Every Wed. we pray and fast for one another for resolution to our marriages and our lives. Every Wed. we can check in and let our fellow prayer warriors know we have prayed for the group. Prayer does mighty things and group prayer is even better. "For where two or three have gathered together in My name, I am there in their midst." Matt 18:20.

I will be entering the prayer post on Sundays so everyone has an opportunity to check in and to add their own personal prayer request if they want to/need to. Then on Wed. we can check in, hit the "Post Reply" button, and enter "Amen".

I think it will be great to see how God works in our lives and heals our marriages and us. If you want to pray with us I will be more than happy to add your name to the list below.


Prayer Warriors who are praying and being prayed for: -.{189 Prayer Warriors and counting}
cajunky . Ezra . Willgetthruthis . Godisincontrol . Natasha79 . JohnC . NMWBTWBD (Not My Will, But Thy Will Be Done) . Wallace . relady . steadfast and committed . morriggs . lupolady . stillwaiting . Broken Hearted . PasDeDeux . hopeful_person . GinnyF . justpeachy . cry2much . SNL . LostAgain (Dave&April) . Dodger (Rtron) . gloriachu . LoveNcare . JMF . WEN . NiteHawk . Absurd . LetSTry . AgainsttheWind . cemmerson . getting better . kellidiane . Terrified . BeeLee . idostylin . Resilient . thiscantbehappening . day by day . Jloves . broken x3 . Sue with Hope . sunrise1 . shepette . Malc . Faithfulwife . timbo-e . Angelia . FeelingAllAlone . broken_joe .

dopey . awake . trulyafriend . Is it to late? . stilltryingtosaveit . landslide . GODBLESSU . vega . LoyalWarrior . janna-m-r . ferbie . EpiphOny . Simmy . cajeanie . d_rose . lost_lonely . briank4775 . mayflower . Caged_Bird . LunaDove . goldilocks109 . darwud . Mrs. Darwud . Zuzus_Petals . adamv . Army Hubby . Gail (mojodiva) & Shane . bonnie five & H . TryingToKeepHope . Hopeful98 . Ighoping . SoTired (Mike & Trish) . evega . Douglas and Kirsi Nielson . Jessicafl27 . kimmy2 . auntielala . weezy8550 . miserynmissouri .STBXWife . sealfan . Jen Brown . SMIAJ . Cinderella . GreggC . trying_to_accept . solon . serenitydipity . ilia . lonejrock .

anchorhugger . Prayer & Patience . Chikar . Alex6 . Hopeforamiracle . fishlady . rookie . Made A Mess of Things . *DeepSigh* . boden . new comittment . deeplyhurting . jeff15679 . Bob Castaldi . k57mo . skottyjay (Scott & Melody) . TROD (Tony and Julie) . thisso . ladysheep . hurtmorethanheknows . singleguy . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage . Keesley . recovering_dad . Terrianna . javaContour . BH . Cheryls . cherry log . AD. . Suebee . REJECTED . LoveMyEx . LostHusband . kings kid . kwhittle . vividwhisper . imready2try . staeryn . JoeCM . mike729 . Ridingtherollercoaster . DREslinger . ecpsap . Mr.Miew . StandingTogether . Alcoholic’s Wife . gentle . Stung by a Bee . maximus1 . Blended family girl . Diamonzzz . sctaylor . RichardF . bygraceamfree . butterflie . FinallyLearning . angielt . luke parrish . sadmama . Timeheals . OuchThisHurts . mojo95 . Cherylpa . nvrgvup . Titleist . auto009988 . Hope92 . JLight . Culprit007 and hubby . ddc03 . new_beginning . Waiting On My Change . allmyloveforever . jamesp . wontgiveupyet . gzangel . wahoodee . sad and tired . ruffled . Shul . Learning Lots . prayingforchange . ChangingMan . rosj . txsunnyblueskies . roughroad . sprezzatura . SurvivingInNC . angels9 .

Prayers Answered/God's Gifts to Us:

