I am having a hard day today... H said it would be better if I left him alone for awhile, he is angry, depressed, and I don't know what to think... H said I should be prepared to listen when he finally does call.<P>I am praying that God is just touching him right now and causeing H to lay down in surrender at the foot of the cross! Pray with me.. Something is going on, and I want it to be a GOD THING!!<P>I need Gods peace today, and your joint prayers for this mess Ive been in for 5 years. Saturday is our 10th Anniversary, Im so sad that we may be spending it not speaking to each other... My heart is very heavy today.... Lord lift me up!!!!!!

Cozy, I'm praying hard for you right now! Hang in there. Don't give up. We are all here for you, and understand your pain. We love you and want to listen, and help any way we can.<P>Dear Heavenly Father, I pray with all my heart that you will give your peace that passes all understanding to Cozy, right now. Lord, she has been through such a horrendous trial, bless her abundantly for her unwaivering faith in You. Thank you Lord for convicting her husband, thank you Lord for sending the Holy Spirit to him. We praise you for with You we can do all things. Lord, calm Cozy, hold her tightly in your arms, comfort her until the pain and agony of this moment passes. Take away her husband's anger and depression Lord. Replace it with love and compassion for his wife Cozy and only her. Fill his heart, mind and soul with loving, comforting thoughts of Cozy. And, most of all call his name, asking that he totally commit his life to You. Thank you Jesus, we praise your Holy Name, IJN AMEN

AMEN AMEN AMEN........ Lord your will be done, let no man tear asunder what God has put together!<P>Thank you AW so much..... Im sick at my stomach cuz Im so frazzled by this... I hate it when it affects my eating and sleeping although I found St Johns wart and Melissa Balm really are calmers and help sleep... But Im still too sick in my stomach to think food. How come I let him do this to me? <P><P>------------------<BR>Jesus is the only answer!<BR>His blessings, Cozy

Hi Cozy,<P>I can tell you that my stomach matches yours today. I took the first step in setting boundaries and he is livid, swearing to beat the band, ranting horrible things. I feel so sick about it, but I know that this is important for our marriage. I really found a lot of wisdom in the Boundaries for Marriage book. It seemed to put together some insight into how Harley's principals are supposed to work, ESPECIALLY since my husband say the only one whose behavior needs changing is mine. I am praying for you and please pray for me. He frightens me when he is this way. Yes, Taj, and POGP, if I feel threatened, I promise I will leave the house.

Cozy,<BR>I had part of a day like that yesterday. I'm just very tired today and God has really kept the obsessive thoughts at bay. Maybe my brain is just too tired to think. (I stayed up all night writing a midterm paper). <BR>But cozy it is so hard when they distance themselves from us. I am dreading my anniversary this year also. This will be the first one to face since he actually moved out. Who knows maybe God has things planned to work out by then. Actually we have always celebrated June 1, the day we met more than our wedding Anniversary, I've never asked why but I wonder if he likes remembering the day we met but not necessarily the day we married. I know that sounds awful. But because of the depression he remembers things thru that lense these days. He has supposedly wanted out of the marriage (on and off) for a long time. So therefore the anniversary is not as pleasant. But he seems to associate the day we met with better times. I may be pulling stuff out of thin air but I like to try to figure out the behavior underbeneath. Well his was not meant to be about me.<BR>Father, we lift cozy up to you. Hold her tightly in your arms and let her feel your powerful presence. Touch her husband's heart and melt it. Light the fire of desire in his heart for his wife. Let her experience your peace and grace. Let her husband be ever uncomfortable where he is and realize that his marriage is a haven. Amen<P>Sue,<BR>I read that book, quite a while ago now. I'm not a person with good boundaries in some ways and in others I'm learning. I remember the thing I liked about it is it shows you how to set them in a Godly way. Think I'll have to get that book out again, muself.<BR>Father I lift Sue up to you now. Dropping a rock into a pond cause ripples to spread out from the impact and changes what it touches. Sue, has started to set boundaries and the ripples are uncomfortable for her husband. Wrap Sue in a hedge of protection until she and her husband get use to this new way of relating. Open her husband's heart to accept the changes and to see how both he and Sue can benifit. Bring Sue's husband closer to Yourself, Lord and work in His heart. We praise You, Lord, for you know You hear our prayers and that You are working on accomplising them right this minute. Amen

