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Parenting courses, websites and books and tapes have been helpful for me in my role as a parent, a father, and a coach for my wife. I will try to list out some of the references here. ODD, Oppositional Defiant Disorder WHAT PARENTS NEED TO KNOW ABOUT ODD, by Dr. James D. Sutton, Ed.D. docspeak.com 1. Boundaries 2. MB Emotional Needs 3. Marital Bedroom Marriage Hel Books, Sites 180 4. Divorce Busting 5. Plan A and B 6. Abuse in Marriage 7. Parenting Courses ALREADY PITCHED: Avoid re-pitching to avoid rancor and arguments. Durhan 76, 340000, Plan B Backfires. Handling intense complaining on family outings. this is tdoyu4urg5hn. BOUNDARIES IN MARRIAGE (1999), by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend, Available in Leather, ISBN 0-310-24612-1, Hard back: ISBN 0-310-22151-X, and Paper Back: ISBN 0-310-24314-9 (Soft Cover) Zondervan, Grand Rapids, Michigan 49530. Boundaries in Marriage Workbook, Paperback, ISBN 0-310-22875-1. Boundaries, Face to Face (2003) by Henry Cloud and John Townsend cloudtownsend.com www.drhenrycloud.comwww.newlife.comBoundaries Course Video, with Cloud and Townsend, comes with the Boundaries in Marriage, the Particpant's Guide and the Instructor's Guide. http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.gsp?product_id=1813624&sourceid=1500000000000000040820 Boundaries Groups: overcomersoutreach.org Overcomer's Outreach Boundaries Groups celebraterecovery.com Celebrate Recovery Boundarie Groups Lecture Reservations: newlife.com 1-800-new life 703-729-3900, Chris Cole on Groups MB Emotional Needs: Affection Sexual Fulfillment Conversation Recreational Companionship Honesty and Openness Physical Attractiveness Financial Support Domestic Support Family Commitment Admiration Personality and Compatability Test Compatibiliby Test: Couple Compatability Test Drucilla Thread Drucilla Thread on Eanneagram Copmpatiablity test MB Thread with Personality Test References: MB Thread with Personality Test Refernces MARITAL BEDROOM: "101 Nights of Great Sex: Secret Sealed Seductions for Fun-Loving Couples" Board Game: Enchanted Evening Various Opinions on Erotic Videos Men Sometimes Don't Disclose Needs Christian Views on the Marital bedroom MARRIAGE HELP BOOKS - SITES 'How to stubbornly refuse to make yourself miserable about anything, yes anything' by Albert Ellis, he talks about people who 'awfulize' things. Books on doing divorce with minimal negative impact on the family: Divorce Casualties; Preventing Parental Alienation by Douglas Darnell. Mom's House, Dad's House, by Isolina Ricci. Catholics Views on Marriage: Catholic Views on Marriage Website: divorcebusting.com, MICHELE WEINER DAVIS, 1-800-664-2435 Michelle Weiner Davis, 1-800-664-2435, 180's MB Forum 180 Degree Divorce Busters List MB Thread on 180 Degree Divorce Busters Stop Divorce Website Stop Divorce website Search Words, 30-60 Days, Boundaries, Blames, Denial Avatars Gincoos Avatars MB Photos: MB Photos MB Rosecrucian Lucks 557 Laura MB Posters working on Boundaries MB Posters Pitched for Mornings & Satiation Daisy37 10590 M01069 Listening and Morning, and What should I change now" and 180 Degrees and Boundaries. She has attmpted Suicide, 3 years ago, Military H refuses sex, talks divorce, goes to meetings after cleaning out truck. M resolved not to cry and beg. M has gone out whil H babysists. M01069 Thread on Husband Refuses MB POSTERS WAT, Worth a Try, Husband, 2 children, separated before birth of chidren, got back together with wife afer childbirth, was present, had goood impact on marriage Starfish, married Woman wtih several children Orchid's Personal Story at end of P. 1 MB THREADS Divorce after Plan B: cnf, Her Daughter's Father marries OW after Plan B RECONCILLIATION AFTER PLAN B One Reconciliation, several Lost Loves with Plan B Separate after Marriage Counseling: Pamea 03 thread References of resourses for Abuse in Marriage jade72 26189 URL=http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=8;t=016561]MB Emotional Needs Thread, References on Verbal Abuse by Jade 72, 26189[/URL] There have been posts under Resolving Conflict on verbal abuse also. Dr. Irene Forum on Verbal Abuse, and Tuttle's Catbox ayern 28648 Other Topics, Varieties of Opinions on the Marital Bedroom PARENTING COURSES: Instructors for awareparenting .com Phone: 805-968-1868, California, or E Mail info@awareparenting.com for Parent Effectiveness Training instructors in your area, Phone, 800-628-1197, or 858-481-8121, or E-Mail to info@gordontraining.com. Gordon Training, Parent Effectiveness Training SOFTWARE: Some good computer spyware is Starr home version at www.iopus.com and t <small>[ November 17, 2004, 10:54 PM: Message edited by: Whaler ]</small>
