I am interested in figuring out the right answer to a game. The game is called, "the name in your pocket" The idea is that we are all in the world and we meet many people - do we go after the name we put in our pocket, or do we react, settle when someone else has our name in their pocket. There are many reasons why saying yes to someone makes sense. But isn't it worth it to go for the situation where both parties have each others names in thei pockets? I look back on my relationship with my wife and I think that I did not have her name in my pocket. Ughh.