I'm not sure how to include everything that has happened without writing a small novel. In a nutshell my WH and I have been seperated a year and I am searching for God's will concerning my marriage.

My WH is not ready to file for divorce nor willing to give up the OW and return home. I feel like I am at the end of my rope. I can't imagine that God wants me to continue living in this painful state but I don't want to file for divorce. I could accept it if he would but I don't see that happening. Right now my WH wants to keep me on the back burner in case his relationship with OW doesn't work out. Of course he doesn't feel that is what he is doing.

I trust the God of hope will bring me joy and peace. I'm just wondering if he is pushing me to act by causing me to be so uncomfortable with this situation. I need some counsel from those facing the same circumstances.
If you need more info ask away. I have 3 small children so I don't get on here to often but I will check back. Thanks

<small>[ March 08, 2005, 11:43 PM: Message edited by: limbojenn ]</small>

limbojenn,

Praying for you. Don't have time to respond right now and saw you were lurking about. Wnated to let you know you weren't forgotten or ignored.

Blessing to you.

S&C

Thank you for your prayers S&C. I know this board is slower than others but I am interested in suggestions from those who are also seeking the will of God.

Standing Together in another thread said that it is God's will that familys stay together. I want to believe that but I'm not sure it is that cut and dry. Show me scriptures that prove that. I know God hates divorce but there are plenty of other things he doesn't like as well. What about my WH free will? How does that enter in.

I have went to plan B as of today so I could use some extra prayers.

Limbojenn,,

Interesting name, since my wife's name is Jen.. anyway.. my prayers go out to you.. Hold onto your faith..

I have been struggling with the same issues.. My wife has left (moved out on 1 March) and started out wanting to work on things, but now is a very cold, distant, unfeeling woman that finds negative in everything I do.. She now wants a divorce badly.. She says she just wants the divorce over with so she can move on with her life and do whatever she wants.

I've done, and continue to do everything possible to show I have changed and am growing in a positive direction.. Yet, she simply doesn't care...

I've been praying to God numerous times each and every day, along with my pastor, my Chaplain, and some friends and family.. I've been praying for God to touch Jen's heart and for our family to get back together (we have a 2 1/2 yr old son, and a 6 yr old daughter). It is now in his hands... I certainly hope it would please him for us to reconcile, and at this point, it is going to take a miracle... What else can I do??

Limbojenn,

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Standing Together in another thread said that it is God's will that familys stay together. I want to believe that but I'm not sure it is that cut and dry. Show me scriptures that prove that. I know God hates divorce but there are plenty of other things he doesn't like as well.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Just the fact that you know God hates divorce should tell you enough about what God wants. But if you need more I’ll look them up. Unfortunately what God wants from us and what we give Him many times are not the same.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> What about my WH free will? How does that enter in.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">This is the key to the whole thing. Yes God is powerful and could force your H to return to the M. But He has always given man the ability to use free will and will not override those choices.

Yes it is God’s will that marriages recover and families are together. And yes there are other things He hates as well; like people rejecting His son’s sacrifice. But He still allows them free will.

But I believe that we are to do everything in our power and in God’s power to make the R better (Plan A) and if the WS still doesn’t come around, then let them loose (separation, into the hands of the tormentor, Plan B) and let God deal with them. If that still doesn’t bring them around then I truly believe with the work the BS’s do to improve themselves that God will give them peace when it is time for them to get a D. This I believe requires an intimate relationship with God, trusting Him to come through. If you start blaming God for what has happened, you can never have that intimate relationship with the Father.

May God give you wisdom, peace and blessings.


J.D.S.,

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">She says she just wants the divorce over with so she can move on with her life and do whatever she wants. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Do you know what that is?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I've done, and continue to do everything possible to show I have changed and am growing in a positive direction.. Yet, she simply doesn't care... I've been praying to God numerous times each and every day, along with my pastor, my Chaplain, and some friends and family.. I've been praying for God to touch Jen's heart and for our family to get back together (we have a 2 1/2 yr old son, and a 6 yr old daughter). </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Are you intimate with God and of you say “yes”, how do you know? What are you doing to make that relationship strong?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I certainly hope it would please him for us to reconcile, and at this point, it is going to take a miracle...</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">It would please Him.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">What else can I do??</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Just “It is now in his hands...” and be ready to be a safe place for your W if she chooses to return.

Blessings to you.

Love in Christ.

S&C