This is what I do NOW to meet her very stong need for affection:<BR>-Every single morning I leave her a love note and end it with I love you.<BR>-I send her egreetings, very syrupy ones, no less than twice a month.<BR>-Flowers at least twice a month.<BR>-Have her favorite pastries for her on the weekends.<BR>-Hold her hand all the time<BR>-Give her hugs when I come home<BR>-End every phoncon with her w/an I love you.<BR>-Just lay with her and hold her while she watches TV.<BR>-Stroke and caress her cheek and her fingertips <BR>-Gently stop and touch her hair as I walk by her.<BR>-Reach out and caress her hand in a very personal knowing way when we are out somewhere.<P>I hope it's enough.<P><BR>

Wow! It would be MORE than enough for me! Your W is very lucky...

Dear Folks<BR>I would be happy to try any of these things! But my problems is different. My W has been withdrawing for a long time so leaving valentines around, bringing flowers, handholding, etc don't seem to help--they just add pressure for her. This difficulty seems to have settled in since "our" marriage counselor defined me as "assaultive" to her in a private session. He did not acknowledge this to me. Obviously, I can no longer benefit in any way from such a counselor. Besides, she was the one who got physical, breaking things, and striking me (I was never hurt physically, though). We are separated by her enrollment in medical school. Things are better due to 1) my stopping ALL psychological counseling--I still see a minister and 2) doing everyDAMNthing exactly her way. <BR>Thank God for Dr. Harley, et al. All other aspects of psychological counseling have been very negative for me, in just the way that Harley outlined. <BR>I am open to any affection suggestions, especially with Valentine's Day coming.<BR>The question is: how can I be positive when the things I want to do for her are seen as over-reaching or pushing?<BR>Thanks for a reply.<BR>Roger

i read a past post about writing on the mirror, well i got a dry erase marker, which wipes right off, and make it a point to leave a message everynight before i go to bed (hubby goes to sleep before i do) so when he gets up for work the next morning he cant help but see it, he also will leave on for me so when i get up later, i have a note to! I also leave notes in his wallet on post its stuck to his "pass card" that he uses to clock in at work. Just my 2 cents!<P>------------------<BR>FFwife

For my husband's birthday I emailed 106.7 Lite FM radio station and requested that our wedding song "Wonderful Tonight" by Eric Clapton be played (expecting this would never happen)! with a message from me saying how MUCH I love him and wanted to spend the rest of my life with him.<P>The station called back to tell me exactly when they were going to play it. I made sure the radio was on and we were together on the couch when it was announced, he loved it, thought I was nutty for doing it, but loves when I do nutty things.<P>Of course we just laid there and he held me tight!