Dear Lord, please hold SueB tightly in your arms, protecting her from her husband's words. Place a hedge of protection around her today Lord, give her a strong shield of faith to fend off the enemy. Send the Holy Spirit to SueB's husband, convict him strongly about his ungodly behavior. Show him Lord, the way that You want him to relate to and treat his wife. Soften his heart towards You and SueB. Give SueB the strength she needs to do Your will in her marriage. Thank you Lord for working in SueB's husband's life and guiding SueB. We praise You Lord, and worship You. IJN I pray, AMEN. <P>Lord, I lift up Cozy to you this morning, asking that you fill her completely with the Holy Spirit. Thank you Lord for giving her peace in her heart and mind today Lord. Help her get through this day, with joy, the joy in her heart that comes from You. Please speak again to her husband's heart, filling his mind and heart with loving, happy thoughts of Cozy. Show him the err of his ways, bringing him to repentance. IJN I pray, AMEN<P>Dear Heavenly Father, I pray right now for hw, lifting her up to you for an infilling of the Holy Spirit. Be with her today Lord, giving her back the strength she needs to get through today. Thank you Lord for being with her and uplifting her while she worked on her paper. Thank you Jesus for keeping the obsessive thoughts at bay. We praise You Lord for speaking to Jack's heart, and filling his mind with loving thoughts of his wife, hw, and home. Thank you Lord, for sowing the seeds of discord between Jack and the OW. May Jack's relationship with the OW become so troubled, he runs home to hw, soon. We praise you Lord for being in our lives, helping us to walk Your path every day. Thank you Jesus, for all you have done. IJN, AMEN.

Just to let you know that your prayers were heard and God did protect me last night. He came in the house in a rage, slamming the door for emphasis! After praing first for the Spirit's guidance I went to the puter room and asked him how his day was and he answered, something he normally wouldn't do. I continued prying as we talked, for every salm or derogatory remark, I kept to the tipic at hand and spoke in a calm quiet voice. I worked hard at focusing on his feelings, repeating back what I would hear. I can't say anything was resolved but he did allow me to hug him and kiss him good night. He was polite this morning. Weekends are ususally tough for us, so please continue to pray for us. My counselor last night was pretty alarmed about his email to me and encouraged me to have an extra car key hidden to leave if necessary. As I prayed though, I was reminded that I had prayed for a husband like David, who had the heart of God. As I was thinking today, I have to admit that David was pretty much a jerk at times. But God loved him and saw the good in him and though David went down in the valley before he relinquished and turned back to God for mercy, God never stopped loving him. God sees the bigger picture here in our marriage. He is going to allow my husband to hit bottom. As a wife that needs to look out for his best interests, I have to change those things in me and set those limits that will be in our best interests as a couple. The nice thing about the Boundaries in Marriage book is that it details those things that I need to look at and self-assess how I am contributing to the problems by not setting boundaries. It has really been helpful to me. (Pages 207-208 HW) I really feel the Spirit making me more aware of these things and how I have allowed fear to permeate the situation.<P>Cozy, how are you doing? Did he call? What is going on? Father, thank you for loving us far more than we can ever imagine. Thank you for opening the doors for this group and others who are studying how to unleash the power that you gave to us against the evil one. Over and over you have told us that the battle is a spiritual one, that it reigns in the mind. Father help us to take captive our thoughts in this battle to yield the sword of your word against the enemy. Holy Spirit, teach us, quide us, lead in the way everlasting, show us how to be joyful while in the fire that we can be rid of the dross of this life and be women that glorify the Father. I especially lift up Cozy right now, that you fill her to overflowing with your comfort and peace so that she might be able, like the Proverbs 31 woman to smile at adversity, knowing you are working in her life. Continue to place your hedge of protection around us as we make the changes and stand firm for your righteousness to prevail in our lives. IJN.