Dear Carol & Joy,<P>First I want to say how sorry I am that your husband's have left you. I can completely relate to that. You are in the right place for prayer and support. Do not despair. My story is similar to yours.<P>My husband nor I were unfaithful, not a drinker, and not abusive, but for reasons of NON-communication and holding in problems when they first come up, he was no longer "in-love" with me. <P>I posted my original story back in March (read my story for more info if you'd like) Original: <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum25/HTML/000249.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum25/HTML/000249.html</A> <BR>Update: <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum25/HTML/000276.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum25/HTML/000276.html</A> <P>He told me he wanted to leave back in Jan. 00, he did - it only lasted 2 weeks, it was awful for our kids and myself & fam. BUT he too needed his space, time to understand, time to think. The more I talked to him about the "situation" the more distant he bacame, the more space I gave him, the more he missed me and the easier it became for him to realize where he belonged. <P>Believe me, I cried, begged, called, wrote letters...All those things were doing us no good. I started praying, leaving it up to God, but also started changing my approach, following the suggestions of Dr. Harley, and the "Power of A Praying Wife" people saw a difference in ME. So did my H. He was still afraid that it would chance the minute he returned (if he did). ...<P>Well make a long story short on March 17th we went out for St. Patty's Day, and when he went to drop me off at home, and asked (in tears) if he could return home, if I wanted him to come back? YES, YES, YES...was my answer. We have never been happier, we DON'T stop talking, my attitude has not changed. I am not the nasty, short tempered person I once became. The Lord is with me (us) every step of the way!<P>The support of my friends at MB was amazing. Only 2 of our closests couples friends knew, plus our parents. It was so good to come here and get advice from people who understood and could relate and just listen or give advice...<P>Pray every day, with all the Faith you have. Get closer to God and let Him show you the way. In order to help your h's I think (from experience) that you have to give them the space (and believe me I didn't want to!). But never loose Faith in the Lord.<P>Keep us posted!<BR>Your sister in Christ,<BR>Pookie~

Dear Pookie,<BR>Thanks for taking the time to support and encourage me.<P>I have been happy for you that your h came back,since your post stating that, and I pray everyday for God to continue to restore your marriage.<BR>You were really blessed that he came home so soon!<P>Well, off to dreamland for me.<BR>It was a rough day- a lot of heavy grieving.<P>Thank you for your prayers, Pookie.<P>God bless you,<BR>Joy<BR>