Hello everyone,I need prayers so bad!<BR>My heart has been broken. In July my husband asked for a divorce. We are still in the same house,although he left me alone for the holidays-Thanksgiving with friends out of state, and Christmas he went to visit his family out of state, and is now on his own on his motorcycle for the New Year away from everyone, just the way he wants it. He will be back after the 1st and we will then decide exactly what we will do until our house sells.(We are in the process of finishing up building "our" dream home only to sell it!)Double heartbreak.<BR>I know my husband, and he means it when he says he wants out of the marriage. We have been together for 13 years, 10 of them married, no children. (Infertility battle/ two miscarriages.)In this state you have to be separated for a year before divorce, unless you both lie and say you've been separated for a year already.I won't lie!Even though I told my husband three weeks ago that I might,and that was only to make him think that I was really "letting him go"-that I knew he was serious. He thinks I am in denial and that I don't believe him. I thought that that would assure him that I believed him.I also told him that I should probably get my own place, but that was just lip service again- I'm not going to move out. He might get his own place.Like I said, we will talk when he returns. <BR>Please pray that in God's perfect timing, we will be restored to a Godly marriage relationship.Both my husband and I have to grow.God has allowed this all to happen for a reason!<BR>I've been faithful, but my husband admitted(in July) that 2 and1/2 years ago he had a one time quick fling.He needed to relieve his guilt and finally tell me.(He is in therapy- unfortunately with a New Age therapist,not a Christian) How he held it in all that time is beyond me, but our marriage certainly suffered greatly because of his dishonesty. I used to have bad dreams that he had a fling-weird, huh?I would ask him if he's been unfaithful and he would say no.<BR>(There apparently isn't anyone he is romantically involved with at this time.) <BR>I went out today and bought the book(The Power of a Praying Wife) but does it pertain to my situation?(Meaning having a husband who is not interested in working on the marriage?)<BR>I don't believe in divorce and am struggling to do the right thing- to get out of the way and LET GOD!!!<BR>Thank you for reading this, and especially,<BR>THANK YOU IN ADVANCE FOR YOUR PRAYERS!!! GOD BLESS ALL OUR MARRIAGES!!!Thank you JESUS!<BR>

dear joynicole,<BR>welcome to the gang,<BR>we are sorry for the reason you are here, but you will find that there is love and wisdom here for you. we hold each other up in prayer when we are down, and the book can help you see how God wants you to grow. <P>It is a great book for women with unbelieving husbands who don't have a clue or inclination about what God wants for them. <P>BTW it sounds like your h. is having a MLC, have you read the stuff at midlife.com? Try starting with "When a Mate Wants Out" by Jim Conway. If he really leaves, it still applies. It is all compatible with the MB stuff. Also, I reocmmend "Holding On to Heaven While Your Husband Goes Through Hell" by Connie Neal.<P>Hang in there kid, it gets better, worse, harder, easier, lots like a roller coaster.<P>You will be refined in the process.<P>call me Pearl, (and we know what makes a Pearl...right?)<P>Liz\POGP<P>------------------<BR><BR>"I have found the Pearl of Great Price"<BR>

Pearl,<BR>Thank you for your prompt reply, support, and Godly wisdom.<BR>Yes, you are exactly right that h is going through a MLC. I will check out that site. <BR>I feel more peace knowing all of you are there praying. I have candles lit here for all of us,for God to heal our marriages and that He will give us the desires of our hearts.<BR>Happy New Year,with gratitude IJN

Welcome to the prayer group! Pearl is right, you'll find lots of encouraging words and support here. Keep praying for your husband, its worth it. I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. Please know that there are many who will be praying for you, one of which is me. <P>The book has been a lifesaver for me. I really didn't know how to pray effectively and it has opened my eyes to many things I've been doing wrong in my marriage. I think the most relevant chapter to me was the first one, "His Wife". It made me realize that I needed to ask the Lord to fix me before I could ever expect Him to work in my husband's life. I still have a lot of "fixing" to do though! <P>My husband and I separated and filed for divorce in Aug. 99, we didn't speak for 1 1/2 mos., but during that time I prayed for him, mostly for the benefit of my son. One night after he brought our son home from his visit with him, he asked to talk to me. Said he wanted to work things out, start our marriage over, etc. During our separation I wasn't praying for our marriage to be restored, but for the Lord to take care of my H and work in his life. He did, and still is I believe. We have been back together for almost 3 mos. now. The Lord will hear your prayers and will work in your lives.

Dear AW,<BR>Thank you so much for sharing.<BR>As soon as I finish writing this, I will go and read "His Wife". <BR>It's a real tough pill to swallow reading in 1Corinthians13:4 what Love is, and being truly convicted as to what an ungodly wife/person I have been.<P>What an ultimate blessing that you have a son together! My husband and I were to adopt a baby boy when he was born in May of 99, but H changed his mind.That was the catalystwhich brough everything to a haed in July.<BR>I've prayed daily for God to place believers in my husband's path to reaffirm his beliefs in our Savior. My husband does know Jesus, but is being influenced by some New Agers that have come into his life because of his business.<BR>I need to pray more incessantly for this!<P>My heart is joyful that you are back together!<BR>Also, your story gives hope to all.<BR> <BR>The evil one tries to take away our hope, filling us with doubt and discouragement, but here's the good news- GOD HAS A PLAN FOR OUR LIFE!All we have to do is: GIVE OUR LIFE TO HIM!!!(Forgive me for shouting)<P>Love and Prayers in Christ,<BR>Joynicole (a grateful woman)

Thank you for your kind words. I'm so sorry about your husband changing his mind about adoption. Children are wonderful, I don't know how I would make it without mine. <P>The statement you made <P>"The evil one tries to take away our hope, filling us with doubt and discouragement, but here's the good news- GOD HAS A PLAN FOR OUR LIFE!All we have to do is: GIVE OUR LIFE TO HIM!!!" <BR>is so true! Today I was tested. The evil one definitely tried to take away my hope and discourage me by influencing my H to be mean, argumentative, and hateful tonight. I didn't pass my test very well I'm afraid. So I think I had better say extra prayers tonight and get the Holy Spirit working on me again. Pearl is right, it is definitely a rollercoaster ride! Bless you, joynicole. I'll be praying for your marriage and you tonight too.

Joynicole,<P>Is this the post you were looking for? I hope so......we'll bring it Up so all of us can refresh our minds and pray for you again.<P>Keep posting when you can, and keep us updated. <P>Blessings, Taj<P>------------------<BR>"Perfect love casts out fear" I John 4:18

Yes Taj,that's my post!!!Thank you!!!<BR>Thank you for your prayers and for"Perfect love casts out fear"-I need that verse especially today.<BR>Love and Prayers IJN,<BR>Jn

Joynicole, how are you doing? I've been thinking about you. God bless,