Hopeful98 (H went to church and was able to smile and say hello to him) . Shul (H wants to turn back to God) . RichardF (expecting a little blessing from God - baby!) . Shul (had opportunity to show love and friendship to H) . Lupolady (H continues to make contact each week) . StandingTogether (H has agreed to read The Five Love Languages together) . Titleist (W moved back home) . hopeful98 (H went to church again) . LunaDove (God kept her out of trouble) . hopeful98 (H commented to MIL's H that he was not interested in checking the D status - doesn't care about it anyways) . LunaDove (received a pay raise and is getting a good tax return - God is taking care of her and son) . Hopeful_person (remarried her H in Jan. PTL!) . ItsInHisHandsNow (had a 3 hr conversation with wife) . LunaDove (God answered her question) . hopeful98 (H went to church) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (made a promise to God to give me a headache when I am not living His Word – boy does my head hurt ;-) . lupolady ( was a Witness and Testimony to her faith to a woman in the vet’s office) . Steadfastandcommitted (W told OM she would soon be leaving her job, he replied that he guesses he’ll have to start dating) . RichardF (W and him went to a 'marriage weekend' together and have started communicating again) . TTSMM (stood by D in church when she did her first reading ever during her "First Penance" ceremony) . Standing_For_M (H is talking about MC; H is spending nights at the house; received $$ to payoff outstanding bills and bank the remainder) . adamv (talked and prayed the prayer of salvation with his 8yr old son) . finallylearning (has broken ties with the OM) . Steadfast and Committed (MIL left the hospital; his dog was found by the Humane Society) . Standing_For_M (H stayed over for Christmas Eve and Christmas Day; rec'd Christmas gifts for her and her kids and food/groceries from her mom and her job; had great talk with H on phone; H said he told a co-worker a story about when they first dated) . lupolady (broken arm is healed; bought herself a new car) . staeryn (H moving back temporarily to help with their new baby) . sadmama (H is ending A and coming home; her D's pray for the Prayer Warriors) . hopeful98 (R&R in Mexico) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (at Mass, a child was being baptized and my D said, "Look Daddy, another member has just joined God's family; D is doing a reading at her "First Sacrament of Reconciliation" service this Saturday) . Standing_For_M (her & H attended S' holiday concert and had a good time) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (kids were playing very loudly while W was baking and she didn't lose it, she let them have fun) . hopeful98 (had a nice conversation with her H) . Standing_for_M (had a five hour talk with H, some flirting with him as well) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (in my D's public school, they discussed things pertaining to the winter season, she said "God's Birthday") . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (I struck up a conversation with a former Catholic-Christian and shared my life, experiences and "The Purpose Driven Life" with him. first time I ever shared my faith with a stranger) . Blended faily girl (found a job within a Christian environment and received a raise) . Blended faily girl (the Lord placed a strong Christian woman in her life for a "Purpose") . Blended faily girl (four hour Bible study with sister on phone) . Standing_for_M (her H stayed the night, on the sofa, after visiting her and the children) . tryingTOsaveMYmarriage (a wonderful Thanksgiving with my wife and children - no fighting or talk of divorce) . Standing_for_M (her H's heart is softening by his actions towards her and their children) . LoveNcare (her son returns to his wife after 14 months) . lupolady (hard cast taken off her arm) . kings kid (good news about her biopsy) . Terrianna (daughter not moving away) . Steadfastandcommitted (wife is back and we are planning to renew our wedding vows in our church) . tryingTOsaveMYmarraige (D is interested in the Christian music I am listening to and asks a lot about God) . hopeful_person (H seemed more willing to consider a reconciliation) . GreggC (wife's heart is softening a bit and son asking about things in the Bible and believes in it) . WGTT (WH coming home) . d_rose (got a ways to go but we are going there together.) . Faithfulwife (GOT A JOB, Found a house, D is final and got a puppy that “just LOVES me”) . tsc (marriage being restored) . janna-m-r (Husband came home and wants to try to restore marriage even though he is the BS) . Steadfastandcommitted (wife gave up other man) . Stillwaiting (Got to see her husband for 2 hours and his heart seems to have softened) . Stillwaiting (neice is o.k.) . cajunky (wife not engaged & did something with family, told me she loved me) . Free (Marriage Restoration begun ) . Againstthewind (Got job) . betrayed and desparate (sucessful cancer surgery) . WGTT (accepted into mentor program) . Movingonwithlife (Wife coming home) . cry2much(sucessful surgery) . Steadfastandcommitted (first string again) . Lupolady (air conditioner) .

“The Power of a Praying Wife”

Chapter 1 - His Wife

God can resurrect the deadest of marriages, but it takes humbling ourselves before Him and desiring to live His way – forgiveness, kindness, and love. It means letting go of the past and all hurt associated with it and being willing to lose the argument in order to win the battle. I’m not saying you have to become a person void of personality, feelings, or thoughts of your own, or be the the whipping post for a husband’s whim. God doesn’t require that of you. Submission is something you give from your heart, not something demanded of you. Jesus said, “He who loses his life for My sake will find it” (Matthew 10:39). But laying down your life is something you willingly do, not something that is forcefully taken from you. What I’m saying is that your attitude must be, “Whatever You want Lord. Show me and I’ll do it.” It means being willing to die to yourseld and say, “Change me, Lord”.

