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#347653 12/15/04 08:01 PM
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Well my wife has decided not to file for a divorce. I know it sounds like good news, but she's determined to live like a single woman while still being married. I don't know if she's having an affair, but think she may be.

I think that she's trying to make it so hard on me that I will leave. She is a christian but not living like one.

Please pray that God will allow whatever it takes to get through to her. Pray that she will have no peace, rest, contentment or joy until she walks in obedience to God. Please pray for me as I am quite lonely right now and battle with depression. It seems like I can't take much more and the though of running away seems like the thing to do. I know that will only prolong the process God is taking me through. It would also rob me of the experience of God taking me through what is unquestionably the toughest time in my life.

Thank you to all of those who will read and pray!

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Father,

Let our spouses come to the end of themselves. Do whatever it takes to bring them to a point where they will see their need of you, and be reconciled to you.

You promised that the waters would not overflow us, and that the flames would not burn us. Keep us, like you did with Daniel.

This is a dark time for us, but nothing is too hard for you. You have a plan, just like you had a plan 2000 years ago when the whole world was in darkness. You sent a savior, the light of the world, to transform us. I pray that the light of your love will transform our spouses and make all things new.

Help us to live expectantly, trusting in you, while we wait for what seems like a miracle to us, but what to you is easy.

Help us to be light, to love them while they are not loving us back. Let us be instruments of your peace, drawing them to you, seeking them out and loving them into your arms, seeing them with your eyes, as lost sheep, broken and hurt, and stuck. Thank you that you are the good shepherd and you never stop searching for a lost sheep until you find it and bring it to safety.

Thank you for what you are doing in Titleists wifes heart. You know her, and you know exactly what to do to reach her. Thank you that she does not want a divorce, and that she is starting to realise the error of her ways.

Give Titleist love for her that is greater than any hurt she can dish out, more forgiveness than any sin she has sinned against him, and enough patience to see this through.

Give him faith in you greater than the lies that the enemy says.

Speak peace into his heart today. Remind him of your promises, and guide him moment by moment, to be in harmony with your plan. Tell him how to love his wife- what to say that will reach her, what to do that will bless her and soften her heart, and show her how much you love her, no matter what she has done.

Give him grace to love her while she is yet sinning , the same as Jesus gave up his life for us while we were his enemies.

Give him insight today, to know what she really wants and needs from him that will break through the defenses she has put up.

Help him to be strong enough to return love for hate today, and let it work.

Shul

I just wanted to add that my H has not been sleeping well for over a week. He has no peace, and he is being bombarded with the message of Gods love. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

They will give in very soon, I think.

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Shul,

Thank you...

I can't believe how God answers prayer. My wife today was riding with whom I believe to be her new OM. She looked into the mirror and saw her ex-OM behind them. They both worked with her at one time. The ex-OM got to work and began to send emails and make calls to her co-workers informing them that she's having an affair with the new OM. This is after I've prayed asking the Lord to expose what's going on and for me to be able to leave my hands off of the situation so she will know that it's God whose exposed the situation.

Now this just gets even better. This morning the Lord directed me to pray in her car and ask that his presence reside in her vehicle. That was just this morning and hours later, boom... It all started to happen. Where? Right in the car where I prayed. Nothing I've done, but it's the Lord moving.

She said she's going to file for a separation and I told her to send the papers to my attorney. She was shocked that I had one and was upset that I didn't tell her about it. She's now dealing with the fact that I will get alimony and she may lose everything. I let her know that I was open to restoration but she's made a choice not to reconcile. I told her that if she chooses separation that it has its natural consequences.

Please pray that I remain strong and do and say only what the Father desires. Please pray that this will place the necessary pressure on my wife to break her will and embrace the will of God for her life. I'm feeling great right now, but know the enemy will come to buffet me with worry and doubt.

Thanks again for your continued prayer.

Please know that I'm praying for you as well.

Your brother in Christ...

Titleist


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