My ex-H claims to be a Christian, and I really believe he is, I thing he has just fallen far away from God right now. My question, do you think a true Christian can destroy his family this way and ever really be happy?<P>AD

he probably doesnt know what i wants! i think that falling away from GOD is a crutch!<BR>he needs to pray and be prayed for! i think that there is alot of pain in his life now! he is turning away from GOD because he knows in his heart that GOD is light and the root of all happiness! since he isnt happy he is seeking to beaway from GOD but as we all know GOD is a GOD of love and his love will shine through the darkest night! i hope that your ex husband realizes that he has done alot to make you and your sons unhappy!

A-D,<BR>I have no answer for you as my stbx was a borne again Christian since she was in high school, and lived with Christians in college and was involved in a womens bible study fellowship, but has now given it all away. <P>She told me early in the affair that she tried Christianity, marriage and children but never found happiness like she did with om. Even though she said later she was always uncomfortable.<P>Now she is saying that God doesn't answer prayers because she had been praying for me for all these years(to change I guess) and the prayers hadn't been answered. She said she doesn't feel guilty about missing church now either. She had gone a couple times to another church and said the pastor was really speaking to her, maybe thats why she stopped.<P>She has even told her friend that om is a Christian as he gives to missonaries. She knows better than that. She also dropped a G.D. on her friend which again is totally out of characteristic for her.<P><BR>Will she ever be happy again? I doubt it unles she comes back to reality, but I am unsure how she could live with all the guilt.

I think the answer is a resounding YES!!!! God gave the decree of divorce because of man's hardness of heart. Living the Christian life is the same as recieving Christ into your life, by faith. There are alot of people who have recieved Christ but certainly are not walking by faith. Hardness of heart makes a Christian look no different from a non believer.<P>As far as happiness goes, well, the happiness of this world is temporary. Sure your ex can find happiness but it will be empty and selfish and of this world. Christians are suppose to live their lives with eternity's values in mind, not this worlds. <P>------------------<BR>eyes wide open<BR>

already divorced,<P>Happy where?...<BR> here on earth ( yes... no... any maybe )<BR> in heaven ( no way in h@!!)<BR> in h@!! ( yes... yes... yes.. )<P>Spiritual death is worse than physical death... I thank God I haven't <I>tried</I> either... but deep in my heart... my soul... my faith... there is <B>no</B> question!<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>The power of unmet emotional needs explains why people are willing to give up their spouses as well as their chilren, careers, and <B>beliefs</B> to have their emotional needs met. (page 31 of SAA)<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>... all for "happiness"???<P>Jim<BR>------------------<BR>I can dare myself... I'll put a pebble in my shoe...<BR>I can walk... I can walk! I shall call the pebble Dare...<BR>Dare shall be carried... And when we both have had enough<BR>I will take him from my shoe, singing... "Meet your new road!"...<BR>Finally glad... Finally glad... That you are here... By my side...

I am the betrayer and a Christian my whole life, my husband is a Pastor so I think I have some very good advice.I know how Christians can become very messed up-I had an affair with a strong Christian, probably wouldn't have had one with anyone else-strange isn't it? I do believe God will deal with your H somehow in time. God dealt with me but now my H wants nothing to do with me and says he wants divorce, a very tense situation at church. I keep praying that God also will reach him, he is preaching each Sun. but is not forgiving and accepting. I don't think God will let him continue on this way. Just keep praying for God to reach your husband.

AD,<BR>Not to sound judgemental but to state the truth as it is revealed in the Bible, if your H is a true Christian then the Holy Spirit will cause hime discomfort about anything that is outside of God's will.<P>God's will is that each man be married to only one woman and that they raise their children in the fear an admonition of God. They are to keep only to each other. <P>There are a lot of professed Christians. The Bible says that you shall know a tree by its fruit. If there is no Christian fruit , then there is no indication that he is what he says he is.<P>------------------<BR>God Bless,<BR>Rob<P><BR>