Dear bros & sisters. I am new to this site, but I have read allot of postings in here. I believe in prayers and I believe in Love. I need your prayers to save my engaggement. My fiance accused me of cheating on him, to which he proved that by me talking to other guys, laughed at other's jokes, smiled at other men, and those are considered cheating to him. He is my only joy other than God. He is honest and committed, but his possessiveness & jealousy empowers his love and trust in me. He has been ignoring me totally, and he called it a BREAK UP. I have apologized for whatever he thought I did, but deep in my heart, giving in doesn't mean I am putting myself down. Please bros n sisters, pray for me to save this sacred relationship. Our plan for marriage is July 17th, and I can't wait for that to happen. I want that to happen, I want a peaceful, happy married life. God Bless you all.

Thank you.

<small>[ March 31, 2004, 02:29 PM: Message edited by: gzangel ]</small>

gzangel,
Welcome to the forum. Sorry to hear about your situation. I will keep you in my prayers today. Every Wed we pray and fast for one another Wed Prayer & Fast.

I will tell you from my own experience that I can understand where your actions have upset your fiance and has him questioning his trust of you. Before my affair, there was an incident where I was talking with my cousin's girlfriend and I was tossing a football around with her at another cousin's daughter's birthday party. My wife didn't want to play football so I found someone who did. This was all innocent to me, but later that evening she briefly told me how upset she was. Then after my affair, my wife told me how it was sick of me to try and steal my counsin's gf. I did not even think I was flirting. So I did it again at a later time, justifying it by saying to myself, "she's not going to control me". Now since she filed for divorce, EVERY WOMAN I speak to is someone I am interested in. Is this right? Can't say. But if you check out Dr. Harley's books here, it does say to stop doing ANY activity that is upsetting to your mate. IF you love them so much, why are you doing things that would hurt them? That's my two cents worth.

"Father, open the eyes of gzangel. Enable her to see the truth of her actions, and how they are affecting the man she loves so much. Enlighten her to activities that she can do with her future spouse that edify You, him and thier upcoming marriage. Remove all doubt from either of them that this is a marriage You will place Your blessings on. This we ask in the Name of Jesus, the Lord. Amen."

God bless,
ItsInHisHandsNow

Thank you so much for the respond and your effort to enlighten me.

I can understand that he is possessive, but it is not right for me to avoid people I work with. I don't socialise, I don't drink nor do I smoke, he saw me talking to my colleagues at the office, and laughing at their jokes. I have apologised to him and I have forgiven myself for what I did that hurt him. He is not responding to my emails, nor my calls. He got to know I was very sick last week (from our friend), but he didn't even bother to call. He called it a Break Up. No matter how much it hurt me, I still email with respectful messages and still hoping and praying that he would get back to me. Thank you for responding, God bless. He may not be the best person but he is the Best for me.