I'v been posting in other topics since july about mine and my H's problums, and I have prayed every night on this so I was hopeing that you could add me in your prayers too, I have made alot of changes for the better since our Separation and he says he seen them when he came to visit in November and he said he had a lot of fun while here, he admits that he still loves me and being tougher is what he wants but he is not sure if he wants to put forth the effort to make things finish working out. I know he is very confused about his feelings and he is a very stubborn man the kind that if he says he is going to do some thing he dose it no matter if he changes his mind or not. I have plead my case time and again and he says I made a lot of changes and valid points he had not thought of, and that I cant do any more than that, it is just up to him now, but I cant help but to feel power less I want to be able to help him so bad so all I can do is pray that God will show me how to help my husband.<P>Any advice or prayers will be appreciated <P>Thank you<BR><P>------------------<BR>maybe someday

Dear LMS,<BR>Thanks for posting here.<BR>I can relate to your pleading your case to your husband.......Before you "plead" anymore,I recommend you read James Dobson's "Love Must Be Tough", as soon as possible.Congratulations on your making changes in yourself that are obvious to your husband. Keep up the God work!!! <BR>Love in Christ,<BR>Joynicole

ditto to what joynicole said...<P>I tried the pleading bit and made myself look very needy and desperate..<P>you will probably find LMBT in the library, it is a classic by Dobson. if you can't find it in your library system, buy it.<P>welcome to the forum,<P>sorry for why you are here, but there is love and support here...do be patient, this isn't as active a forum as the Infidelity site, 'cause we are all busy wives/mothers/workers...<P>lizzipearl<P>------------------<BR><BR>"I have found the Pearl of Great Price"<BR>

thanks to you both, I try not to pressure him on this I know he needs time to think all of this out but, see he is in the air force and his best friend is single, and even though I aswell love him as a brother I think he likes having my husband to him self and is distracting him all the time by "let's go here and let's do this" he says he dose have time too think but I dont see how when he is going wilh him on his days off and working 12 hour days, My H says I am just paranoid and that the friend would never do that, but I think he likes having my H all to him self, the other day I was talking to the friend via ICQ and he said my H dosent miss me and is as happy as he has ever seen him, I told my H and he said I must of misunderstood what was ment, and that I know he misses me because he tells me so. I know in the end that God will sort it all out but I dont know if I can ever let the friend in my house again after the attempted Sabotage of my marriage.<P>Thank you for your prayers again<BR>Lesa <P>------------------<BR>maybe someday<P><p>[This message has been edited by LMS (edited December 30, 1999).]