Dear Friends,

My husband had an affair over a year ago. It was devastating. He says he has terminated it, but I've never been sure. On top of that, anytime I mention it...simply because I need to talk about it, he screams at me and tells me "you won't let go of the past". Well, since then, I uncovered e-mails from women he was attempting to make dates with when we were engaged (we are newlyweds) and then an e-mail from a work colleague who told him that she "knew" he had to be with me...but that was still "okay" with her. (This was in March). He says he has no clue what this is about, and that he is not interested in her at all. (She is an old girlfriend.) He will not allow me to talk and get this off my chest---hence it is eating me up. It's not even about the cheating, it's about the LIES. The lies are eating me up...the betrayal is eating me up.

I've tried everything...going to therapy (by myself), counseling...to get over the lies. Nothing is working. He goes on business trips very often and I never know what he is doing. He is on one this week...the pain of the "not knowing" is unbearable.

I came to the "prayer section" because I tried to post on another Christian site for prayer---that my husband had cheated on me and that he had had also been abusive...someone posted a nasty posting to me that I had "no business speaking ill of my husband" and that I had to accept my lot in life and that I was being "disloyal" to him by discussing my pain so publicly. Basically, it was "be a good wife and look the other way." I felt so humiliated! I really needed prayer and instead, on top of the humiliation I have felt at his hands (there is abuse in the relationship, too) I was told to go sit in the corner and be quiet!

He refuses to go to counseling...my heart is breaking. I feel that the knot in my stomach that I have carried for 18 months is affecting my health. I am getting sick (literally) to my stomach. I do not live in the States, I moved to be with him abroad,and I live a very isolated life which does not help in making me feel supported.

I believe that prayer is the only thing that will work to turn this whole thing around---simply because he will not go get help. It will take a miracle to get him to see what is going on, to allow me to speak my peace---and for him to stop the guilt that is causing the abuse.

Please pray for me...I need to change my reaction to what is happening and/or just a miracle.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart,
Clair

{{{Clair}}}

I could have written your post.




Father,

I ask you to put your arms around Clair, wherever she is right now, that she would feel your loving presence.

I ask that you would step in to her life and do whatever it takes to bring her husband to the end of himself, to bring him to You.

I ask that you will give her total peace in trusting whatever you are about to do in the coming days. That nothing he says or does will dismay her.

Help her to respond with love to whatever he says, and to know when to speak, and when to be silent.

Lord Jesus, I know that nothing is too hard for you. No one is too hard for you to reach. I know that you love this man, and want him to be healed and delivered. You came to set captives free, and to make the blind see.

I pray for protection for Clair while you work in his life.
Guide her by your spirit, and let her hear you clearly.

Thankyou Lord, for what you are going to do.

Shul

Clair,

Say or do nothing out of fear.

Shul

Dear Shul...

Wow...tonight my husband called me (he is away on business) and told me to call him back, because he was in his hotel room again. (It was after ten). He was a little inebriated, I could tell. I called him no more than fifteen minutes after he asked me to call him...on his cell phone and there is no answer and there is no answer in his room either and it is almost midnite. My stomach is in a knot, and I feel really awful. The "rush" of all the lies came back and I felt the anguish of the not knowing again.

The "wow" is because I remembered to come back to the boards...and there was your prayer.

Thank you very, very much...it so helps to know that someone out there has been through this...and to have someone pray for me.

Clair.

Clair,

I will be praying.

This might be a long haul, but take it one day at a time. He might have to hit rock bottom before he will be ready to change.

Mine is almost there.

Pray for us too, ok?

Lord, I pray for Clair, give her your never-ending peace. Father, I ask for your covering of protection over her, fill her heart with Your love. Lord, please give her a calm, peaceful demeanor, let Your love wash over her, filling her heart with Your spirit. Lord, I ask in the name of Jesus that she is comforted, please send ministering angels to her. Lord, cast all fear from her. Father, in the name of our savior, Jesus Christ, I pray for an indwelling of the Holy Spirit for Clair. Lord, I ask that her husband be brought to his knees before You, truly repentant with a Godly sorrow that brings salvation. Lord I pray for a softening of his heart towards You and to Clair, the wife of his youth. Cause this man to see the pain he has caused his wife, and You. Thank You Lord for intervening in this marriage and brining about restoration. In Jesus' glorious name I pray, AMEN.