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MARITAL BEDROOM Biblical citations on marital cooperatin on satisfying sex drivesFantasy Forum, sometimes not up. Fantasy Forum for Wild Interactions Further wild web pageWild Ideas More Wild more wild ideas euro-tgp.com MASSAGE: Rollers for self muscle stretching and easy massage of muscles of the other person. Muscle Toning and Stretching Aids, and 2 Inch Massage Wheel Arrousing Massage Instruction Video Tape Esalen Massage Instruction Video DIVORCE BUSTER'S INFO: Website: divorcebusting.com MB Thread on 180 Degree Divorce Busters 180 Degree Divorce Busting, by Michelle Weiner-Davis, divorcebusting.com Internet Search Words: Divorce Busters Michelle Weiner-Davis's divorce busting 180 degree list, here it is: Article by Michelle Weiner-Davis on Divorce for Longevity.com, Divorce Section lovegevity.com, 180 Degree Divorce Busing Articles by Michelle Weiner Davis Stop Divorce Website Stop Divorce website 911 for Marriages, Articles Books, Forgiveness, Recovery Articles and Books on Surviving an affair Islamic Books I ran across a Muslim book on Self Building, Islamic Self Development book, khatoons. comKhatoons, Inc, 800-667-7884 Self Building, $18.00 KB1011 TOW site, gloryb.com Discusses infidelity in a postive manner, and belittles MB <small>[ August 29, 2004, 01:57 AM: Message edited by: Whaler ]</small>
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HANDLING AND CHANGING OVERLY CONTROLLING ACTS Love Must Be Tough, by Dr. James C. Dobson, Tyndale House, 1996 Manipulation and Control Issues Website MB Thread on The Love Diet The Love Diet Chapter of WHAT WOMEN WANT MEN TO KNOW by Barbara DeAngelis Poor Couple Communication caused by Controlling Acts REVERSE FOG TALK Non-Escalating Responses to Fog Talk, Thread By Orchid JEALOUSY How to Easily Catch a Cheating Lover, catchacheat.comOvercoming Excessively Jealous Comments and Outbursts, nomorejealousy.com Handling Jealousy in Love Relations, romanceclass.com TYPES OF LIES: One step in looking behind a person's words, is to understand the direction of their falsehoods. What types of lies is W telling you? There are fanciful confabulations interwoven with a few facts. There are lies to get out of trouble. There are lies to cover a secret. There are lies to be considerate to someone. There are lies that are simply the opposite of the truth. There are lies intended to hurt or punish someone. Ther are lies intended to lead you away from the truth. p <small>[ October 02, 2004, 03:44 AM: Message edited by: Whaler ]</small>
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Referance for Viagra and Anatomy diagram link Link to Viagra and Anatomy DiragramsAnother Link to Female Anatomy Diagram: Link to Diagram of Female AnatomyFamily Planning Planned Parenthood5 Love Languages, by Gary Smalley 1. Words of Affirmation-Sincere compliments and encouraging words-this person always has something nice to say and they often expect kind words in return. One hallmark of this language is the way people ask for what they want, i.e. "Love makes requests, not demands" Requires humility, Demands are put-downs implying "I am important and you are not. Do this for me, your desires don't matter." A humble request looks like this-giving choices-"You probably have more important things to do, but would you consider doing this? I would be grateful". 