Have been lurking about MB for several weeks at a friends suggestion.....have been reading basic concepts, and jumping around on other topics....have read HNHN in the past, could probably benefit from a re-read. DH is a good and faithful man, but has not been doing his part...I'm not a nagger.....try to communicate needs to no avail.....both work(his preference), and the deal was shared domestic responsibilities...which hasn't happned. We are both Christian, but he isn't as involved with God as he was prior to our infant son's death three years ago(the lethargy was a problem before our son's death, but at least he was intune to God, and God would convict periodically)..

Never has kept his part of the pre-marriage aggreement on chores if we both worked. We have three children. I'm working outside the home AND inside the home and am pretty much love busted.

I've tried talking, and being quiet. I've tried going on strike (but the kids suffered, he didn't move), yes he has said he'd do these things,,,even one week ago...still nothing....and according to him our marriage is fine, I must not love him enough if I perceive there is a problem. He says I have annoying habits too, but he loves me enough to ignore them (and wouldn't specify when I indicated positive discussion of annoying habits could lead to correction of annoying habits).

I'm withdrawn, and frustrated and sad. I don't understand why a good, wonderful man would do this.

I've had worse, previous marriage was to abusive WH, unsaved and in the occult. Left 10 years ago. Re-married six years ago to my knight in shining armor, but his tools have become rusty.

I'm trying to "chill" until I can read all the articles on MB and get a plan, tonight I fixed supper while he laid on the couch (I worked all day, it was his day off).....and I'm hurt and withdrawn and can't seem remain available and work at reaching out to him.

Of course, with three kids wanting mommy.....and working all day....it is taking a VERY long time to read MB without interruption, and I feel panicky (probably over reaction to ex-marriage) and I feel like I'm going to disappear.

Please pray for us.
^Kittykat^

Praying for you ^kittykat^. Sorry no one has replied to you. It's been pretty slow in here this week. And I hope it's because we're all busy praying for each other. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Welcome to MB and the PR forum. Have faith in God that He CAN change your husband to be the godly husband he was created to be and that you need. But usually, change needs to start in us. I will keep you and hubby in my prayers.

God Bless!!

H98

Hopeful:

Thank you for your prayers. I receive them....I like that this forum has a place for prayer requests...and I like that there are prayer warriors here <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Thanks again for the reply and the prayers, it made me feel welcomed. I will be praying for others, too.

^KittyKat^

^kittykat^,

There's always more peopple than you know here praying for you even if they (we) don't reply.

Never feel like your alone here.

Blessings to you.

S&C

Hi ^kittykat^,
Sorry I didn't post to you earlier. I've read what you're going through and just thought I'd let you know that my prayers are with you. I pray that God helps you through this tough time in your life.

Lunadove

^kittykat^,

Ditto what S&C said. Even though you don't receive a reply right away, please know that all of us pray for everyone here. You will be in our prayers from now on. I know for myself, I rarely post anymore because I only have access to the internet through work now, so it's hard to get to all the posts I would like to respond to & by the time I do, somebody has said something that I wanted to say from the beginning.

Keep your chin up & keep smiling despite whatever comes your way. Why? Because God loves you and knows what's best for you.

In Christ's Love,
Yvette

Thank you guys.....I appreciate the prayers and the caring....I know how hard it is to read and post, I have to keep balance myself.....to remember the whole point of MB is healthy relationships....and if I'm online all the time reading and posting....then I'm neglecting my family and probably making the possibility worse.

We had a good day Friday, and then everything went back to the way it was.....my dh basically sleeps or watches tv all the time he is home. Communication thus far brings no real change (just positive reaction for the day of the communication....then back to the way it was)...I'm praying and surrendering to God for change in myself.....I've hated this aspect of it all in the past b/c it seems so unfair, I'm willing to change, just hate when I'm the only one being willing.....but as I've "kicked against the goads" for so long, and it has done no good so I'm bringing myself inline with God and what I can do....this is death to the 'ole flesh....ugh

^KittyKat^