Something amazing happens to our hearts when we pray for another person. The hardness melts. We become able to get beyond the hurts, and forgive. We even end up loving the person we are praying for. It’s miraculous! It happens because when we pray we enter into the presence of God and He fills us with His Spirit of love. When you pray for your husband, the love of God will grow in your heart for him. Not only that, you’ll find love growing in his heart for you, without him even knowing you are praying. That’s because prayer is the ultimate love language. It communicates in ways we can’t. I’ve seen women with no feeling of love for their husbands find that as they prayed, over time, those feeling came. Sometimes they felt differently even after the first heartfelt prayer.

There is a time for everything, it says in the Bible. And it is never more true than in a marriage, especially when it comes to the words we say. There is a time to speak and a time not to speak, and happy is the man whose wife can discern between the two. Anyone who has been married for any length of time realizes that there are things that are better left unsaid. A wife has the ability to hurt her husband more deeply than anyone else can, and he can do the same to her. No matter how much apology, the words can not be erased. They can only be forgiven and that is not always easy. Sometimes anything we say will only hinder the flow of what God wants to do, so it’s best to, well, shut up and pray.

While honesty is a requirement for a successful marriage, telling your husband everything that is wrong with him is not only ill-advised, it probably doesn’t reveal the complete truth. The total truth is from God’s perspective and He, undoubtedly, doesn’t have the same problem with some of your husband’s actions as you do. Our goal must not be to get our husbands to do what we want, but rather to release them to God so He can get them to do what He wants.

Accept your husband the way he is and pray for him to grow. Then when change happens, it will be because God has worked it in him and it will be lasting. “My soul, wait silently for God alone, for my expectation is from Him” (Psalm 62:5). Your greatest expectations must be from God, nor your Husband.

PRAYER

Lord, Help me to be a good wife. I fully realize that I don’t have what it takes to be one without Your help. Take my selfishness, impatience, and irritability and turn them into kindness, long-suffering, and the willingness to bear all things. Take my old emotional habits, mindsets, automatic reactions, rude assumptions, and self-protective stance, and make me patient, kind, good, faithful, gentle, and self-controlled. Take the hardness of my heart and break down the walls with Your battering ram of revelation. Give me a new heart and work in me Your love, peace, and joy (Galatians 5:22,23). I am not able to rise above who I am at this moment. Only You can transform me.
Show me where there is sin in my heart, especially with regard to my husband. I confess the times I’ve been unloving, critical, angry, resentful, disrespectful, or unforgiving toward him. Help me to put aside any hurt, anger, or disappointment I feel and forgive him the way You do – totally and completely, no looking back. Make me a tool for reconciliation, peace, and healing in this marriage. Enable us to communicate well and rescue us from the threshold of separation where the realities of divorce begin.
Make me my husband’s helpmate, companion, champion, friend, and support. Help me to create a peaceful, restful, safe place fro him to come home to. Teach me how to take care of myself and stay attractive to him. Grow me into a creative and confident woman who is rich in mind, soul, and spirit. Make me the kind of woman he can be proud to say is his wife.
I lay all my expectations at Your cross. I release my husband from the burden of fulfilling me in areas where I should be looking to You. Help me to accept him the way he is and not try to change him. I realize that in some ways he may never change, but at the same time, I release him to change in ways I never thought he could. I leave any changing that needs to be done in Your hands, fully accepting that neither of us is perfect and never will be. Only You, Lord, are perfect and I look to You to perfect us.
Teach me how to pray for my husband and make my prayers a true language of love. Where love has died, create new love between us. Show me what unconditional love really is and how to communicate it in a way he can clearly perceive. Bring unity between us so that we can be in agreement about everything (Amos 3:3). May the God of patience and comfort grant us to be like-minded toward one another, according to Christ Jesus (Romans 15:5). Make us a team, not pursuing separate, competitive, or independent lives, but working together, overlooking each other’s faults and weaknesses for the greater good of the marriage. Help us to pursue the things which make for peace and the things by which one may edify another (Romans 14:19). May we be “perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgement” (I Corinthians 1:10).

I pray that our commitment to You and to one another will grow stronger and more passionate every day. Enable him to be the head of the home as You made him to be, and show me how to support and respect him as he rises to that place of leadership. Help me to understand his dreams and see things from his perspective. Reveal to me what he wants and needs and show me potential problems before they arise. Breathe Your life into this marriage.
Make me a new person, Lord. Give me a fresh perspective, a positive outlook, and a renewed relationship with the man You’ve given me. Help me see him with new eyes, new appreciation, new love, new compassion, and new acceptance. Give my husband a new wife, and let it be me.

AMEN!

<small>[ August 01, 2004, 01:45 PM: Message edited by: hopeful98 ]</small>

Hopeful,
Thank you for this prayer. I went immediately and found my copy, and will start using it daily, once again. And thank you to all of you who pray every week for me and my WH.

