I haven't been posting much about myself. I know I only saw ex a couple of months ago, but I have been divorced 2 years and frankly I am tired of being alone and I want to be with someone who truly loves me. ex-H did not pursue me any after our meeting, I wrote a couple of times and he wrote back but that was it. I decided to close the chapter again. I started a few weeks ago, seeing someone I have known for about 15 years off and on. He was friends with my brother more than me- my brother was even in his wedding. He was divorced about 3 years ago and we recently started going to church together. This person really likes me. I am still nervous/unsure but I do care about him. Well tonight I told my brother because I didn't know how he would react, that we were dating. This led to a huge discussion. Well out of the blue my brother says 'well after what scumbag (my ex-h) did to you I will always be more protective of you." well my brother and ex were like best friends and the whole thing just broke my brother's heart too which is why he calls him that. So I told my brother he had to let that anger go- and risk a friendship with someone else I ended up with- and my brother said he wasn't sure he could do that- then he just point blank asked me if I heard anything or knew anything about ex. I told him yes and I told him about our meeting. And then my brother did like a 180 on me- he said that he understood me seeing him and that he sometimes is still curious about him and how he is and what he is doing- and then he said that he wishes he could see him and beat the s**t out of him for everything he did, and then help him up and start over. I was shocked to say the least. He said he bet I felt that way too and I said actually yes sometimes- he said just to get the anger out and have a fresh start. I know it isn't a healthy way to reconcile- haha- but just the fact that my brother even said that got my wheels turning. And I told him that I tried to tell ex he didn't have to live this crappy like daily- that he could choose to change- and my brother said well maybe he just doesn't know how to start to do that. So that again got me wondering and thinking- and then I started wondering if I should get in touch with ex again and just say hey, this is how you start over. But is that something that is my job to do?! I am confused again.
And is this fair that I am even thinking this while seeing someone else?!?!?

Adgirl...not sure if this will be of any help or not....In yesterday's sermon the pastor told us that we often try to clean up someone before we bring them to church. That WE feel like it's our place to clean them up, get their lives straight, etc and then they are worthy to enter the Lord's house. The pastor told us that everyone in the bible who went to Jesus out of need were sinners (aren't we all) on their last leg. People like the prostitute, the thief on the cross, the woman with the blood disease, etc.

If you believe the Lord is leading you to do something how about a call to just simply invite him to church or share with him the love of Jesus.

Our mission is just to share and then let Jesus do the rest.

God's arm is not too short or too long to reach anyone in their pit.

Love ya!!!!

Angelia