Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum

This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at mbrestored@gmail.com
Previous Thread
Next Thread
Print Thread
Joined: Jan 2004
Posts: 6
W
Junior Member
Junior Member
W Offline
Joined: Jan 2004
Posts: 6
I have so much on my hands right now and I am wondering if you can pray for me?

right now we have no money for food(we do have some) to pay our bills and rent. they are threatning to turn off our electric on the 23rd if we dont come up with 600 dollars. we have no way or fiances to get back to church and the church cant provide us transportation:( my husband is getting depressed and he wants to start drinking and it seems like the only thing i can do right now is to pray for him. so if you can please pray that this situation gets worked out and pray that im strong for my husband.

The other situation is that my husband cheated on me a year ago before we were married. he slept with my cousin and I forgave him and her. but my problem is that everythime i look at her i see what happened between the two of them. He was the one that confessed she didnt. I really need help in healing and moving on and learning to either not have her in my life or have her in my life without thinking about what happened. please pray that i heal and move on. im glad i found this webiste:)

Joined: Oct 2000
Posts: 459
G
Member
Member
G Offline
Joined: Oct 2000
Posts: 459
Sorry you have so much on your shoulders. I will pray for you. Just trust God with everything. Everything, small and large.

Ask God to help you to forgive them both. We can only forgive through God. I know you forgave them, but every time you remember due to seeing her or whatever, you must ask God to help you forgive them again.

Remember ,our sin is as bad as anyone else's sin.
If we want to be forgiven much, we must forgive much ourselves. Forgiving is a process. A process that takes time and God's help.

gentle

Joined: May 2004
Posts: 106
L
Member
Member
L Offline
Joined: May 2004
Posts: 106
Dear Wifeofadecon,

I too am going thru a similar situation. My H had an A with my blood sister for a little over 2 years. During those 2 years I was pregnant with my first child, then a second and I am now pg with our 3rd. I was 7 months along when the A was revealed to me.

I cannot tell you what to do, but I can tell you what I did to make me feel better. My H was the one who revealed the affair and my sister has denied everything. I know in my heart my H would never make up all these things knowing how much it would hurt me. I chose to forgive my H and we are in recovery now re-building our M.

I am here too, because I cannot find it in my heart to forgive my sister for what she has done. I am trying, but by her denying everything and saying my H was just a pervert who tried to get her in bed makes it so much harder. So, I have decided to cut her out of my life till she can come clean and repent her sins to the Lord.

I can also relate to your finance troubles as well. As of right now, we only have $5 to our name. With two very young children and one on the way. My H is unemployed, so we have no source of income. I don't know what to do either except pray. And that is exactly what I will do for you. Be strong in the Word of God, he WILL make you strong for your H as well as your children. I don't know how we are making it, but we are, by the grace of God.

God - please give strength to wifeofadecon in this trying time. Show her life can be good still even during this tribulation. More than anything God reveal her strength to her H, so that he too can want to become as strong as her and follow her example. Your example, Dear Lord.

If you need to talk more, since we are in such similar situations you are more than welcome to email me: eunnit@hellokitty.com

Joined: Jan 2004
Posts: 6
W
Junior Member
Junior Member
W Offline
Joined: Jan 2004
Posts: 6
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by lcg_25:
<strong> Dear Wifeofadecon,

I too am going thru a similar situation. My H had an A with my blood sister for a little over 2 years. During those 2 years I was pregnant with my first child, then a second and I am now pg with our 3rd. I was 7 months along when the A was revealed to me.

I cannot tell you what to do, but I can tell you what I did to make me feel better. My H was the one who revealed the affair and my sister has denied everything. I know in my heart my H would never make up all these things knowing how much it would hurt me. I chose to forgive my H and we are in recovery now re-building our M.

I am here too, because I cannot find it in my heart to forgive my sister for what she has done. I am trying, but by her denying everything and saying my H was just a pervert who tried to get her in bed makes it so much harder. So, I have decided to cut her out of my life till she can come clean and repent her sins to the Lord.

I can also relate to your finance troubles as well. As of right now, we only have $5 to our name. With two very young children and one on the way. My H is unemployed, so we have no source of income. I don't know what to do either except pray. And that is exactly what I will do for you. Be strong in the Word of God, he WILL make you strong for your H as well as your children. I don't know how we are making it, but we are, by the grace of God.

God - please give strength to wifeofadecon in this trying time. Show her life can be good still even during this tribulation. More than anything God reveal her strength to her H, so that he too can want to become as strong as her and follow her example. Your example, Dear Lord.

If you need to talk more, since we are in such similar situations you are more than welcome to email me: eunnit@hellokitty.com </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">lcg thank you for your support and thank you gentle for your advice:) lcg i tried emailing you but it said your email box is full:(

<small>[ June 21, 2004, 03:57 PM: Message edited by: wifeofadecon ]</small>


Link Copied to Clipboard
Forum Search
Who's Online Now
0 members (), 2,056 guests, and 101 robots.
Key: Admin, Global Mod, Mod
Newest Members
apefruityouth, litchming, scrushe, Carolina Wilson, Lokire
72,032 Registered Users
Latest Posts
Three Times A Charm
by Vallation - 07/24/25 11:54 PM
How important is it to get the whole story?
by still seeking - 07/24/25 01:29 AM
Annulment reconsideration help
by abrrba - 07/21/25 03:05 PM
Help: I Don't Like Being Around My Wife
by abrrba - 07/21/25 03:01 PM
Following Ex-Wifes Nursing Schedule?
by Roger Beach - 07/16/25 04:21 AM
My wife wants a separation
by Roger Beach - 07/16/25 04:20 AM
Forum Statistics
Forums67
Topics133,625
Posts2,323,524
Members72,032
Most Online6,102
Jul 3rd, 2025
Building Marriages That Last A Lifetime
Copyright © 2025, Marriage Builders, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Site Navigation
Powered by UBB.threads™ PHP Forum Software 8.0.0