Why can't I get over the man I had an affair with? it's been a while and just when I think I'm getting better I fall apart again. I cry so hard, I swear I'm going to toss a lung. It's been since November that it's over and I still can't seem to shake it. Please, I ask for prayers..words of encoragment. I want so badly to move on.

I pray to you dear Heavenly Father that, scarletgurl, follow You and not the needs of her flesh. I pray that You help her through this tough time as she walks through the narrow road that leads to You. Wrap her in Your arms and show her she needs You. Reminder her that she can share her pain and sorrows with You. You are always listening and know how much we are hurting. I thank You for answering my prayer. In Jesus name I pray. Amen!

Lunadove

Scarletgurl: Dear Lord: We praise your Holy name. Lord, we know that we can call out to you and You hear our cries for help. Lord, speak to scarletgurl's heart. Let her know of your wonderful grace. Fill her heart with love, bring wholeness to her life. Lord, show her through your Word the blessings that come from obedience. Lord, your are our Prince of Peace. We thank you for loving us first, by sending your precious Son,Jesus,as our sacrifice to sin. Thank you, in Jesus' name we pray. Amen. Peace

maybe if you start working on your own self esteem you will then beable to love yourself as strongly as you think you love the other person
....this from a woman who's husbands ow feels the same as you...

I will pray that you will find the ability to distract yourself from this preoccupation. Try replacing this irresistable attraction with something else you find enticing. You may have to try many things before you can find something of great interest. Also, I'm bothered by your displayed name, which defines who you are by what you did. Let it go. Are you ready to let it go and move on? I pray for that for you with all my heart.

Sure, I'll pray for you. But have you asked God yourself to help you in your need?

If you talk to God specificially and earnestly He will hear and answer. Those are 2 keys: be specific, and be earnest. You know what you want: to heal and move on. If you pray that prayer yourself, often, and bear in mind that God wants you to lean on Him and trust him for all things, you will feel yourself getting better. Also it will help to think about what God wants for you, and why.

These things I know from direct, personal experience--this is how I was able to end my longterm affair. I could not have done it myself. I tried many times and failed. But when it became about God, everything changed.

I read recently of another person in an affair who posted about ending hers, and how much it hurt her to do so because of the attachment to the man. But while in the affair, her relationship with God was compromised such that she felt that she couldn't pray earnestly to him about that and other matters in her life. She knew that He was listening to her prayers, even while she was in the affair. But she saw the difference in her relation to God after ending the affair.

Prayer is the only thing that really helps, and only God can make things right...the things people do to one another, selfishly and sinfully--the perpetrators & the victims need God equally.

(Romans 8:28-39 "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.")