2. Quality Time-People show their love by simply being there, by spending time with their mates. "It is a matter of being completely there, being a companion, not just taking up space. It does not mean that we have to spend our moments together gazing into each other's eyes. It means we are doing something together and we are giving our full attention to the other person." (This fits Harley's recreational companionship category) Chapman breaks this down into two components: One is simple togetherness, the other is quality conversation. Quality conversation requires involvement, eye contact, full attention (active listening), listening THROUGH the words for the feelings being expressed, understanding the body language, not much interruption, a soul-to-soul connection not just mind to mind. 3. Gifts-Some communicate their love in the language of gift-giving and they look to receive it from others in the same way. gifts are visual symbols of love, not a matter of money, tokens of our feelings for the other...an investment of a certain amount of emotion, wisdom, time, expense, and effort in the process of imagining, creating, choosing, buying, wrapping, or transporting a gift to you, all because of love. These gifts are often displayed, similar to trophies all around them, not because they are greedy and put emphasis in "things" but because of the way they prize the love behind the token of love. It is physical evidence of love involved. 4. Acts of Service-Sees love in doing things for others and expects this same kind of action from others. In some ways I see this as similar to the gift giving in that some of the acts of service may be help around the house, remodeling, etc...visual things that show one's love. It is more than cooking a special dinner, it may include baking a favorite cake as an extra to show love. It is helping to pack his or her suitcase for a trip and maybe putting in love notes, or a baked goodie, bubble bath or whatever else, you know he/she would like. Lehman, once a year, deposits his wife in a motel with flowers, books, room service, etc. and leaves her for a weekend to give her space while he deals with the kids. Now that is above and beyond the call of duty, but you can see how loved she must feel. 5. Physical Touch-Goes beyond sex, but seems to display itself in guys via sex, but it is more than sex. It is about big and little kisses, hand-holding, backrubs, arm around the shoulder, playing footsie, sharing an armrest ot the movies, lightly stroking a hand...etc. Words for Feelings: From Takola Feeling Words ~ In order of intensity of feeling from a little to a lot Mad: Bothered Ruffled Irritated Displeased Annoyed Steamed Irked Perturbed Frustrated Angry Fed up Disgusted Indignant Ticked off Bristling Fuming Explosive Enraged Irate Incensed Burned up Outraged Furious Blind rage Sad: Down Blue Somber Low Glum Lonely Disappointed Worn out Melancholy Down hearted Unhappy Dissatisfied Gloomy Mournful Grieved Depressed Lousy Crushed Defeated Dejected Empty Wretched Despairing Devastated Glad: At ease Secure Comfortable Relaxed Contented Optimistic Satisfied Refreshed Stimulated Pleased Warm Snug Happy Encouraged Tickled Proud Cheerful Thrilled Delighted Joyful Elated Exhilarated Overjoyed Ecstatic Afraid: Uneasy Apprehensive Careful Cautious Hesitant Tense Anxious Nervous Edgy Distressed Scared Frightenend Repulsed Agitiated Afraid Shocked Alarmed Overwhelmed Frantic Panic stricken Horrified Petrified Terrified Numb Confused: Curious Uncertain Ambivalent Doubtful Unsettled Hesitant Perplexed Puzzled Muddled Distracted Flustered Jumbled Unfocused Fragmented Dismayed Insecure Dazed Bewildered Lost Stunned Chaotic Torn Baffled Dumbfounded Ashamed: Uncomfortable Awkward Clumsy Self-conscious Disconcerted Chagrinned Abashed Embarrassed Flustered Sorry Apologetic Ashamed Regretful Remorseful Guilty Disgusted Belittled Humiliated Violated Dirty Mortified Defiled Devastated Degraded <small>[ September 26, 2004, 05:55 PM: Message edited by: Whaler ]</small>
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ON LINE MARRIAGE COUNSELING Tupy at saveyourmarriagecentral.com Tupy at saveyourmarriagecentral.com MASSAGE AIDS I saw this guy giving a demonstration with a seated massage chair. He had a 110 Volt, plug in, two handed vibrator, maybe 12 Inches by 12 Inches by 8 Inches High. It had about a 9 inch by 10 inch pad, for vibrating the back and leg muscles. He let me write down the info off the vibrator. Maximum Massager, Made in China Machine Brokers 2 New Road, #134 Aston, PA 19014 610-459-4543, has Voice Mail, 24 Hr. I don't believe there is an internet address or Web Page. List is $376.00 and is sometimes discounted to around $250.00 with $15.00 shipping. Gave a nice deep muscle massage. The lady I saw getting the massage with the Maximum Massage, did not want to let the next person in line take a turn. Marital Oral techniques Reference for an adult toy, for men, Patented Adult Vibrator Pumps also available. Errotic Stories For single men, jackinworld. com, ideas and products for SinglesMen's Underwear, including fur lined: Men's Underwear, Fur Lined Elephant with a trunk Biblical Contradictions and Logical Flaws Divorce Care Group Locations and Phone Numbers <small>[ March 17, 2005, 10:49 PM: Message edited by: Whaler ]</small>
