My WH and I are trying to get our M on track, but it seems that OW keeps stepping in the middle of the tracks and distracting WH.

Please pray for us. There was NC from 4/8/04 until about 4/26/04. Then he saw her at a business function. That was the end of his changing for the better.

He was SUCH a better person, husband, father for those few weeks ... one that I hadn't seen in quite some time. But a sighting (discussion, or whatever else occurred) has put him back toi thinking about her more than me.

I can see it in his eyes.

At this point, I'm continuing to pray that he will come back to me and our family. I know that I will make it without him, but WITH him, I'll be much stronger and happier.

I am just reaching out to the prayer partners here for some much-needed intervention.

Father,

I pray for conviction in the heart of this man. If he is not walking with you in obedience , that you will bring him to his senses and that he will look around and see how blessed he is and value his wife and family, and protect the love between them.

Let him see the OW as a dangerous threat to his own happiness and that of his family.

Father, be with Headed and give her wisdom tonight.

Shul

I need prayer too.


I feel like telling my husband that he blew it. That he made his bed and now he has to lie in it. He didn't want me , didn't want this life, or our family and he did everything to sabotage our wellbeing for 18 years, in search of a good time, and now its too late.

That he can't have me. That I will find a mate who will be a father to his child and a partner to me, who will take what he threw away and get from me all the love that I wanted to give him that he didn't want.

That I forgive him, but I don't want him back.


I think its time for me to withdraw myself from him. Let him think I am done.

Maybe I am done.

I stand with both of you in prayer. "Where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I in the midst of them."

It says that the Lord is near to the "brokenhearted." He will not forsake you.

I pray that He will remove the OW from your husband's lives and that she would be as "bitter as wormwood." (There is a verse somewhere talking about how an adulterous woman will be like that in the end, but I am not sure offhand where it is!).

May He give you strength, wisdom, comfort, and rest in the midst of your pain. I am truly, truly sorry for the pain your husband's infidelity has brought to your lives. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Have either of you visited www.restorem.org and www.rejoiceministries.org ? If not, I would encourage you to. At the first site, you can get a prayer partner. At the second site, you can sign up for a daily devotional ("Charlyne Cares").

Immerse yourself in God's Word and surround yourself with TRUTH because Satan will surely fight to destroy you, your husbands, and your marriages. Be strong in the Lord. Hold fast to your faith. He is with you.

My prayers are with you both.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> feel like telling my husband that he blew it. That he made his bed and now he has to lie in it. He didn't want me , didn't want this life, or our family and he did everything to sabotage our wellbeing for 18 years, in search of a good time, and now its too late.

That he can't have me. That I will find a mate who will be a father to his child and a partner to me, who will take what he threw away and get from me all the love that I wanted to give him that he didn't want.

That I forgive him, but I don't want him back.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Shul, I pray that you don't fall into this trap. It is a very dangerous place. If you are going to tell him this, because this is your choice, please make sure this is what you TRULY want. That you are prepared for if he says, Okay and then walks away for good. Like I said, this is dangerous territory.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I think its time for me to withdraw myself from him. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I understand this -- BELIEVE ME! I reached this point too when my H was away. What I told him was that I needed time to be alone so that I could heal. I told him that I could not be friends with him like he needed me to be, AT THAT PARTICULAR TIME. Very important to stress this. That I wanted to be his friend, that I wanted to be close to him, but that I needed that time to heal. Major difference. And slowly, I got used to being by myself, alone with God. Coincidentally, this was the time that my H did his major thinking. His heart was already turning toward home, as God made sure of this, but this made him think about my FRIENDSHIP and what it would mean to him to not have it and he rethought the separation. A couple weeks later, he asked to come back home. But this is MY experience, this doesn't mean it will happen for you. Just something to think about.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Let him think I am done.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">If this is your goal, to make him THINK that, please don't play games with him. You state later that maybe you are. I'm sure you're having your moments. You are very unsure right now.

If you need someone to talk to, please e-mail me at cherfan31@comcast.net.

Thinking of you,
Y

Thank you for your thoughtful prayers. I will be visiting Restore Ministries momentarily.

Yvette,

I am hanging on by a thread, believing that God can heal him.

I am having mixed feelings, but Gods will be done in this, not mine.

I do want my husband healed. I want him repentant, whole, living in peace with God, faithful, committed.

This morning I had to go to God with some ugly thought-sin and ask for forgiveness, and I was reminded that the measure I give is the measure I receive.

I have to forgive him.


I read in another thread yesterday, a man who was much like my husband , but who came to his senses. If God can bring him to repentance, maybe he can do the same with my husband. People keep telling me that there is no hope of him ever changing, but he has heard the word. He recieved Christ years ago, and he knows the truth.

He has left me so many times, sometimes for months, and he has always come back eventually, sometimes to God.

I am trusting for today that God knows exactly what circumstances to bring about to reach my husband. I have the feeling that something is going to happen, that will wake him up.

But I need clear guidance. I don't want to get in Gods way. Please pray that I will hear from God today. I am taking the day to listen.

I think I can hang in there for one more day.

Shul