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Hello one and all,
My wife and I are in a bind with our relationship. We have been for about a year. Together but distant. She cheated on me a few months ago. We decided to work on the marriage. I have not forgiven her yet, I am wrapped in anger. For us to work I need to let the anger go and she to has lots of anger when we talk as I've not been the nicest guy before or after the infidelity.
I ask that you pray for us. We can use all the help we can get. I want it to work. So does she. Any tips as well?
Thank you,
Hurthusban05
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Hi Hurthusband,
You are right; until you forgive you can't move forward.
Forgiveness is a choice. It doesn't matter how angry you are, or if you feel forgiving.
But usually when you decide to forgive, the anger goes away, the hurt heals.
(Your anger might be hurt in disguise.)
We forgive because God has forgiven us. Remember the parable of the debtor? Same deal here.
Its not saying what she did was ok or justified in any way. (But from what I have read here, most of the WS's felt they had their reasons.)
Unless you are a perfect husband, chances are there needs to be forgiveness on both sides, yes?
You know what to do. Be merciful as you have been shown mercy...
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