LISTEN! I am lets start from the beginning...I've been told..Clinical depressed (NO **** HE'S ****ING SOMEONE ELSE) BIPOLAR (ie ) MOODSWINGS I'm sorry I'm supposed to be calm cool and collected inthe middle of this NIGHTMARE! Damn STRAIGHT I'm going to be PISSED OFF at times...and depressed alternating..HELLO! I'm HUMAN...ALSO CODEPENDENT..Hmmm...So I want my partner to be with me and not SHARING his affections time and everything else with a ****ING LOVER..and THATS COdependent? Maybe I should be so friggin self sufficent I don't need a RELATIONSHIP at ALL becasue I can fully neet all of my own needs ALONE!..yeah...crzy ****, I said to my Phd counselor the other day..LOOK when does this become about two people who love eahc other, one is cheating and it's tearing me up and I am going througha ll of the natural feelings about it? When do we analize everything from here to kingdom come and when do we say I LOVE YOU I'M HUMAN YOU ARE DESTROYING ME *******! *sigh* I think sanity is what it's called... all my love....*grin* <P>IP: <BR>

oh yeah, i, too, am totally insane. got meds out the wazoo, got diagnoses from here to there. nooooooo, it had nothing to do with my H being in love with/living with OW...it's aaaalllll post-partum depression and 'repressed anger from childhood'.<BR>ROFLMAO. <P>------------------<BR> <A HREF="http://www.alladvantage.com<BR>ID#" TARGET=_blank>www.alladvantage.com<BR>ID#</A> atp-113<P>

Did we all miss the lessons in how we are supposed to react? Apparently so....partner has an affair and you are not depressed? No mood swings, no anger, frolicking in the green fields? Now that is a sick person!! <BR>Counseling is not always what we want it to be. I finally had to quit. I really just could not take it anymore. But I did go for awhile, grabbed what I could, came here and whined about the rest, and waited til some of these kind people advised me not to continue. It truly was detrimental to my marriage and my head. I cringe at hearing all the terms thrown around when you were okay for many yrs before the affairs! <BR>Take some more drugs?! They make you feel better and they are legal! I have no issue with drugs per say...my job is to give them out. But when there are situations that call for some reaction, for some negative emotion, some coping skills, some perspective, then they need to be used with other interventions as well. <BR>Read wasstubborns thread on depression below somewhere. <BR>Sometimes a ggod movie is better than all the drugs or therapy they dole out.

Thank you friends! I needed that! SMILE! Although I know seriuos depression needs treatment (i'm not so much anymore...5 months later) I am certainly NOT crazy either! And i hate being told that natural human reactions to pain are somehow a disorder of some kind...sigh....I think laughter is the best medicine....if you can find a close trusted family member or friend that can help you to have a little fun! It helps me out a lot! hope everyone is making the most of their time off of work! <P>Love ME!