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PARENTING COURSES Nurturing Parenting by Stephen J. Bavolk, Ph. D. Nurturing Parenting Courses and Materials 1-800-688-5822 Parenting Books, Courses and Videos AP, Active Parenting by Michael H. Popkin. Ph. D. Active Parenting Web Site Tough Love Parents Manual by Phyllis and David Yourk Instructors for awareparenting .com Phone: 805-968-1868, California, or E Mail info@awareparenting.com for Parent Effectiveness Training instructors in your area, Phone, 800-628-1197, or 858-481-8121, or E-Mail to info@gordontraining.com. Gordon Training, Parent Effectiveness Training This is a Link to parenting instructors: Instructors trained in awareparenting.com805-968-1868, California, E Mail, info@awareparenting.com Boundaries With Kids, Raising Great Kids by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend, Zondervan, Grand Rapids, Michigan 49530. Boundaries, Face to Face (2003) by Henry Cloud and John Townsend cloudtownsend.com www.drhenrycloud.comwww.newlife.comODD, Oppositional Defiant Disorder WHAT PARENTS NEED TO KNOW ABOUT ODD, by Dr. James D. Sutton, Ed.D. docspeak.com, docspeak.com, James Sutton, Parenting and Oppositional Defiant Disorder Internet Search for "Step Parenting" stepparenting.com StepParenting.com step-parenting.com Step-Parenting.com CURRENT PROJECTS: Searching Admiration under Emotional needs <small>[ November 18, 2004, 11:07 AM: Message edited by: Whaler ]</small>
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1. Listening Questions 2. The Love Diet 3. Nifty sayings LISTENING QUESTIONS: Today, my wife was starting to talk about the budget, and my weekly earnings. I asked her to change the subject, because we had had an unpleasant conversation about that subject the night before. My wife fell silent. Thinking now, I realize that I missed an opportunity to listen to my wife's ideas. I could have asked her, "Let me understand what you are suggesting..." or, "Can you summarize a more positive approach relating to last night's conversation?" or "Can you suggest how we can do bettter?" or "How would you divide up what we agree uopn, and what is left that needs further discussion?" Any time coming up that you would have time to do something with me? The Love Diet MB Thread 1001 Ways to Be Romantic Gregory J. Godek, Foreword by Mark Victor Hansen Format: Paperback - REVISED Pub. Date: September 1999 People who bought this book also bought: • The Romantic's Guide: Hundreds of Creative Tips for a Lifetime of Love Michael S. Webb • 10,000 Ways to Say I Love You Gregory J. P. Godek, Gregory J. Godek (Introduction) • The Fun Book of Couples: 102 Ways to Celebrate Love Melina Gerosa Bellows • The Good Orgasm Guide Kate Taylor • Superflirt Tracey Cox, Janeanne Gilchrist (Photographer) Product Details: ISBN: 1570714819 Format: Paperback, 368pp Pub. Date: September 1999 Publisher: Sourcebooks, Incorporated Edition Description: REVISED Edition Number: 3 Barnes & Noble Sales Atrology references: UP Astrology References http://dancingmoononline.com/store/locations.php?osCsid=3c2be24e152e222231dfdeadc9bf07ca Bob from North Carolina Keller College, Washington State http://www.kepler.edu/index.html Data Source http://sourceforge.net/ Skycalendar http://freshmeat.net/projects/skylendar/ Astro.com http://www.astro.com/ Thread on Programs http://mysticwicks.com/showthread.php?t=536&highlight=Programs http://astrologynewage.com/ Program info: http://www.astrolog.org/astrolog/astlink.htm http://uk.geocities.com/astrolog32/ Data Source http://sourceforge.net/ Skycalendar http://freshmeat.net/projects/skylendar/ 3, NIFTY SAYINGS A man's greatness is not determined by what he does.. it is determined by what it takes to discourage him..." "You should never let the sun set on tomorrow before the sun rises today." p <small>[ February 17, 2005, 07:57 PM: Message edited by: Whaler ]</small>
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