Hello everybody,
I am seeking advice as to how to react to a letter for husband's grandparents. I wrote them a letter letting them know I am "standing" for our marriage. Well, I received a letter from them telling me that divorce is hard but that I will find a "good man" someday. Hello? Did they not read the letter I wrote. This is not what I expected from them as they are Christians. I wasn't expecting much but this takes the cake. Anyway, do I write them back restating what I am doing and with the biblical reasons I am doing it? Any input would be appreciated.

P.S. I do believe God wants me to stand for this marriage.

Lunadove

Write back and tell them that you have found a good man, their grandson, and ask that they pray that God will soften his heart and follow the will of God.

Tony

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> This is not what I expected from them as they are Christians.

P.S. I do believe God wants me to stand for this marriage.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Luna,

Even Christians are confused on this issue. I've seen it for the past 3 years. IF you know God wants you to Stand for your M, then do it. Quietly, confidently, patiently.

You would not believe all the people, family and friends, who NOW come up to me and say, "I really thought you'd lost it when you decided to Stand.....but now it looks like God is going to really do it!!"

See, folks SAY they believe "God can do anything" - but I'm convinced most people don't really mean ANYTHING!! I think they believe God can do something THEY could understand!!

It takes one man or one woman who is willing to really put them selves "out there" on the point for God to SHOW the WORLD that He is STILL in the reconciliation business!!

My best g/f for instance. She tells me (NOW) that she was willing to "stand and pray" with me all this time, b/c of my faith. B/c of her friendship with me. BUT - it really hit home with her (this whole "standing" thing) when her son's W left him about a year and a half ago......she NOW says, "I know God can bring her back, and do a miracle work in her AND I KNOW IT B/C OF WHAT GOD IS DOING IN *YOUR* M!!!!

She admits that her advice to her son would have been totally different had she not been going through this with ME before his split. Their whole church (it's not a very big church <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ) has now become more emboldened to pray (for her son and other issues) and believe God will answer their prayers. I see it as God using ME to show the world that His Word can still be trusted.

Same thing w/your H's grandparents. Even tho they are already christians, I believe GOD IS USING THIS SITCH TO STRENGTHEN YOUR IN-LAWS' FAITH!!

Give Him Praise. Thank Him. Believe Him, Trust Him.

God Bless,

hey Luna- I get this same response from my MIA h parents. they do NOT approve-they want h to restore OUR family but will not tell h how they feel. I finally told my h the other day in a quick phone chat-(he always hangs up....frustrated??) what his father said to me about it. h is BOLD now and brings ow to their home...ick. I suggested h ask his parents and I know he won't and they won't tell h- but they will tell me- fat lot of good that does.....anyway.....you are not alone. I am standing for my M too and getting plenty of flak about it......

don't forget about ladies chat...I am there alot these days- medical condition keeps me in a chair alot...


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PEACE OUT

Hi everybody!
Thanks for all the responses. I e-mailed his grandparents back and told them I was not giving up on my marriage or on my God. I haven't heard from them since then. Husband's mom wrote me to and told me to move on and to find "joy and happiness." I wrote her a letter back, but I keep forgetting to mail it. I know that she is friends with husband's ow so I'm not expecting support from her at all.

One good thing has come about. I talked with husband's step-mom about how they are excluding me from their lives and how I enjoyed spending time with them. I really do. We're all going to try and do something this weekend. Praise God that she understands that I don't want to lose them.

As for my husband, I am standing in the gap and praying for him constantly. I am begining to understand the "pray without ceasing" concept. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Lunadove

Lunadove

just wanted to add my 2 cents about what to say when family and loved ones or even friends, etc. tell you to move on or wonder why you are doing what you are doing. of course this comes from SH but it makes total sense.

"the future will be different from the past."
"i can't in good conscience walk away from something that i know can be better."
"i'm not in a position where i am ready for that."
"i know he doesn't love me or feel that he doesn't love me or feel that way about me but i believe there is a way to work together for that to happen. if we work together."

just a couple of ideas, let some time go by before you reply to anything and post it here and wait to you get some advice if needed. prayers to you, RR