I've known about this A for 3 years, but I just found out the details this week after forcing them out from my H. I don't even know if it's all out of the bag.
It all started when I was 6 weeks pg with my first child. My mom was leaving on vacation with her BF and needed someone to stay with my sister. She is only 2 years younger than me, but she has mental problems. Like anxiety, depression, etc. so my mom doesn't like leaving her alone. My H and I told her we'd stay over till she came back. Later that night my H and my sister took alot of LSD, something we used to do often, but I didn't take any cause I was pg. I fell asleep @2am cause I couldn't stay up any longer and when I fell asleep my sister removed all her clothes and seduced my H.
Now, I found out because I woke up an hour or two later and just felt something wrong. I went into her bedroom and it was completely dark and I turned on the lights to see her naked in bed, but my H was sitting at the opposite side of the room. He looked angry and confused. At first, I didn't snap cause my sister is kinda crazy anyway and to top it off she was tripping. So, I went over to her and told her to put her clothes on and left the room. It was my H who came after me and told me right away "nothing happened". That told me something DID happen and I went off as any normal pg woman would do. Okay, that's how it all started.
Fast foward to present day. I stayed with my H because I was pg and when our D was only 5 months old I got pg again. All this time we still hang out with my sister and we're all friends again, but I just FELT something wrong. When my 2nd D was 5 months old I got pg AGAIN. Which right now I am 7 months pg with our 3rd child. I wanted to keep going with our family and just forget what happened in the past. But, all the time it just FELT wrong.
I finally confronted my H about these wrong feelings this week and he spilled it all. Supposedly. Now, his story is he has been in love with my sister since the first time he met her. She never gave him a chance so he went for me and fell in love with me and married me, etc. That night that it happened he says he couldn't resist cause she was finally loving him back and he was happy at first. But, then he says he was trying to make love to her and she was being really aggressive and crazy and that was turning him off. Then he says he stopped cause he felt bad that his pg wife was sleeping in the next room. Yet, he still ejaculated!
Now, he's torn cause he is still in love with my sister and wants to be with her, BUT he loves he too and his kids and doesn't want to tear our family apart. After he heard what I had to say - which is I'm a Christian woman and don't believe in divorce, and I'm still very much in love with him, I take our marriage vows very seriously - he claims he's willing to patch up our marriage and forget all about my sister.
Now, my question is what do I do about my sister? Dr. Harley says we need to break off all communication with her, but I'm scared. First, because my mom will want to know why and then will probably blame my H and second because my sister has no other friends and if we do this I'm afraid she will commit sucicide or something crazy.
I'd prefer this question to be answered by Dr. Harley himself, but I don't know where to go. If anyone has any feedback please help! If not, it was just a relief to get this all off my chest. I'll be posting this in the prayer requests cause I believe prayer is very powerful. If you pray, please pray for my family. I feel so lost. Thank you.
