Thank You for the original man who started this all: cajunky--he is so humble and sweet and funny and open, and we all benefitted from just knowing him. Thank You for TTSMM who tried to fill cajunky's shoes and who faithfully posted this thread until it interfered with family time, etc. Thank You for the revival You have begun in his heart--keep it up! Thank You for singleguy, who reminds me so much of King David--just a guy, really and yet he's such a warrior that it seems like he never wavers and he just stands in the gap. Renew him as he stands for so many. Thank You for s&c, whose very name expresses the kind of man he is. You know, I can't think of great words for this, but please reveal to him a small peek of the way You have touched people's lives through him.

And finally, Abba, thank You that my exH paid his child support on time. Some days I feel like I was put on this earth to remind him he has children, but today he was responsible on his own. Good for him!! Thank YOU!!


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God's blessings to all!

Well, I'm back again. Saw "The Passion" last night. Powerful film. I was particularly touched by the (very short) sequence where Mary Magdalene remembered how she became one of Jesus' disciples. I also felt ashamed for adding more to His burden.

Lord,
I ask your blessings today for all the Prayer Warriors, and also for their spouses. May we learn to live following the example given us by Jesus, your Son. Help us to understand your path for us in this world and follow it, even if the path does not lead where we want or expect it to take us.
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Dear Lord,

Please forgive me first where I have failed you. It there is any sin, left unforgiven because I haven't asked specifically, please forgive me of it. Make me a clean vessel.

Lord, you know that I won't remember each person by name, so please let each of these precious folks know that they are being thought of, even if I forget.

I pray first for the restoration of all marriages that can be healthy and spirit-filled. For those who are struggling with a spouse in an affair, I pray that the WS would turn from their wicked ways - and Lord, you know I *know* of those things. I have been there. Let's the betrayed spouses know that it is NEVER their fault, although yes, they have helped to contribute to an atmosphere where the marriage has deteriorated. But they are not the ones who reached out to someone else with selfish hands and hearts.

Please forgive the WS's, for they truly DO NOT know what they're doing. They won't know the consequences for their actions for some time.

I pray for all the children represented on this forum. They are such a blessing, and don't deserve the ripping apart of their families and the insuing turmoil. They are INNOCENT victims. I pray that all the parents can be strong for their children, and for themselves in order to (re)build a strong family - even if one parent is not there.

I pray for all the specific prayer requests, and thank you for all the praises.

I thank you for this site, for the people I've met, grown to love, and who have reached out to me and prayed for me and my family.

I pray for those who are hurting and too weak to come to you today. I know the path isn't easy, but pray that you clear the weeds so that nothing gets in the way between them and You.

This week, I specifically thank you for CJ and singleguy. You know the reasons Lord, and what they've done to help restore my faith.

In Jesus' Name, Amen

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Faithfulwife,

Thank you very much for your compliment! To be compared with King David? I'm kind of in shock! Yes, I do have a deep concern for my fellow saints, and will ALWAYS stand in the gap for anyone who needs me. WE WILL WIN!

And to my Sweet Sister Sheryl!!
What would I do with out ya!!!!! You are an inspiration to me too! And thank you for all you have brought to my life and to this forum as well. God [not Bod], brought you here at just the perfect time, and we have all been blessed by it!

God Bless Everyone!
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