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#346499 06/17/04 02:59 PM
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Hi everybody,
I am having a hard day and need some prayers to keep going. I had lunch with my mother-in-law today. I found our a lot of things that I am extrememly upset about. Husband and current ow visited in April. While here, husband brought her to my parent's house (where I'm staying) and pretty much paraded her around town. He acted as if they were the perfect family when they took our son out.

Now, anytime Husband calls his parents, she has to speak to them too. She has taken on the part of wife in their life. My husband's real mom became great friends with her and they were the perfect buddies. I don't even here from her anymore. I have been replaced.

I can honestly say that I hate him. I no longer want this marriage to work. There is no marriage anymore. Just pray that I follow God's will for my life. If this is His way of telling me to move on, so be it. Anything would be better than living in this hell.

Lunadove

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{{{Lunadove}}}

My heart goes out to you.

I feel angry too, hearing this. It is not right.

I do know that for your own peace of mind you need to forgive him. It is the only way to heal.

You have been so patient and steadfast.

Somehow I pray that God will give you a clear answer to know his will in this. If there is hope, or if you are free.

If you were free, would you want to be with him?

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I need help too, tonight.

All along my husband has been telling me that he is just using this woman for a place to stay and rides and stuff.

That it is not an emotional affair on his part.

But now I am beginning to wonder. Someone called to tell me that they saw him on the street and that he was kissing her.

I don't think he has been honest with either of us. I am going to ask him tonight for the truth. There is no point in him lying because I can always just phone her myself and find out once and for all what is going on.

I want to know the truth.

I guess I need prayer though. I don't want to make things worse, or LB.

This may sound stupid, since they are having sex, but I didn't think he kisses her and it really upset me.

#346502 06/18/04 12:55 AM
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Shul,
After spending time in my prayer closet, I was reminded that God is bigger than anything that is thrown at me. I know His purpose for me and I will be praying for my husband. I know I will never be free from my husband. God sent me His word this afternoon that cleared that up.

I will continue to pray for you and your husband. Even with everything I have seen and heard about my husband, I know God wants me to be patient and wait.

Lunadove

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Lunadove,

Can I borrow your prayer closet? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

#346504 06/18/04 01:39 PM
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Well, if you really want to know, it's my bathroom. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I just took some time to go over my thoughts and understand that I was being attacked. I hate it when that happens. I trust God and know it will all go according to His will.

Lunadove

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Hi Luna,

Sure glad to hear that everything is better. I know the feeling. I too was attacked yesterday(not M related) but I took some time to think about it before reacting. God is so awesome! The enemy is trying to get me in other ways now. BUT HE JUST AIN'T HAVING ME!

I read your post yesterday right after you put it up. I didn't know what to tell you at the moment, but I did pray for you (always do). I'm happy to see a response to my prayers! (not saying it was all me, of course). He answered ALL our prayers for you. Hang in there my dear friend! We ARE going to make it! You'll See!!

Take Care and Have a Good Day!

Love,
H98

GOD BLESS!!!!


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