Hi y'all. Let's all give an update and our prayer request for this week's Tuesday cyber tea and prayer time. I'm looking forward to praying together! <P>Update: H is living temporarily and working in CA. Doesn't seem to miss me yet. Still has not started his batterers intervention counseling sessions. Since he is in CA, we have not been able to continue marriage counseling with Dr. Harley. I miss my husband terribly. David did go to church with me on Mother's Day. Says he quit drinking during the week and is just drinking on weekends. I feel disconnected from him since he is so far away. And did I mention I am very lonesome for my H and miss him very much? Answered prayer: I was feeling bad yesterday evening, so I prayed for peace and for my H, asking the Lord to fill his heart and mind with thoughts of home, and less than a minute after I finished praying, he called. PTL!!!!<P>Prayer Request: I pray that the Lord continues to work in David's life, bringing him to brokenness before the Lord in repentance, seeking Him, asking God to be Lord of his life forever. I pray that Holy Spirit filled Christians are placed in David's path every which way he turns to witness to him. I pray that the Lord continues to prepare his heart for salvation. I praise God for sending David to church with me, and for softening his heart. I pray that David will have a deep longing to come home right away, and that he misses me terribly. I pray that each time David closes his eyes he sees my son's and my face. I pray that the Lord instructs him as he sleeps, I pray that the Lord fill his heart to overflowing with love for me, his wife. Thank You so very much. <BR>

Please pray for me. My life is a mess. My priorities may be getting mixed up again. Am having a little trouble with one of my children too.<P>Thank you so much for your prayers for my H. The Lord has answered our pleas. He is continuing to become a better husband, slowly but surely. I pray that he open his mind and heart to messages from servants of the Lord who are placed in his way.

I would just like to thank everyone for your prayers. My h and I are getting along better. So keeps us in your prayers. Lord I pray today that you erase doubt from my h heart and fill it with love and compassion, and give him a forgiving heart. Build are marriage up Lord bring us closer togehter and closer to you. I thank you Lord for removing the mean sprirt from our home and I pray that peace and love will remain in our home. Keep my family together. I praise you for what you are doing in my life I pray for another blessed, and for harmony in peace in our home. amen

Update:<BR>We are intently discussing Guard moving home. Our 14 year old has told me she doesn't want him back in the house...fears he'll leave again, as do I, so I have difficulty reassuring her. Guard has spent time talking alone with her. <P>I did wrong last week and called my friend the EA. It met no needs, probably the most superficial and shortest conversation we've ever had. Guard discovered that I had called (how?). As he broke up and went back to his OW 3-4 times, this brings his own bad memories to the fore, plus makes him want to run from me again.<P>This should reassure those on this board that deeds done in secret will be revealled for those that pray...<P>Somedays I think I fear my marriage getting back together almost as much as I fear it ending. These 2 years have taken an awful toll.<P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Let love be genuine...hold fast to what is good; love one another." Rom 12:9-10

Hi.....<P>Update:... my H got home from business/pleasure trip.... still very distant... still has OW.(he wasn't with her)<P>Prayer Request...<BR>that the lord trouble his heart for what he is doing...destroy that sexual bond, that relationship he has with the OW. Get her a new man(not married) but get her out of the picture... remind my H of the vows he made befor the lord to love me forever... Instruct him as he is sleeping..working cuttint the grass... I'm praying for all day long... I pray that the Lord will lift the fog on my H so he can see me in a loving way... destroy all thoaughts of divorce in his mind and heart... put a hedge of protection with thorns and the blood of Jesus christ aroung this family and around my H... I pray that my H does not leave a legacy of divorce for my children.<P>Remember as in Malachi 2:16... The Lord hates divorce...... Yes, the lord can changes our hearts and I pray that he changes my H's heart....<P>I also need comfort and strength at this this time.....<P>I know that all of this is on our Lords time... Yes, I'm asking him to speed up this a bit... I have gone through this for 7 months now and I want to start the healing here... to get our family back on track... I pray that the Lord Change me to be a good wife, mother, friend and partner.....<P>Thanks.........scoick

