Hi all,<BR> Plan "B" I thought I wouldn't have to do this. <BR>Questions:<BR>1) How do you feel about Harley's advice to send the OM a copy? Won't this just piss my W off because she LIES to OM about seeing me now!! It's like I'M THE OM. I think OM thinks she NEVER calls me (she does almost everyday) If he found out she would "Blow it off to her father dying anyway" BUT SHE LIES like a rug to him!!<BR>2) I'm going there because W and OM are closing on a house on Dec 17th. Is this the WRONG reason? We have gotten REALLY close again. (see my Post "I tried, I'm tired.....<BR>3)Could I just be "HARD to FIND" for a while? Go on with my life??<P> LMK what you think.... THANKS FRANK<BR><P>------------------<BR>desperate<BR>"If yesterday didn't stop today, Why should TODAY stop tomorrow??" <BR>"Wisdom is why!!"<P>

It's me, just checking on you.<P>The ONLY right reason for Plan B is for you. You can't Plan A anymore, you're losing love units. Plan B can make your partner think and want to come back, but it's made primarily to protect you and your feelings for her.<P>That's the big question for you, Frank. Do you need to do that yet, particularly because you feel you two are getting close?<P>You can Plan A without being a doormat, although I'm not the greatest example of that!! You can Plan A and limit contact a little. <P>I guess you need to figure out this one before you decide who to send the letter to.<P>Are YOU ready for Plan B??? It's awful hard, you know?<P>Hang in there.<P>Lori

Lori,<BR> I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!! I HATE the fact about this HOUSE!! I guess I'll pray tonight and ask God what I should do. He may turn a light on in my head. thanks for checking on me. You are AWESOME!! FRANK

It's a really good idea to pray and sleep on it. It's also a good idea to ask yourself a few questions........<P>Are you REALLY ready for absolutely, positively no contact? <P>Can you say NO and mean it, no matter what?<BR>(Except, of course, the biggie!)<P>Is it just the house, or do all of her contacts w/ you w/draw love units?<P>If it's just the house, hell, Frank, she's gonna do that, Plan A or B, ya know? And it's not gonna bother you any less, no matter what you do. But the house is just a house. Doesn't REALLY mean anything.<P>If you two are starting to develope some sort of new relationship (excluding this house thing), are you ready to give that up?<P>Had to edit. Put too much of my OWN pitiful opinion in here!! <P>Now, think about those things. That's the basis of Plan B. And sleep on it, and pray on it. This is a big, big decision, and you don't have to make it tonight, or today, depending on where you are. (I hate this time thing!)<P>I'll pray for you, too.<P>Hang in there.<P>Lori

Lori,<BR> I guess you're right. If she wants to come back a house won't stop her. I just know my W and this is what she always wanted (with me) For some reason it didn't bother me as much when they tried to buy the Mobile Home that fell through. She is also a BRAT and if you tell her she CAN'T do something she wants to even more. So that makes it double edged. She will want to see OM and she will want to talk to me. <P> I don't know. I'll pray. I think she would have a VERY hard time without me in her life AT ALL. It may make her think a little. I just hate this. I guess I'll wait till I see how she is the next time she calls. IF SHE CALLS. <BR> Tomorrow is her birthday. Should I leave a Happy Birthday Message? I am so bummed. I hate this!!<P>------------------<BR>desperate<BR>"If yesterday didn't stop today, Why should TODAY stop tomorrow??" <BR>"Wisdom is why!!"<P>

Well, it depends on Plan A or B.<P>Me - I sent an anniversary card on our anni and cards and presents for his b-day. Heck, I figured, why not!!<P>Don't you hate this stuff, Frank???<P>Hang in there.<P>Lori

Frank...<P><B>Lori</B> is just sooo right! <P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>The ONLY right reason for Plan B is for you. You can't Plan A anymore, you're losing love units.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>If you've seen some of my more "revealing" replies to other's posts... you've seen some chinks in my armor. I'll stand strong for you... I know you'll stand strong for me...<P>I'll repeat it one more time...<BR><B>The ONLY right reason for Plan B is for you. You can't Plan A anymore, you're losing love units.</B><P>The "house closing" isn't a "good" reason to start Plan B unless...<B>You can't Plan A anymore, you're losing love units.</B><P>"No contact" is a must if you do go to Plan B... as Lori said... <B>very... very... hard</B>... I agree... pray hard on it! My tentative plan is to go to Plan B in Jan/Feb... I'm starting to pray for my decision on Plan B starting <B>NOW</B>!<P>As far as the letter to OM... (starting in Plan B) yes...<BR>If you go with what you wrote... <B>it is not a love buster!</B><P>I'm praying for you Frank...<BR>Let God's will be done... ask Him...<P>Jim

lori,<BR> You are right. I guess I thought if I "B'd" her she would think twice about the house. She probably WILL do it anyway. thanks<P>NSR,<BR> Yes you make sense. But the thing I can't figure is IF i need to go into plan "B" in the future won't it seem stupid to ask her to "no contact" OM if they OWN A HOUSE THAT THEY LIVE IN TOGETHER???? I have been losing love, but mostly when I think of this DAM HOUSE and the fact that OM has NO IDEA she talks or sees me!! She pretends "NC" with me for that BAST***!! I am REALLY the OM now!! What a joke!!!<P>------------------<BR>desperate<BR>"If yesterday didn't stop today, Why should TODAY stop tomorrow??" <BR>"Wisdom is why!!"<P>