I will be praying for eveyone on the list, but please, if Steadfast&Committed is out there, and LupoLady, will you please take a few extra minutes this week and pray for me and my WH, Dan. Something is finally happening with my WH, and I really need your prayers to help me know what to say to him, and to help him with the decisions that he will be making this week - he wants to get out of the relationship with the OW, but can't see the way.

He needs to know that he is doing the right thing, so please pray that he will find peace with this decision, and that God will help him to make the right decision about his promotion at work, and that he will find the strength to commit to our marriageand to walk away from the OW.

I thank all of you who pray for us. I really need your support right now.

Cajeanie2

Cajeanie,

My dear sister, I'm always out here! And you and Dan are always on my prayer list. And yes I will spend extra time talking to my Daddy for you two.

Bless you and don't forget; to Him give all the praise and glory!

Love in Christ.

S&C

If he's open to e-mailing me I'm available.

Amen

AMEN! Praying for you all today!

May God bless each and every one of you and give you strength!!

H98

AMEN!!!

AMEN!

well when i prayed this morning and said amen i didn't know i was going to need an extra/special prayer today but i do. this is just what happened:

Nothing to serious but still upsetting (to me) to say the least.I had talked to SH about my H becoming "mean" and I think he is, especially now that he doesn't have any real ties to have to stay at the house since I have the dogs. so any of the ties left are just on paper.

i had left a VM on his cell phone monday asking him to call me about the tax information (our extension exp. 8/15/04). i didn't hear from him so i called him again this morning asking him to please call me that i needed his help w/this and that i was worried and was trying to get things prepared on my end. well he called about 30minutes ago. kind of went off on me IMO. just said that he didn't call me because he had put a package in the mail for me w/a note that said the taxes were being taken care of and that he told me that he was taken care of it, etc.

i asked him what the damage was and he said he didn't know. (i just didn't understand how he could say things were completed but he didn't know how much we owed). i said as much to him and said that he was going to drop off the taxes today. i told him that i cannot file my state taxes until the federal taxes are complete and i have a copy of the form (apparently he didn't know this) he just says "did they tell you that?" he was just kind of really sarcastic and seemed really put out that i was worried, couldn't understand that i needed the federal taxes to be COMPLETE before i could file stateetc. this is really hard for me guys, it has been extremely difficult for me not to tell my H what to do, especially when it came to the taxes and our house. i tried to explain to him why i was worried in a way that was not blaming him but just explaining why i was nervous. that i had to take time off from work, that i had to be able to come up w/the money if needed, etc. well then he just goes into saying how any time he's gone to jackson hewitt it's only taken 30 minutes and how i can make payments and that no matter what the damage was on the federal taxes to not worry about it because he "would take care of it" (kind of like i'm a man and i said i would take care of it and i will type of attitude).

i asked him if he was going to make payments and he just said well yeah, he didn't have the money and that's what he was going to do. well i'm sorry but call me a skeptic, but you know i think he has the money and is just saving it for xyz. but i can't talk about this because that would esentially be talking about the R, etc. if i needed more money then we should sell the house, etc. so i just suck it up.

i thanked him for calling me back but told him i did need to talk to him again but i couldn't talk to him right now and asked when would be a good to call him back. he asked if i could talk at work today and i said probably and he said i could call him at 3pm because he would be on his way to work. i asked what time did he actually have to start work and he said 4pm so he would have plenty of time to talk. he asked what is was about and i just said i couldn't talk right now but would talk later.

so i don't know what to say, the reason i have to talk to him later is to tell him i'm coming to FL in a couple of weeks. i simply cannot say how he will take this or what he will say, etc. i feel i have a lot of back-up for why i need to come down there but in the end i'm just not sure what to say. am i really up for this?

i guess i'm just a little scared and yes, hurt. i know i can't control him and no matter what happens to just trust God. i guess i'm feeling a little like peter when Jesus told him to walk out to him on the water and as the storms started to pick up peter took his eyes of Jesus and began to sink. so i've got to get into a good mindset and get prepared to call him at 3pm. i hadn't really planned on telling him i need to talk to him but if i didn't tell him who knows when i would be able to get ahold of him next and i am on a timeline here.

well thanks for listening, i know my situation is a lot less then what some others are going through but it still hurts. praying for this afternoon, RR

Amen!

Also, my husband called me earlier today and will be calling again this evening. Needs some prayers for that.

Lunadove

Praying for you Luna! Remember, God directs our path.

God Bless!!

H98

I wasn't able to post yesterday, but I just wanted to let you know that I have been thinking and praying for you. May we continue to see His hand in our lives.

God Bless,
Richard