This was a depressing chapter for me. My husband has a foul mouth, takes the Lord's name in vain all the time. It just makes me cringe and deeply hurts me when he says that. I try not to ever be critical of him, but when he takes God's name in vain I have said to him how much that bothers me. <P>Page 169, paragraph 2 - "have you been around a man who is angry, crass, or ungodly in his speech?" Yes, his name is my H. After re-reading this chapter I have realized yet another area that I <B>must</B> pray harder for my H. I have noticed considerable improvement in the way he talks to me since we reconciled, as he is nowhere near as disrespectful and verbally abusive to me as he was during the years prior. I attribute his recent change of talk to our prayers, asking for a softening of his heart. H did slip up bad Monday, night, called me a horrible cuss name, over something I had absolutely no control over (he set the security alarm off and had forgotten the password). Lizzie you would be proud of me - I calmly told him I would not stand for him talking to me that way, ever, and turned away. He apologized later. <P>This sentence hit me hard - "Listen to the way your husband talks. What comes out of his mouth has to do with the condition of his heart". This tells me I must pray more for the condition of my husband's heart; his heart must be full of negativity, anger, revenge, disrespect for others, and spite. As Stormie says, he is suffering from negative heart overflow. All the more reason for me to pray incessantly for his salvation, and conviction from the Holy Spirit. I don't want H to bring destruction and death into his life, or our lives!<P>I pray that H will no longer speak discouragement and painful words to me, my daughter, and our son. I pray that the Lord guards our husbands' mouths and gives them the right words to speak. Lord, please help our husbands speak words of encouragement, hope and love; show them how to express their feelings in a respectful way, even when they are upset. Thank you Lord, for working in our husbands hearts. IJN AMEN<BR>

Negative heart overflow is a statement that I had to pause on... Because of so many unresolved issues in my H, the anger, negative statements, cussing and all other non spiritual garbage constantly drips from his mouth... I think to pray for the heart condition is the correct perscription for the root of this problem and I'll be praying here also... First once again though, my thought goes to the fact that H needs to come to full repentance, then the other things will start to fall into place...<P>I have a hard time now just getting past H's repentance since this last ordeal occured, but I try to add other issues from these chapters also... My God is in control, but sometimes its just rough...<P>------------------<BR>Jesus is the only answer!<BR>His blessings, Cozy

Im with you on this one!!!<BR>Lets get him girls !!!! ( satan ) <BR>Where two or more are gathered, so there I shall also be!!!! <P>PTL!!!! <BR>chrissie

I've often been amazed that although there is a large percentage of the population that does not believe that Jesus Christ is who He says He is, they sure use His name a lot. I had a pator who once said when he heard Jesus' name used in vain, he would look at the individual and say. "Oh, you know Jesus too, or Is he a friend of yours' also"<BR>I never hear people say oh Mohammad, Oh Budda , or I don't even hear Oh satan. It says in the Bible that even though some preach the name with wrong motive it is still used. I know there is power even in just saying Jesus' name. I pray that what others use for evil God can use for good in others.<BR>

I am blessed with a husband who weighs his words. He doesn't talk alot but when he does you listen because it is usually worth listening to. I have often wished I was more like that,(I'm rather a motor-mouth!).<P>My h just finished a public speaking course which his company put him through. Well, we now have a changed man. He still weighs his words but he is much more confident when he wants to say something.<P>I have always felt that one day we together would be able to share how God brought us through this trial of infidelity. So, this is a praise for the possibility that is becoming more probable!<P>It would be such a waste of God's miracle to not be able to share it with others and help them through the same trial.<P>Blessings, Taj

Taj, I praise God for what he's doing in your husband's life!!! It inspires me to keep praying harder for my H. Your testimony will be such a powerful one for our Lord. You all have weathered such a bad storm, and came out the victors. One day soon I hope to say that my H has accepted Jesus as his Savior. I know God is working on his heart. His drinking has slacked off a lot in the last two weeks, and I can see a softer attitude towards me. Thank you Lord for speaking to my H's heart, and preparing his heart for You.<P>God's Blessings to each of you,<P>MTAW

Rootbeer,<P>I pray the same prayer for your husband. I am blessed with a husband that is saved. He still took us to hell and back again with his choices. Whether we live with a man who knows God in a personal way or not we do have the authority over the enemy. We can come boldly to the Throne of Grace and petition on behalf of our husbands.<P>I just finished reading Stormie's autobiography. If you haven't read it yet, do. She is the one who is inspiring all of us and her list of poor choices is longer then anyone I've ever heard of. God reached down and touched her and she has never been the same. We love a Mighty God, He is powerful to change lives and make them worthwhile. I believe we are so programmed to limit God due to our small faith that we with our own hand confine Him. God wants to heal and deliver, I must ask myself, "Do I really believe He can?"<P>God, save this man. He is caught in the web of the evil one. Show Yourself to him in a way which will truly get his attention. Reach into his heart and reveal yourself. Deliver him from the addiction which is eating him up. Father, release him and save him for Your glory. IJN

Thank you Taj for praying for David. It means so much to me to have people I have never met praying so earnestly for my husband to be saved. I just feel that the Lord wants me to pray without ceasing for him. <P>I know God is answering our prayers, because my H has been more affectionate lately, for the last couple of weeks he's been home right after work more frequently, and he's been spending the weekends at home with us. He talks a lot about our future, and is talking in the "we" mode as compared to his usual "I" mode. Most of all I have noticed a change in his attitude, a softening of his heart. Six months ago, he hated me, lived in a drunken stupor, wanted a divorce and to hurt me more that anything. The only words he spoke to me were angry words, and he cut me down to everyone who knew us. These dramatic changes are all from God, He is working on him, PTL!!! <P>What? You mean there is someone out there who has made more poor choices than me? I haven't read Stormie's autobiography yet, but I think I'll get it. Every time I read again in POPW I find another piece of her wisdom that inspires me. I just can't thank God enough for Stormie's books!<P>Thank you Lord, for working in our husbands' lives. I pray that You will guide them on the path that You want them to take, according to Your will. I pray that those with addictions will be delivered, those whose hearts have hardened be softened and readied to accept you, and that each husband's heart and mind is filled with loving thoughts of his wife, desiring only her. Thank you Lord, for this wonderful group of praying wives. IJN, AMEN