hi ladies,<BR>update: in counsling since Feb. h depressed<BR>drinking excessively he is not "in love" and has issues, about my weight and laziness in housekeeping etc. I have improved and so has our relationship. I am impatient for answers, about his love and commitment. I have been using plan A even though I feel quite sure there is no affair. Except the one I had with food, and the one he has with alcohol.<BR> Well it seems I didn't spoil everything,by letting my fear and hurt show last week.<BR> God is working it out for the better.<BR>Mike suggested I see our counsler alone last night, since our son had the flu, and he said maybe it would do me good to "get things off my chest" It did,,,,,,,,,what a blessing. I also have more confidence in our counsler, I was beginning to feel, like my feelings didn't matter, we were just there to help H I even imagined he was helping H to make leaving easier on me! Not so,he was just encouraging me to do plan A ( he quotes alot from Willard Harley's book.) and also the counslers opinion is H is not going to leave, I just need to be patient longer. As other things in his life, fall back into place, so will his love for me. I need to show him I mean to remain changed.<BR> I will wait as long as necessary. Thanks for being there for me, I pray for all of you daily, by names I can remember and all of MB forum in general.<BR>We are flying to Florida, Disneyworld, tomorrow as a family, my prayer requests are that we will have fun, be safe, and remember that we are united by God and not to be split. And that we can put our emotional stuff with each other, aside and enjoy each others company and make more steps toward restoring our LOVE. I pray these things in Jesus, name Amen

Well, here's my update. My H of 11 years is still living on his own (since January). He is totally dedicated to this new path he is on which includes giving up everything...his newly-built house, his family - Mom, me, his dogs, everything except his job....and pursuing the OW and some new life out there. He has no friends and has cut everyone out of his life except her. We still talk on the phone once in a while and e-mail sometimes. We don't have kids, so nothing to keep us in contact with each other. We haven't taken any real steps towards divorce or legal separation, except that he's moved out...all our finances, etc. are the same.<P>The thing is, most of the time, he is "nice" to me...very cordial and always asking how I'm coping. He says he cares about how this is affecting me and has recently (once on the phone and once in an e-mail) said he loves me and to hang in there. I ask him how he can say that and still be doing what he is doing...but he just says he has to do this and he's sorry that it hurts me.<P>However, he just won't talk about us getting back together and working on things. He says it's too late...he's already gone down this other path.<P>So my prayer request is that God will convict his heart and give him the desire to not only seek God, but to do what is right. And to give him the strength, courage and wisdom to break off relations with this other woman. My H has a few "demons" from his past that he has to deal with (alcohol, his relationship with his Mom), but with God's help I know he can get thru them. I really believe God's put me in his life to help him....not to save him, but to be a helpmeet for him. <P>So my H has a choice here: to face up to some of the things he's always run away from and not dealt with or to run away again, just trashing everything in his life and starting over (which he and his Mom have done repeatedly thru-out their lives and he hates her for that). I pray that God will give him the will and strength to face up to these things.<P>Thanks.<BR>Mrs. O

Update: Thanks to our Lord, everything is fine at home. Husband and I can't be happier. We consciously talk about our needs, and enjoy it too. We both realized how much we could have lost if we didn't listen to each other with open heart.<P>Lord, I pray for my sisters at MB that their lives follow your example. Please continue working on David (AW) that he may miss her and want to make things better. Also please pray for w.p.ug. while she has filed for her divorce. Give her strength and hold her tight. I thank you Lord for watching over us. We have everything to be greatful for.<BR>JNAmen<BR>Pookie~

prayer request:<BR>Please pray for my patience in dealing with my H. He still doesn't know what he wants. I miss him so! The girls are lost without him. Pray that he will find a way closer to the Lord and open his heart and mind to him. This board has been a life saver for me. I was ready to throw in the towel and after a week here, I'm ready to fight again! I just wish I knew how!

Well, update is that ow is still here and will probably be here until the end of next weekend, though I voiced my complaint. That since she is here for every holiday weekend and days he has extra off the kids don't get to see him. But we will see. He says we are still dating and I got a better then light kiss on the lips at his office today, so go figure. I really want to sit down and talk but it is near impossible with her here. They just don't think straight/.<P>My prayer request is that they both wake up and look at each other and say. "This just isn't working is it." and then it is over. I give it all to God. I have been praying the lose and bind prayer I got for my husband. That he would be loosed from the adultry, depression, this women and be bound to God and those things from God. Pray that he is miserable when he is with her. It seemed like that prayer was being answered last week. Increase his guilt and desire for God and for me.<BR>I also ask for prayer for a couple, she is my friend. Her name is Lisa and his is Wes. She has met someone on line and she is having a hard time thinking about ending it, and her husband is wanting to win her back, so I have been talking to them both for the last two days.<BR>Please keep both of them in prayer. Pray she can get out of it, and that he has patience for this thing to run it's course. Pray they both come closer to Jesus. If I don't make it to Cyber tea, because I am talking to her I will be praying for you all afterwards. <p>[This message has been edited by hw (edited May 23, 2000).]