I find myself often wondering why after people know about the A or the "pink elephant" (another tread <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> that they don't have the ability to "love during the healing". For example: my only sister said when I asked her why she doesn't ever ask me how I am doing "why live in the past, put it aside and move on". Pretty damn easy for her to say huh!? I had to explain to her that may be her style of dealing w/things, but not mine....that I need acknowledged and need to talk about it. It is a part of who I am today. It is the reason for how I got to where I am. I think that a A is one of the most horrible, single handedly most significant loss next to death. How do friends/family after knowing not acknowledge or not even lend a hand to help your heart???? I hear the saying "they just don't know what to say or do"....what BS......people need to only "LOVE".......?? Love is the premise of life......why is it so hard for people to do it?????? I get so confused, and know I am only to seek God's love and turn it over to him, but we are human beings with feelings........thoughts?

I have bad answers for you.

maybe some are in affairs and can't face the pain they are causing?

And really, how could anyone who hasn't experienced a WS know how it feels?

But it must be awful, to need support more than ever and not get it from those you expect it from.

any other feedback? surprised not to see much response! this isn't a juicy thread just a bewildered and hurting one.....