I really need God's wisdom in this and would appreciate your prayers.<P>Our counselor is making it very difficult for us to continue with her. She encouraged me to get out of the house and get a job and now that I have done that there is a conflict in scheduling appointments.<P>She chooses not to work on Fridays and that is my only day off. She says we just have to decide if this is important to us to take time off of work.<P>Duh! How many people can just take time off from a new job?<P>My h is ready to call it quits and I feel like this counselor has just opened "Pandoras Box". I feel we really need to continue, but maybe God is intervening......<P>If the Lord would rather have us stop then I need that sense of His peace. Sometimes I can't figure out whether the enemy is putting obstacles in the way or the Lord is telling us to turn and go another way.<P>It has been such a long hard road so far and I finally felt like the end was in sight. I am feeling very angry toward this therapist as I feel she has a responsibility to us as her patients. <P>Thanks for lending me your shoulders!<P>Taj

I do have a problem with therapists who only keep traditional business hours--who do they deal with? Only the unemployed?<P>Taj, maybe there is a better counselor out there? Ours schedules us at 8am, he's met my H for lunch, but since he was/is a pastor, he has a pastor's heart, so maybe we're just lucky.<P>If you need a third party, God will provide.<P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Let love be genuine...hold fast to what is good; love one another." Rom 12:9-10

Taj,<BR>I am going to school to get a master's in social work to become a therapist. From what you are saying I have a problem with her attitude also. I don't know that she is dumping you per say but it does seem like she is not being very sensitive to clients she has had for a while. As a therapist in training, I wil say that I think the best thing would be to come right out with what you are feeling. The fact that it seems like she doesn't want to work with you any more. If this is the case what is it about the situation that makes her feel she can;t work with you both any more/.<BR>Also if this is the case, that you perceive her attitude as such then maybe you have outgrown what she can offer to the both of you, and maybe God is leading you some where else to someone else.<BR>I agree therapy and restoration of a marriage is hard enough. You expect the therapist to help not hinder the situation. But in therapy everything means something, and that should be explored. In other words talk to her about this. If she can't or won't then it is definately time to move on.<BR>Good luck and I will lift prayers up for you.<P>Father,<BR>Therapy is pleanty hard enough. Lord, lead Taj to talk to the therapist about what she is feeling and explore why it seems she doesn't want to work further with them. Lord, if it is time to move on then Lord, open the door for a new therapist and provide for the continued restoration of tis marriage. Give Taj the peace she seeks in the alternatives of the situation. Continue to draw Taj and her husband closer to each other and closer to You. In Jesus name, Amen.

Taj, I am so sorry you all are having a time with the therapist. My former therapist would not be flexible in her schedule either. I stopped going to see her because I always had to take off work to go and didn't want to use up all my vacation time. Besides, I felt I got better counseling from the greatest Counselor, the Lord, and here on this board. My old therapist just chit-chatted about what I had done the previous week. No real advice from her.<P>What pops into my head after reading your post is that the Lord is leading you and Mike to seek counseling elsewhere. I will be praying for you both, that He will lead you to the right counselor for you. <P>Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for being the great Counselor, Comfortor, Savior. We praise You in the highest, and give all the glory to You. Lord we honor and worship You, hoping to become closer to You. We love You Lord. You are our King. Lord I pray that You will guide Taj and her husband through this situation. Lord, please place upon their hearts Your word concerning what to do about the therapist. Lord, please open the doors for them that lead down the right path, the path You have chosen for them. Lord, I pray that Your will is done in this situation. Thank You Lord, we place all our faith and trust in You. IJN AMEN

I don't know what state you are in, but in Texas if a counselor refuses to schedule an appointment with a client, that counselor can be deemed to have "abandoned" the client. In Texas, this is grounds to have one's license revoked. <P>I would suggest that you have one more session, and at that session explain that you are only able to meet on Fridays, and if she is unwilling to meet you, she needs to refer you to a counselor who is willing to meet at that time. If she refuses this, I would then file a formal complaint with the licensing board of whatever state you are in. <P>Some counselors seem to forget that they are in the "helping" profession and the world does not revolve around them. Her implication that YOU must take off work in order to improve your marriage is not only insensitive, it is extremely unprofessional. The condescending comment that you need to decide if this is "important" is very improper, and if I were you, I would document the date and time when she said this for future reference. She is a counselor, not a parent, and had no business ordering you around this way. <P>There are far too many counselors that are willing to work with your schedule for you to accept this kind of treatment. <P>I am sorry to barge into the Women's Bible Study, but this kind of treatment from a suppposed "professional" really burns me up.<P>May the Lord Bless You and Keep You,<BR>John

Thank You to everyone for your responses. At least now I feel somewhat justified in my reaction. <P>Lor, Yes, I agree, God will provide. This morning I felt like I needed to really hand this mess over to Him...He is able.<P>hw, I appreciate your professional opinion. Maybe it is time to move on, it is just that this therapist has caused Mike to open up to things that he has never faced before and it really is the first time we have had ANY success with counseling.<P>Rootbeer, your prayers always touch my heart and minister to the problem at hand. <P>John, men are always welcome and we are glad you feel free to join in. I appreciate so much your comments and will try and yet arrange a time to talk about my concerns with this therapist. I am so glad you posted, I felt dumped and couldn't figure out how she could "open the wound" and then leave us hanging before we were healed. <P>I do now have peace to pursue this a bit further. As for finding another therapist, we live in the boonies and it is pretty hard to find one to begin with. <P>God will provide whatever we need. <P>Blessings, Taj<P><BR><P>------------------<BR>"Perfect love casts out fear" I John 4:18